[Sam3655] I’ve put it out there

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In a moment of irony while for my birthday I wanted the wife CS to read the book Male Chastity, she instead got me an e-book reader. As she has not agreed to be the keyholder, I had spent Monday through Friday locked of my own accord. I know it isn’t that long but During a zesty session of PIV, she said it to be more intense than usual. That’s when I told her I’d been caged all week and one of the benefits of chastity.
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To see if the increase in sexual intensity was due to self locking five days last week, I told the wife CS that I would self lock again for five days this week. And yet she hasn’t read the chastity book or accepted being my keyholder yet. I locked on Sunday, was woken up during the night with my penis trying to get hard in the cage. Enjoyed the feeling as the previous week this had not happened. All Monday morning I was distracted. My penis kept trying to get hard. It was crazy as I usually need a viagra before sex.

After work I asked the wife if I could go down on her. She said not tonight but definitely Tuesday. See, she should just accept the keys. She would be a natural. Monday night again woken during the night by my penis trying to get hard. I would call it her penis but I still have the keys.

Tuesday I work, go the gym, yes locked, come home and start making dinner. CS gives me a package saying it’s the second gift she got me for my birthday. It’s a shirt. I look at her and ask why it’s an xl? She starts to get angry and I laugh telling her it’s the correct xxl. She looks at me and says “two more days”. I ask if she is serious and she says she is. I want to remind her she is not the keyholder but decide to accept my punishment. It will give her a taste of control, see there is not resentment towards her and maybe she will take the keys. Thursday I will remind her I did my two more days and ask to pleasure her again.

On a side note, talking with her. Find some of her hesitation is that she doesn’t want to be mean to me or hurt me. I did tell her again to just read the book or even a podcast. My thinking is maybe a contract would help dispel her fears. It will outline what is expected of us as user and keyholder. Since we would both agree and sign it, there can be no feeling guilty or resentment. I have looked at some sample contracts on line and will need to modify them. Not liking the word “slave”. Think it is too heavy bdsm for where we are at for the moment. We may get there one day as CS says if we do try chastity she doesn’t want it to be a game. Not sure if she is thinking a lifestyle but with this self locking and feeling how much better it would be having her hold the keys, here to hoping.
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This morning wrapped my arms around the wife and told her I have done the two days as she told me and that I would be happy to go down on her tonight if she would like and to let me know. I did say that if she does, to tell me before that she is not letting me out of the cage but to please her. She asked what if she wants me out of the cage tonight and I said that would be her decision. I feel like I am topping from the bottom but she has not taken the keys and feel like she is skirting on the fringes trying on little pieces.

I did say for this experiment to see if five days locked caused the improved sex last week that tomorrow will be the fifth day so we could unlock me. She suggested Saturday after the Halloween party would be better. See? She would be a natural. My cage is still very snug at the moment.
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I was horned up last night as the wife CS came to bed. She laid her head on my chest and that was the extent of the evening. Still, grateful to be holding her.

Today while working and thinking of things wishing to happen, my cage got snug when I heard a loud crack. The pegs holding the lock had snapped off. Fortunately I still have an older cage which is a little bigger. Took the opportunity to wash up before putting on the old cage. Ordered two replacements but coming from China so will take a couple of weeks. But hey, still locked and denied.
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It’s been 11 days straight locked which is the longest I have been locked 24/7. There is a lot to process. Usually there is a kiss in the morning and one before bed with the wife. I am finding myself lingering more in her presence and doing more touching and kissing. We sleep separately but last two nights I have woken up an hour before my alarm goes off and crawl into her bed to cuddle before I have to get up for work.

Yesterday I texted down to her that I was horny and could I come down to lick the kitty. Her response was “Permission granted”. It was one of those hot things your keyholder has said if she was my keyholder. After the deed was done and I was back upstairs working, I swear it took almost thirty minutes to come back down. My dick kept trying to get hard that whole time.

Today she asked me to take the cage off for a noon quickie. No where near as good as yesterday caged and just focusing on pleasing her. Orgasmed and felt blah afterwards. It wasn’t a big dip but it was noticeable. Think I am preferring being locked. Just wished she would take the keys.
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So after a nooner with the wife CS, I asked if I should lock back up. She said no so left the cage off for the rest of the day. We went out to dinner and it felt weird not wearing the cage. Got the conversation on to chastity and we had an intelligent discussion which ended with her agreeing to read the chastity book on Saturday and then date night to discuss it.

Later she said though we had some zesty play today and yesterday, I can’t expect it every day and nothing on Thursday. So it’s Thursday morning now and she gets up and comes into my office. Good mornings said, I hold up the cage and ask that since she said no sex today should I lock back up. Got a definite Yes!
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The wife CS finally read the book, handed me her wedding ring and said she is unable to give me what I want and she wants to go back to living alone.
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How devastating. I thought she said you'd discuss it on date night. I'm not a therapist and this is probably HORRIBLE advice but I'd...
1) put her wedding ring somewhere that she'd see it every day, like on her dresser and tell her it's there in case she changes her mind.
2) if she actually starts to pack, offer to help her pack and move her stuff. Call her bluff.
3) tell her if she walks out the door without having a heart to heart discussion then you will start to look online for a more compatible companion.
4) tell her that you'll wait 30 days before reaching out to actually contact any interesting prospective companions in case she changes her mind and wants to rededicate herself to your marriage or at least have the promised discussion.
In the meantime you need to protect yourself by hiring a lawyer.

Good luck!
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I agree with fastredcar. You must be devastated. I have been a member here a long time and don't recall anything like this happening. It's hard to believe that chastity play is the only issue at work here.

I am also not a therapist, but fastredcar's thoughts seem to make sense to me.

Note: One thing that I have learned over the years, by observing many people get divorced, find the BEST divorce attorney in your area. It is important that they specialize in divorce, and it is important that they be a female. Note: The hourly rate may be higher for the very best attorney, but the overall fee will probably not be that much higher because there will likely be fewer billable hours due to their greater expertise. More importantly, the end result will save you a small fortune over the years to come.
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WTF....hi Sam, I've just whizzed through your posts and that was not the final response I was anticipating....

I don't know the book but assume it's not too full on and talks about, say, the different forms of chastity to suit different couples?! For her to give that response sounds like there's something more fundamental an issue than a little chastity play.... everything going on in the world, I think she needs to get a little perspective!
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