[TealCage] Color of the Cage

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[TealCage] Color of the Cage

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My wife loves to accessorize and pick clothes out for her friends so that was the first step to get her invested into considering chastity. She describes herself as not having a lot of "kinks" of her own, but she is into lingerie somewhat, vintage clothing, being a planner for social events, etc. I bought a CB6000 at the local store so we could try out chastity for a while over December holiday break, but she mentioned that she thought the clear color was kinda bland. Well that won't do!

The mental light bulb turned on at that comment. It was time to go shopping! I found all sorts of styles and color options for cages, which got her super into the activity of picking out a cage for me. She spent a long time looking through them and picked out several styles and colors she liked. She settled on a teal colored holy trainer v3.

We made a short contract about chastity, which specifically stated that I don't get to bring up chastity unless she does first (unless health or maintenance is the subject). I wore the cage for another couple of weeks (with playtime in between) and then we set it aside for a few months. Now we're a few days into it again and things are becoming more "fun" than they ever we're before.

The extra attention I pay her now with all that redirected energy and the attractive style of the cage is getting her more comfortable with the idea. She's checking in on the cage most days to make sure I put it on (I don't sleep in it) in the morning and says "good boy" whenever she finds it. She worries about my comfort level some, but I'm reassuring her that it's not "uncomfortable" to wear and all is well.

I guess we'll see how things go! Last night we had some amazing playtime and she enjoyed the control. Maybe she's seeing the benefit. Fortunately, I was told before bed to put my cage back on first thing in the morning. Yes ma'am!

Work in progress:
Not wanting to bring up chastity to her (it's against the rules) constantly. I'm not doing it, but the urge is there.

Increasing Her comfort level with control without trying to control the situation myself.

Successes:
Cage is comfy andy maintenance pattern is set.

She loves the extra attention from me and seems very turned on.

Sex is way less stressful in this new dynamic. Normally it takes me a while for me to orgasm and on a rare occasion performance anxiety gets the best of me. I don't like to be the center of attention normally and the idea that me having an orgasm is an indicator of her "success" as a partner is not fun. Now I'm fighting off the urge to orgasm and her success criteria has changed. Win win!
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Re: [TealCage] Color of the Cage

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Coming into week two of this session of chastity I'm seeing some fun and interest coming from my keyholder this week. She is playfully delighted when I shower her with affection and is being a little more proactive about reminding me that I can't do anything about being turned on or sexually frustrated. Both of us are fairly goofy so sometimes she'll twiddle her fingers together and give a little evil laugh at my discomfort. She has even started to tease me a little by jumping in my lap or flicking my cage with her finger.

As for my own interests, one thing is certain; the urge to touch, massage, and go down on her is strong! Touching happens often, massages are something she wants every few days (she's also sore from doing at-home workouts during Coronavirus work from home time), but she hasn't exactly jumped at the chance to cash in on as much oral sex as I expected. Maybe that's because that's just her pace, comfortability level, etc., but she definitely knows it's on the table. Either way, I'm on her schedule and that's the point of it. I'm sure everything will fall into place soon.

In other news, my keyholder likes to buy subscription boxes for clothes and makeup, etc., which gave us the idea of buying an "adult" subcription box. Several weeks ago we purchased one that involves a naughty spa treatment. Lots of lotions and sensual acitivites. Well, this time around she wants to purchase a dominatrix style box that has some of the basic gear in there. I've always felt that she had the stronger and more assertive personality in the relationship, but she has never tried any kind of dominance play. Likewise, as a man, in previous relationships it kind of fell into place that I do the aggressive/dominant/rough stuff in the bedroom. NOT a hat I have ever felt comfortable wearing by the way! I'm excited to try a little submissive play and watch her find a little kink of her own. We'll see!

Lots of communication and reading has been going on aorund this subject. She's doing some research, making plans, and definitely incorporating some chastity play into it.

Work in progress:
I need to approach the topic of porn with my keyholder. Is that something I'm allowed to watch?

Figure out what I can do to let her know what's ok to do to/with me (or reduce the paranoia I have that she may not already know).

I sometimes get the feeling that I'm slipping out a bit from my cage. When I look it's not really happening at all (just some skin movement), but it's still distracting. I certainly reach the end of my cage. I don't know if it's a fit issue or not.

Working on the idea that her sexual fulfillment doesn't have to be tied to mine.

Successes:
Wife/Keyholder is getting into it a little!

Plans for teasing and control are in the works.
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Re: [TealCage] Color of the Cage

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Ive been out of the cage for a few weeks. Work, planned trips, and other business, etc.

Just this morning after a few kisses and sweet talk my keyholder told me point blank to go put my cage back on. I was surprised but thrilled. She apparently has plans in store for me judging from her devilish smile.

She likes it when I parade my cage in front of her and hand her the key. She'll hold it for a few seconds and kind of enjoy the fact that it's hers. It's so hot to watch the look and thrill on her face while she gives it a *tap tap* with her hand like a sign of approval.
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