Matrix of chastity

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Re: Matrix of chastity

Post by Schnoff » Sat Mar 09, 2019 11:59 am

> The first of these is orgasm denial to varying degrees, otherwise the term "chastity" would be inapplicable and we'd be calling ourselves something else.

I actually think it’s hilarious that the kink is called “chastity”, when the behavior is anything but chaste. I’m cool with it, I just think it’s funny.

“Chastity” is as I understand it originally a Roman Catholic term and means to behave according to the sexual mores of the Church. When married, that means having unprotected sex with one’s spouse, without birth control. When not married, that means being continent, that is, not having sex at all.

Any kind of kinky play is definitely not chaste ;). Nor is masturbation. The Church is a bit uptight that way.
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Re: Matrix of chastity

Post by Tom Allen » Sat Mar 09, 2019 12:37 pm

I've been saying for years that "chastity devices" are mislabeled sex toys.
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Re: Matrix of chastity

Post by jfenoffti » Tue Mar 12, 2019 9:23 am

CagedKC wrote:
Tue Mar 05, 2019 1:30 pm
... she still wants me to be a man....think caged beast. A lot of excitement when you open the cage and let the beast out. 😏
Same here - her words exactly.
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Re: Matrix of chastity

Post by Lady M » Tue Mar 26, 2019 6:16 am

jfenoffti wrote:
Tue Mar 12, 2019 9:23 am
CagedKC wrote:
Tue Mar 05, 2019 1:30 pm
... she still wants me to be a man....think caged beast. A lot of excitement when you open the cage and let the beast out. 😏
Same here - her words exactly.
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Re: Matrix of chastity

Post by cuyahoga » Wed Mar 27, 2019 10:00 am

I like where Steve2059 went with it. It’s similar to my feelings on it.

I think of my sex life (and all of my desires and processes) as one sheet of paper that exists by itself. It is always there. Sometimes, another sheet gets laid in top, called denial. The first sheet shod still be there, but under the filter? of denial. And then a third sheet can be laid down, called chastity. Again, the first two sheets are still there. Without the base sheets, the upper sheets don’t work.

I guess denial and chastity are like filters applied to my sexuality. Modifiers, but not bases.

That makes less sense to me typed out, lol.
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Re: Matrix of chastity

Post by gilesenglish » Wed Mar 27, 2019 12:17 pm

OK so suppose there are main streams of male chastity, probably harmonious with the baseline sexuality of the wearer and hopefully his partner:

Hard Chastity - basically castration lite. "What penis?"

Flirty Chastity - all about the tease and denial and ruined orgasms.

Champagne Cork Chastity - all about unlocking to unleash that pent up manly desire.

Sissy Chastity - all about the transformation and the shifting of erotic satisfaction to anal pleasures.
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Re: Matrix of chastity

Post by cuyahoga » Wed Mar 27, 2019 3:04 pm

That’s awesome. I want to be somewhere between Hard and Flirty.

... and that’s a dirty sentence.
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Re: Matrix of chastity

Post by peter_rabbit » Wed Apr 10, 2019 4:29 am

I made a matrix once in Excel and tried to track two dimensions. I created it late 2008 when I first stumble on Thumper’s blog (as another rabbit into chastity). I had it password locked and forgot the password, so now I’m in permanent denial of that spreadsheet. :)

Now I think of different aspects of chastity.

One dimension is the standard sequence of male masturbation of their penis.

Orgasm Denial
Emission Denial
Edging Denial
Masturbation Denial
Erection Denial

Besides events, you can count durations:
One can measure the *past* time denied.
One can count down to a future finite time.
One can agree for an indefinite time duration.
One can assert intent for a permanent state.


Second, besides being denied, you can “merely” be controlled

You can have all your orgasms, emissions, edges, masturbation and erections controlled.


Third, the method how...

Hands free / mental
Your own touch, self and uncontrolled
Your own touch, but partner guided / supervised
Partner’s: hand, mouth, pussy, ass, cock, word...

There’s more dimensions but I’ll stop here.

For example,
I’ve been under self masturbation and self orgasm control since 2014. I’m two years into a vow to make her control permanent. I’m struggling with stricter no touch rules recently. But I’ve only had my erections controlled and denied by chastity for just 19 days straight. Regardless of device I’ve had orgasms denied 88 days.
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Re: Matrix of chastity

Post by Tom Allen » Wed Apr 10, 2019 11:52 am

Something that popped in my head the other day, is that when Mrs Edge closes the lock, the device is locked on and stays on. She doesn't take me out to "play with me," or say :Well, maybe I'll let you come next week," or anything like that. So for us, enforced chastity is synonymous with orgasm denial.

Obviously, other couples handle it differently.
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Re: Matrix of chastity

Post by locked4her55 » Wed Apr 10, 2019 12:03 pm

Tom Allen wrote:
Wed Apr 10, 2019 11:52 am
Obviously, other couples handle it differently.
and with some couples, it doesn't get handled at all. ;)
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