Honor system vs. wearing a device

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Re: Honor system vs. wearing a device

Post by jnuts » Mon Oct 18, 2010 7:45 pm

Haven't been doing this long and have no device yet but i'll add my 2 cents on the honor system. The longest i have gone is only 12 days. That was the first time and it was pretty rough. It does feel good to be doing this on willpower though. The rule is no unecessary touching (washing, bathroom, etc...). It is very much like a mental CB I would think. It makes the moment my wife does touch me very rewarding!

That said, i am excited to get a device to make it more real. The physical reminder (aside from my aching balls) will add to the experience Im sure. I think it will also help my wife with the control aspect.

Ive only really been tempted to cheat once. Of course I didn't and wouldn't as having her trust is a big part of the game and if that is gone there is no point in playing anymore. For me anyway.

Also totally agree on getting pleasure from her orgasm. Really makes sleep come a lot easier if I get to take care of her. That is one thing i really enjoy is getting to focus on her pleasure without her worrying about me.
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Re: Honor system vs. wearing a device

Post by Dev » Mon Oct 18, 2010 10:04 pm

Also totally agree on getting pleasure from her orgasm. Really makes sleep come a lot easier if I get to take care of her. That is one thing i really enjoy is getting to focus on her pleasure without her worrying about me.
Very well said. Thanks, jnuts!

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Re: Honor system vs. wearing a device

Post by poohbearschastity » Thu Oct 21, 2010 12:04 am

Hello again all.. love how this thread is going.
My update I have been under the honor system since Sept 19th and let me say its been amazing. I have been made to cum 3 times since then by her hands only. OMG. My last was on the 8th when we had an amazing session of play.. She introduced a new element into the play a blindfold. I kept begging to be just teased to the edge which she did again and again then she didn't stop. She kept going and going all my senses were focused on the most intense orgasm ive had.. I loved cumming but also missed not being allowed to.. I expressed this to her and she told me that my cumming wasnt for my pleasure she loves seeing me shoot her cum out of her toy. Wow.. I had not thought of it that way. I knew it was now her toy but hadnt made the connection of her enjoying making me shooottt.
The rest of the evening I saw the effect it had on her,,, wet wet wet MmmMmmMmm...
I cant wait for her to please her toy again but love seeing how long it will be. Im hoping for the 5th of nov. Which will be a record for us..
Oh btw she told me the blindfold would be used again and I may never see her toy shoot its load.
So again for now staying on the Honor system side here.. will see what the future holds....
Take care all,,
Poohbear.
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Re: Honor system vs. wearing a device

Post by wishful4 » Wed Nov 03, 2010 7:38 pm

Hi! This is my first post on this site, although I have been active on others. This topic certainly drew a lot of responses. I have been on the "honor" system for awhile because my spouse/KH has been reluctant to use our CB6000S. The last term was six weeks. I was amazed I was able to do it. Seems every opportunity that arose to handle my cock, I took advantage of it. But, there never seemed enough time to finish. To her credit, she kept a pretty good eye on me. After being chaste for awhile, when the opportunity arose, as I was getting close, guilt would start to creep in and I would stop. Mainly because the climax after a six weeks of being chaste was so intense, I am afraid of not experiencing that again. I wish, so much, that she would use the CD, and take the monkey off my back. It would make things easier for me. Early on, I confided to her that it would be best if she kept me locked as much as possible because of my masturbatory habits. She did, for a time, but of late, has expected me to be on the honor system. It is much more difficult than being locked. However, I am trying.
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Re: Honor system vs. wearing a device

Post by Belle » Wed Nov 03, 2010 7:48 pm

wishful4 wrote: Early on, I confided to her that it would be best if she kept me locked as much as possible because of my masturbatory habits. She did, for a time, but of late, has expected me to be on the honor system. It is much more difficult than being locked. However, I am trying.
Have you talked to her about the reasons why she is preferring the honor system over the CD? I know that I am not turned on by the look of some of the devices, and if that is the case then finding a device you both like together may solve the problem.
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Post by thumper » Wed Nov 03, 2010 9:26 pm

That's our experience. When all we had was plastic, Belle seemed less interested in locking me up. Once we got the Steelheart, she hardly ever lets me out.
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Re: Honor system vs. wearing a device

Post by Celtic Queen » Thu Nov 04, 2010 4:20 am

wishful4 wrote: I wish, so much, that she would use the CD, and take the monkey off my back.
Isn't that an interesting way to describe the male urges!!
My hub and I have come full circle in how we use chastity devices over the last year or so.Initially, I bought my hub an Erosteelcage - really as a play device as I thought it looked sexy. It progressed to him wearing it when away overnight on business and he discovered that wearing the device made him feel connected to me, owned and controlled and described the feeling as my hands on him all the time. The cage pinched though so when we looked into other devices, the CB6000 came top of every list in terms of wearability. When it turned up, I disliked it immediately and at the time the thought of him in it 24 7 turned me off so everything went on the back burner for a while and he only wore it when he was away from me.

We continued within our evolving FLR however but there was the inevitable power struggle that two alpha personalities face so after much reading up on forums etc I thought I would try it again to see what would happen if we used a device. The effect of not allowing him to touch his cock at all wrought some very noticeable changes in his behaviour (all good) but the effect on his sleep was awful. I suggested he sleep without the device but put it on every morning after showering. When it started to cause him a few sores, we abandoned it all together and went on to the honour system. This worked for a while but I did notice some of the old agressive behaviours slipping back which I needed to get on top of so I put him back in the CB6000 with nightimes off. We're now in the process of researching which mature metal device to buy as I think we've experimented enough to know what is going to work for us.

To my mind,the CB6000 was a "necessary evil" in that it functionally does the job but it is ugly and unhygenic and I cant see any woman finding it asthetically pleasing. Cages look sexy, masculine - a kind of caged tiger appearance and I'm really looking forward to getting him in the right device. Personally, I really dont think belts are an option for us and I cant imagine how they can fail to be another sweaty germ trap (sorry if you are reading that over breakfast :-))

The honour system is all well in terms of orgasm control but I think the symbolism and ritual that are part of a device are also integral to the process. Think of the CB as a training device if you will and then invest in something that pleases your wife. I wouldn't underestimate the importance of physically handing over a key to your partner and her control over you being manifestly visible everytime you look in your pants.
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Re: Honor system vs. wearing a device

Post by michaelnmelissa » Thu Nov 04, 2010 5:03 am

Right now Melissa and I are using the honor system, but after a positive conversation yesterday I think a Jailbird is in our future.

Last night I did sleep in an athletic supporter with a cup. It was surprisingly comfortable as well as a bit maddening as it did not allow me any sensation to my cock at all. I was spooned up against her bottom and I couldn't even tell. Wonderfully frustrating!

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Re: Honor system vs. wearing a device

Post by thumper » Thu Nov 04, 2010 6:22 am

Celtic Queen wrote:...I cant imagine how they can fail to be another sweaty germ trap (sorry if you are reading that over breakfast :-))
Oddly enough, I'm having Sweaty Germ Trap Flakes for breakfast, so we're good.
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Re: Honor system vs. wearing a device

Post by jnuts » Thu Nov 04, 2010 7:21 am

michaelnmelissa wrote:Right now Melissa and I are using the honor system, but after a positive conversation yesterday I think a Jailbird is in our future.
Order the sizing rings. We would have been totally lost without them!
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