If she is 'reluctant', then you would probably be better off to NOT talk about it as a 'lifestyle'. Present it as a fun game for a short time- a day or two or whatever, maybe only as little as a few hours. She gets to have you pleasure her in any way she likes- oral, foot rubs, whatever, then she decides if/when to let you out and give you some pleasure.ChasteM wrote:Right now in the process of talking to my wife about getting into the lifestyle. She is very reluctant.
Make sure that whatever she is getting out of it are things that she likes/wants/enjoys. Don't bombard her with all sorts of stuff that you think she should do to/for you. Expect nothing more than to be locked up for a little while, to be released at her whim. Afterward, tell her how much you enjoyed being able to please and pleasure her while your cock was locked-up, how 'hot' it was for you to be concentrating on *her* pleasure while waiting for her to decide to 'reward' you by letting you out and allowing you to get some pleasure.
Later, you can play the 'Game' again, perhaps for the same amount of time, perhaps for a little longer. Make sure that she is having fun doing it. The more she enjoys it, the more likely it is that she will want to do it again, do it longer. Ease into it gradually, be patient. Don't expect her to instantly become the cock-teasing Domme you've been dreaming of. It could take years, if it happens at all.
