LadynMonkey wrote:... plus I think I might have mentioned, I'm not looking for a slave or anything like that, I happen to prefer hubby being a man lol.
I guess it really comes down to how you look at it. You see, for me, if I act as my wife's slave (at least during play) it makes me feel more manly. I'm a pretty "alpha" guy, and the way I picture it in my head is that I'm some kind of gladiator figure, able to crush skulls and destroy any opponent. However, all that power is harnessed in the control of one person: my Mistress. A "slave" can be a rottweiler or a poodle. Either way, the dog is subservient to its master. Am I getting my point across? I've had a long day, lol.
Have you ever seen "Unleashed" with Jet Li?
LadynMonkey wrote:Am I making sense? Is there another way besides a collar to symbolize that?
It can really be anything, although a collar is particularly symbolic. You could light a special candle in the room when you're about to get serious. Heck, perhaps you could just attach a leash to his cage.