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Why Anal?

Post by L&N » Thu Feb 17, 2011 4:26 pm

I've read a lot of blogs and this forum and am left with a few questions. I have never participated in any anal play at all and wonder what it's all about. Why does it feel good or why is it desirable, besides the role-reversal/humbling/humiliation aspects? Also, how does one deal with the smell and possible messyness? I have already read the topic "Pegging", so I'm aware of the cautions written there. Is there anything else I should know about the activity? Yep, I'm a newbie to this particular subject. Thanks.
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Re: Why Anal?

Post by Dev » Thu Feb 17, 2011 4:33 pm

Hi L&N,

I am going to move this over to the general chastity chat forum, since it's a good question and not fiction. Thanks!

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Re: Why Anal?

Post by Dev » Thu Feb 17, 2011 4:50 pm

My husband and I enjoy anal play and have for a long time, and it has nothing to do with role reversal or humiliation.

For him, he's got a prostate and I can reach it with my finger (or a dildo) and massage it. From the way he quivers and moans, I gather it feels completely different than anything else I do to him.

For me, when he plays with my ass, it feels hot and tight and completely different than playing with my pussy. In fact, I really enjoy his tongue on my ass (rimming) and his fingers on my clit. It just feels great.

As for messyness and smell: soap and water are your friends. We also have a little enema kit and can make that part of our play. Just warm water, no need for anything harsh or chemical. We also have little wipes we keep handy if needed for a quick clean up. Face it, sex of all kinds is messy, not just anal. Accept that and make it part of the game.

Number one rule: you can't use too much lube. Make sure you have plenty and use it liberally. Also, go slow and allow lots and lots of warm up. Start small, pay attention, give muscles time to relax. My husband and I mostly have anal play with our smaller dildos and the small end of the njoy pure wand. We also have two butt plugs from njoy: 1" and 1 1/2". I can't wear the larger one, but he can. Pictures of women jamming monster cocks up mens' asses--I guess that happens but not in our home. LOL.

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Re: Why Anal?

Post by L&N » Thu Feb 17, 2011 5:07 pm

Thanks Dev. I didn't realize the mistake of posting in the wrong place. Thanks for the info too.

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Re: Why Anal?

Post by Atone » Fri Feb 18, 2011 7:25 pm

Dev wrote: For me, when he plays with my ass, it feels hot and tight and completely different than playing with my pussy. In fact, I really enjoy his tongue on my ass (rimming) and his fingers on my clit. It just feels great.
oh my. This and you lock his cock, and paddle his ass. I don't know what to say other than I sure am envious.

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Re: Why Anal?

Post by Dev » Fri Feb 18, 2011 9:27 pm

Atone wrote: oh my. This and you lock his cock, and paddle his ass. I don't know what to say other than I sure am envious.

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Well, now my cheeks are red... :oops: :oops:

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Re: Why Anal?

Post by Dev » Sat Feb 19, 2011 8:33 am

Doing a little early morning reading here on anal sex, pooping, and other interesting subjects...

Squatting on the potty during a BM helps to prevent hemorrhoids:

http://www.slate.com/id/2264657/#add-comment

Women love anal sex:

http://www.slate.com/id/2270622/pagenum/all/#p2

More on the increasing popularity of anal sex:

http://www.slate.com/id/2269951/#add-comment

I like this comment from "Guest."

The rise in anal sex is partly due to men being more willing to spend time getting their partners in the mood, cunnilingus had led to more anal mouth stimulation, followed by lubrication gentle fingering and loosening with butt plugs.

What lies at the bottom of this is that men get their satisfaction from having their women orgasm. They have taken the trouble to explore all avenues.

Sounds like something we've all been figuring out, doesn't it? ;)
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Re: Why Anal?

Post by michaelnmelissa » Sat Feb 19, 2011 9:09 am

Melissa and I have much enjoyed anal sex over the years - including rimming, which is not for everyone. But, we like it. Lately, rimming has become something I do for her to show her my submission. She's stopped doing it for me.

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Re: Why Anal?

Post by Celtic Queen » Sat Feb 19, 2011 4:18 pm

I'd add two things to the growing body of good advice.

Firstly, use a condom over a dildo. Much cleaner and simpler to deal with. Yes, it's messy but that's why latex was invented. Enemas are a whole subset of play too.

Secondly, how humiliating / degrading etc you find it depends on your own relationship with your bottom ;-)
Hub quickly found that the sensations pegging gave him quickly overcame his early reticence about anal contact. Now he's a complete butt slut (only for me ofcourse...).
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Re: Why Anal?

Post by Dev » Sat Feb 19, 2011 5:42 pm

Prompted by this thread and a blog post from L&N, I decided to do a little blogging myself:

http://devotedlvr.com/2011/02/19/a-snap ... e-us-2010/

Enjoy!

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