I feel like this is sort of a contradiction, my idea of chastity is to be unable to pull out, or at least difficult. If it is so easy to pull out, why wear one at all? The idea is for it to be removed as an option. The play and fantasy of it comes from my partner being in control, which I definitely do not get sick of!Shepherdsflock wrote:If you are pulling yourself out, why are you bothering with chastity devices?...
If you view a chastity device as simply a masturbation challenge to be overcome, you should probably consider some other kind of sex play. You'll get tired of chastity real quick if your heart is not set on it.
For me its not about a commitment to not masterbating, it is more about my partner being in control. We get off on that sort of control play.chasteboi wrote: I find the cage to be a strong deterrent in moments of temptation. I'm not tempted to pull out when flaccid. It's when I'm hard and want to masturbate that the cage keeps me from doing anything. I can't pull out if I'm hard.
Exactly. The idea is that the control be in the hands of my partner and not myself. So it is not about me having to be disciplined and obey. Instead it is about being unable without my partners consent. It is about my partners control, not a test of my own discipline.TwistedMister wrote: For some [of us], the Holy Grail is *can't*. We don't want to have to make a 'choice'. Having a choice implies some measure of control, which is the exact element we want removed.
I didn't have thoughts that it would be impossible per se, but that it would at least be difficult. But yes this is a control based sex play, so being able to easily escape the device is not conducive to the fantasy. I am not after anything too unrealistic when it comes to these devices, more so I am after advice of how to achieve that balance of comfort and security. I am willing to concede the idea of complete security as fantasy, and not achievable. However, in the case of this device, there was no struggle, it was defeated in a second.Tom Allen wrote: ...We've seen here a few times that some of the guys finally get their partners on board to try it, and then discover that they can pull out, or can orgasm in the device - and then it kills the mood for everyone because they had the idea that a device would make it impossible.