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My wife/keyholder locked me up almost a year ago. It’s been pretty much 24/7, minus a few times when I couldn’t be locked up. While I love her owning and controlling “it”, my erections and orgasms, and I love it when I get to the point of needing to just touch her, I get the feeling she’s not totally on-board but more often than not she seems to enjoy it.

My current problem is that when she does unlock me for sex, I’ve been locked up for a while and my penis is super sensitive and I “get there” way too soon. I do my best to hold out but I fear I am neglecting her and her pleasure because she already has me on the edge.

Any ideas?

Thanks!
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We use a strap on Vixskin dildo to make sure she's not missing out on anything. With the right harness, there is no need to be out of the cage while she get's as much as she wants.
I have no answer for being very sensitive after being locked up for so long, perhaps getting unlocked the day before would take some of the edge off.
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Plus one for Vixskin, MsM has used nothing else (including me) for about 4 years now. Of course that means you don’t “get any” at all !!!

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slave d wrote: Wed Jan 13, 2021 3:39 pm Of course that means you don’t “get any” at all !!!

MsM’s ld
Not neccessarily :D I've been led to believe that I'll get some this year3-6 maybe, but as @Hussman767 mentioned, it won't last as long as it did before chastity. Last time she chuckled at how fast I was... :oops:
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What about de-sensitizing creams or sprays? I haven't tried any, but I have heard some success stories. Or what about doubling or tripling up with condoms? After all,it's not about you having pleasure, it's about hers.
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Tried using a desensitizing condom, lasted about 20 seconds. :evil:
So next time I tried two desensitizing condoms, made it about twice as long. :twisted:
So I figured if I put on six desensitizing condoms I could go a full 2 minutes. :lol:

Purchased some desensitizing spray. Not really sure how effective it was. After spraying you need to wait for it to absorb and also you don't want to desensitize your partner. :shock:
While I waited I went flaccid. Kinda lost the moment for both of us.

We also have a Vixskin and she will indulge me now and then by asking me to use it, but she tells me she prefers the real thing.

When I'm allowed PIV I just take it slow. Pace myself. If I feel I'm close I will slow down or stop. Sometimes I will even pull out and use my fingers or tongue to keep her attention and reinsert when I feel I've calmed down.
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We also have a Vixskin and she will indulge me now and then by asking me to use it, but she tells me she prefers the real thing.
Here's my professional tip about the Vixskin:

I fill a thermos mug with hot tap water, and put the Vixskin into it 20 to 30 minutes before bed. This will get the surface temp up to 110 degrees, and the internal temp up close to body temp. If you wear it in a harness, put your harness on first to warm it up but don't attach the Vixskin until you're ready for the main event. The warmth upon first entering is a big part of what makes it feel more "real."
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Yep, MsM has two Vixskins (actually 3 cos She has an anal small one too), one for hand use for masturbation and one (with a bit of a curve) for the strap on harness that She likes for cowgirl position. Both go in a container of hot water for 5 minutes at least before use. The best i’ve had in the past 3 plus years is to “dip” my little dickie (that’s why i’m called ld) in Her hot, wet, swollen hole after the Vixskins have given Her 4 or 5 orgasms. MsM let’s me dip it in about once every six months so i don’t forget what i’m not allowed. i might get away with a quiet thrust or two before being pushed firmly away with a “now we don’t want you cumming do we little dickie” from MsM .... no Miss !!

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Use your tongue more.

And, one other thing...we had some HSA money to burn before the end of the year (use it or lose it) so one of the things we purchased was a new TENS unit. After a few days of experimentation, I have found that by cutting down (2) 2" square pads by about a third each, and working up to maximum current using various types of modulated pulse width and frequency, after a while 'Little Willy' gets number than a sack of hammers.

It works far better than any numbing creme and there is no residue to transfer to the wife.
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Well, I did try a strap-on… hollow so I could fit inside it and it vibrates.
I thought it was damn hot BUT it is way too big (long)! It was very uncomfortable for her and she hated it. :-(
I guess I should’ve gotten a more realistic sized one, that would wear “over” my cage.
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