[Jon68] Vanilla to vixen

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[Jon68] Vanilla to vixen

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Hi Everyone, My wife and I are pretty new to the chastity scene and after finding this forum we decided to share our story. My name is Jon and my wife's Chris. We have been together since dot dot and been married 25 years. We are true soul mates. We both in our 50's and to say we had a vanilla sex life would be a serious understatement. I have always been the kinky one, but Chris openly admits in her words anything more than missionary is perverted. All said and done even though our sex life was of the vanilla kind that does not mean we didn't enjoy each other, because we certainly did.
Everything changed about 4 years ago when Chris started the menopause she started having a lot of pain during penetration. So off to the Drs she went. Creams and lube later we tried again to no affect. Lots of herbal remedies countless lube and back and foe to the Drs all to no avail.
Several years went by and not enough talking, we stopped any attempt of penetration and as time went on we both became upset at the way our relationship was drifting apart. I was desperate to find a way we could make things work. I could see the end of our relationship in site.
I checked in on some porn sites looking for some way we could enjoy sex without penetration, don't forget Chris was about as vanilla with sex as you could possibly get. I came across chastity and having seen it before and not interested me just looked briefly into it. Then one light bulb moment later, i'm thinking this chastity thing might just work. How do I discuss this with Chris.
My thinking was if I'm locked up and simply not good enough to have sex with my mistress, then would that be the answer to our sex life. How naive I was. After a lot of nervousness and sweaty palms I sat Chris down and explained I wanted to wear a chastity cage, in the hope that she would some how behave in a manner that I would be denied an orgasm until she says and never be good enough to have sex with her my mistress. Chris looked at the cage pulled a face and said purely out of desperation for our relationship she would give it a go.
Several weeks and chastity devices later we found a cage that was comfortable and settled down into lockup. After the first week i noticed a big change in my behaviour, I became far more tentative and much more interested in Chris. I noticed as I became more frustrated my willingness to please Chris grew and grew. It was not long before I was showering Chris with affection and she was enjoying the attention. We moved along at a pace I must admit I was setting which was far to fast for Chris. I researched porn sites at first and quickly realised I was getting full on into chastity, although Chris was going along with this I could tell it was only with limited enjoyment. After several months of average two weeks caged before being allowed to orgasm. I started to notice small changes in Chris's behaviour. She started to see that we were getting alone much better it was at this point she starting to more assertive and confident out of the bedroom, as I was working hard on being submissive. Then as more months went by I watched Chris this shy vanilla girl grow more confident assertive and dominant. Not only out of the bedroom but in it. Before my eyes Chris was growing and still is week by week into a very powerful woman. Chris as gone from a girl who only had sex with lights off to a woman/Mistress happy to wear leather and suspenders on skype demanding I watch her play with her toys, locked up when i'm away from home. I look back to the years when we had a vanilla sex life and look at us now and we a two totally different people. I am kinder gentler and far more submissive and definitely my Mistresses slave. My Mistress is strong confident dominant and very happy to discipline or punish her slave when she see's fit.
This is where my chat ends for now we are pretty much up to date but before I go I would say to all the guys and girls out there just starting the chastity journey, anyone can change if they want too. As a couple going on a chastity journey, I learnt you get better results going the pace of the more reluctant person than trying to push the pace. Good things come to those who wait.
I hope you enjoyed. If you want to ask anything feel free.
Stay safe Jon and Chris.
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Since I assume Chris at least reads the forum let me welcome to you both. Your story is very much like ours except that M'Lady was much more enthusiastic in embracing the chastity lifestyle from the start. Jon, as we have both discovered, it is fantastic being able to watch our vanilla wives transform into a sexual being. Hopefully yours, like mine, will never cease to amaze and surprise you.

Chris, if you are reading this, let me encourage you to create your own profile so you can have access to the private Keyholder areas. There you can converse with the other ladies away from the prying eyes of us mere mortals.
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Hi kittensToyBoy
Thanks for the reply, yes I agree, it is fantastic to see your Mistress grow as time goes by. I think because I work away from home a lot that would probably explain our slower pace. I will show my Mistress your reply and we'll see what happens☺. Its nice to read your journey is going well my it long contiue.
Thanks Jon and Chris.
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Hi Jon -

This particular subofrum is for those who choose to blog here. Is this going to be a blog for you?

If so, please make sure you read the links in red and the sticky post.

Good job, both of you.
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Hi Tom
Thanks for the info. Please forgive my lack of knowledge I know nothing about blogging as I have never in my life posted anything on a forum. I am willing to chat on this journey page if I’m allowed? Is that what’s meant by blogging? Also I do not know where to find the red links and sticky posts. I would much appreciate your help please. Thank you
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From the Sticky post at the top:
Before you begin... (please read this before posting here)

We are all familiar with the metaphor of chastity / denial as a "journey;" and because "journey" and "journal" share the same etymology, then it's no surprise that so many of us want to write about our experiences. Sometimes it's just to clear our own minds, and sometimes it's to leave a trail for those who may be following. This forum is a place for members to create a journal of their own.

If you are starting a journal, please observe some basic conventions:

Please have your name in the title set in [brackets], followed by the title of your journal; this will make it easier for you (and others) to locate. For example:

[ChasteDude] Well, I got what I wished for!

The threads in this forum are meant for journaling (blogging, a diary, etc.). While other members may respond in the thread, please keep comments to a minimum. This will keep the important conversations in the discussion forums.

Please stick to the thread that you have created; that is, one thread per member. If you think that you have a compelling reason to do otherwise, please drop a message to the mods explaining why.

Edit by Schnoff: Journals in "The Journey" are visible to guests and search engines. Journals in "A little less public" are visible to CF members only, and not to search engines.

Please Note: These forums are for blogging, or keeping a journal. Your first post should be in the Hello World thread, or at least in the General area so we know who you are.
In other words, this is a place for you to keep a running journal, rather than a place to post and comment and have exchanges with others.
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