[Muted_Apricot] New Experiences

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Re: [Muted_Apricot] New Experiences

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I'm on day 20 of being locked up. My wife wasn't really into it much either, but I told her I find I had more energy and my mood was improved while I was wearing it. Plus I paid more attention to her. She said she's noticed and I told her she could keep me locked up as long as she likes without cumming. She surprised me when she told me 5 weeks sounds like a good start. So maybe try to convince her it's better for you to not be allowed out
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We had a brief chat about the cage last night. The gf says she is more comfortable with it than she thought she'd be at the start but that it doesn't do anything for her. She just goes along because I like it. I didn't want to point out that I'd been more helpful the last couple of days. I'm sure she noticed but maybe hasn't linked it to being caged.

From my side I offered two suggestions for next time:
1. Hide the keys better and keep one on you at all times. I had suspected all along that she had left both keys in the bedside drawer but I didn't want to check incase I was right. Knowing I have no way out of the cage is a big part of the thrill, relying on trust isn't quite the same for me.
She agreed to hide them somewhere else but was not keen on keeping one herself. I suggested just add it to your keychain, but she has a lot of keys and doesn't want to carry another. I didn't push it any further for now.

2. After our first play with the cage I suggested to her that she could lock me up very occasionally (a couple of times a year) for around a week at a time. I still would like that but I think I need more, so I suggested that she could also lock me up for shorter periods. An example I gave was if we had sex and then she locked me up afterwards and I slept in the cage wore it the following day and then she can unlock me (or not) in the evening. That way she still gets all the sex and I get to be caged in-between. She seemed okay with that but still wants to treat the cage as a toy we use occasionally rather than a lifestyle thing.

So hopefully she will cage me up a bit more frequently now and then perhaps as she gets more comfortable with it we can try a few more tweaks.
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You could always bring it up to her like this. Say you enjoy being caged because it's super frustrating knowing you can't have sex with her or even masturbate until she says so. So because of that, you're constantly thinking of her and the things you want to do to her, even more than normal. To keep your mind off of it, you're trying to help out more around the house. Ask her if she's noticed it or not. You can say how you'd much rather not masturbate, but instead save it for her. All she'd need to do is unlock you when she wants sex, and you can agree to put it back on right after. And as a bonus for her, you can say that you've noticed you have lots more energy when you haven't cum, so even if she wants sex but doesn't let you cum you're completely on board with it and you don't feel like you're being neglected at all.
Just a thought.
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Thanks, that could work but I'm also a bit reluctant to push it on her too much at the moment. She does know that I really like wearing the cage and want to wear it more often, but she's also not keen on it becoming permanent. For now, it'll probably just be short sessions. Perhaps a week if I'm lucky. That's okay though. I kind of want to leave it in her hands so that she's comfortable and as long as we both keep having a good time when I'm caged then it should naturally become more frequent or the lockups become longer.

I have something coming up in two weeks that I can't be caged for and so I'll probably wait until after then before bringing up the subject again. Otherwise I think she might get sick of me keep talking about it.
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So on Thursday afternoon I was alone in the house and couldn't get the thought of being caged again out of my mind. I started masturbating in the shower but stopped myself just in time and then decided I would just go and put the cage on myself. As gf refuses to hide the key I knew where it would be.

Once on I thought rather than tell gf I was wearing it I would wait until she noticed and then explain. In the evening we sat in the sofa and she had her feet on my lap but didn't spot the cage. We went to bed without much action and she still didn't notice the cage in bed.

The next morning we both got dressed and I was facing her naked except for the cage for about 10 seconds but she was absorbed in putting her own clothes on and didn't glance up to notice.

Later that evening we had a few drinks and watched a movie before going upstairs. I had bought gf a wand massager a few weeks back which we hadn't tried yet. When I went into the bedroom she had plugged it in and came at me with it, pushing it against the cage through my clothes but still not realising I was wearing a cage.
I took control of the wand and aimed it at her, she then started to grab my crotch and must've finally felt the metal. I undressed and said that I'd been wearing it for over 24hrs.

To my surprise she didn't seem at all bothered. There was no pause or hesitation. Her reaction was to simply reach over into her bedside drawer and get the key. She unlocked me but left the base ring on and rode my cock cowboy position holding the wand against her clit. It didn't take very long for her to cum and then from the same position she reached around and briefly attacked my balls with the wand just for fun. There was no attempt to make me cum or even ask if I wanted to. She is getting much better at focusing on her own pleasure.

Whilst still riding my cock we had a very short chat about the cage. I said that before I was giving her all these rules and things I wanted her to do but really there is just one simple rule I wanted: Unlock me whenever you want PIV sex, even if it's everyday, and then just lock me back up afterwards. Her response was 'how long is this for?'
I was kinda hoping she wouldn't ask that and we'd just play it by ear, but I said 'a week or two'.

I could tell now that she was a bit worried about me using the cage so often. She again said that she didn't see why I would want to lock up and didn't like the barrier of having to get a key any time she wants my cock.
I said that ultimately this is just for fun and that if she gets uncomfortable we can stop at any time and put it away. I'm happy for her to control how often we play which is why I gave her the keys before but she didn't want to hide them.

So she's still not getting it but willing to put up with me trying it occasionally. I did say that I want to find a way for her to get something out of this and that while I'm caged she can get me to do anything she wants, but she's too nice and said 'I don't want to make you do anything'. It's just not in her personality.

After she climbed off me I cleaned up and put the cage back on and handed her the key. My aim is to go for two weeks without cumming but ultimately my goal is to give gf the best two weeks we've had so that she can see how good the cage is for us.
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Muted_Apricot wrote:
Sun Jul 26, 2020 2:54 am
I said that ultimately this is just for fun and that if she gets uncomfortable we can stop at any time and put it away.
Sounds like the perfect thing to say at that moment.
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I forgot to update but basically the cage only stayed on for one more day.

During the day I made no mention of the cage. I carried on as normal, except when caged I tend to prioritise the jobs that I know the gf would like done, so I cleaned the house while she was out.

When we went to bed later I satisfied her with fingers and tongue. Straight after she asked if I was trying to get her to remove the cage. I said I'm happy and positioned myself towards going to sleep but she decided to unlock me anyway.

In hindsight I think she thought that is what I wanted but actually I'd have preferred the cage to be on longer. I didn't say anything because I had promised she could unlock me any time. Anyway, we had PIV sex and I pulled out when I was close but she insisted I keep going and then I couldn't stop myself from cumming.

Afterwards I could have put the cage back on as we had agreed I'd be in it for a week or two, but with my cum clock reset to zero I had lost interest in that moment. I also felt I'd been a bit pushy and gf was getting worried that this was becoming a big thing, so I decided it was better to have another break and try again some other time.

Before the next session I will have another talk with the gf about what I like/don't like when I'm caged. I'm fully onboard with her ignoring everything I say and taking charge however she likes but from a basis of knowing what I hope to get out of it. I think that may have got lost as I have thrown a lot of information at her with not much discussion.

I don't know when next time will be but I don't expect to bring it up myself for at least the next month. Perhaps I will suggest Locktober if she hasn't mentioned it again before then.
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