Excess energy?

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Excess energy?

Post by jnuts » Wed Jan 19, 2011 9:50 pm

Ok guys. Anyone else find that after a week or so without orgasm, you start to get a little jittery? I feel like I'm on speed or something. I have all this extra energy and since I'm sitting on my ass all day at work, I get home and have no outlet. So I end up just sitting on my ass some more, surfing sites that I really shouldn't while encased in metal, go to sleep, wake up, do it again. Anyone else get like this?

It's like I'm spending my whole day hoping for something I'm not going to get and I don't know what to do with myself. Not bitching, it is one hell of a high, but it is almost like I'm so focused on her pussy that I can't focus on anything. Meanwhile, the house is a mess, I have stuff I should be doing (going to the gym, practice guitar, take out the garbage) and I can't bring myself to do any of it.

WTF?
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Post by justplaying » Thu Jan 20, 2011 9:21 am

Totally can relate to that.... The problem is that not being allowed to orgasm has your brain focused on what you cannot have. The only advice I can give you is to not surf the web, make a to do list and force yourself to complete it every day. IF you constantly focus your attention on getting pussy, your brain will not let it go. We humans are programmed to answer the call at all costs. You will have to shut it down by not feeding it hope. : ) Good luck....I was doing well for about one week and today....I am struggling with the same issue...jp
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Post by michaelnmelissa » Thu Jan 20, 2011 9:24 am

I know the struggle friend.

I've found that staying physically active helps. Exercise is good. My wife thinks my cleaning the house is good! Also, some home renovations we're doing is keeping me busy.

I have found that I am less able to sit and read like I used to.

I am on day 22 with no relief soon. I've found so far that 10-14 days is my really difficult time. Right now, I am kind of in a zen like mood. When I cum, I cum. That may change though.

Michael
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Post by danj » Thu Jan 20, 2011 2:47 pm

michaelnmelissa wrote:Right now, I am kind of in a zen like mood.

Michael
Ah, that would be what Dev describes as "Chastity Nirvana" on her blog.
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Post by fuzzydunlop » Thu Jan 20, 2011 3:13 pm

Totally relate to that, as well as that about 5-14 days are toughest. I am on 7 days right now. Part of it is just working through things, but if you can direct your focus somewhere else-like hard work or exercise, it helps. Also, focusing energy away from the pussy helps. Massaging my wife and her feet helps sometimes. Kissing her neck has helped---but you have to savor it for what it is rather than foreplay for sex. My wife is like steak---she always tastes good, but she is extra tender and savory after a week of MC.
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Re: Excess energy?

Post by Tom Allen » Thu Jan 20, 2011 4:52 pm

Weightlifting. Lots of bench presses and deadlifts...
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Post by Risca » Fri Jan 21, 2011 12:03 am

"Practicing male orgasm denial means that the man is always horny.
This becomes a problem when his erotic energy becomes so high that it disrupts normal life. This might manifest itself as an inability to properly concentrate when at work, forgetting to buy items while on a shopping trip, or an inability to pay attention."

I copied that from a website. It sums it up well. It is a major problem for me. It causes huge problems at work, can't concentrate properly and mistakes happen, boss gets furious. It particularly is a problem if I'm sitting opposite a young lady on the train going to work and she is a stunner showing acres of stockinged leg, and especially if a bit of stocking top is showing! I can't think straight, concentration shot to pieces, can't get her out of my mind, I'm flustered, all to pieces really. No good at work that day.
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Post by kpb57 » Fri Jan 21, 2011 4:37 am

Risca, I can somehow second that.

I get to a point where my thoughts seem to run in circles, and my empathy seems to vanish. A very innocent remark by my wife hit me right in the stomach and led me to a snappy, totally uncalled-for reply, followed by fall into a big mental "black hole". After being unlocked, I was unable to perform, and it took me several days to get out of the funk.
And that after just 1 1/2 days of being locked in.

That was the point I referred to in my "Intro" post on this forum as an "initial bump".

After that sobering experience we went to the current regime of daily release.

Lesson learned: longer term denial is not for everyone, and take small steps into uncharted territory.
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Post by Atone » Fri Jan 21, 2011 7:45 am

Risca wrote: It particularly is a problem if I'm sitting opposite a young lady on the train going to work and she is a stunner showing acres of stockinged leg, and especially if a bit of stocking top is showing! I can't think straight, concentration shot to pieces, can't get her out of my mind, I'm flustered, all to pieces really. No good at work that day.
It is funny how differently people respond to things. My response has been almost the opposite of this, at least after the first month or so.

The first month of being caged I would get horny all the time. I would get attempted erections when I saw someone attractive or even thought about it. I mentioned once how the cage was convenient, I could get an erection and no one else would even know. After a while though I got used to it and my body knew it couldn't really become erect so I didn't even try. Now about the only time I get an attempted erection (other than nocturnals) is when I am physically active with my wife. Even then I have had times where I was taking care of her and didn't get physically aroused.

I just realized that only describes my physical response. My mental response is fairly similar though. It took a little longer than a month to get there but "chastity" and sex don't occupy my mind any more now than they did prior. In some ways it has actually made it easier to "put aside" something than in the past. For example if some the guys are sharing photos someone sent them I used to join in. Now I usually just keep on with what I was doing, they don't really do that much for me. My preference for "porn" is much more of the erotic, intimate, loving, type. Naked girls with big boobs just doesn't do it anymore, there has to be some substance to it.

-A
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Re: Excess energy?

Post by jnuts » Fri Jan 21, 2011 10:16 am

Porn doesn't really do anything for me anymore because it is really only my wife that turns me on now. Erotic stories are different because I can mentally substitute the characters with us.
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