[Muted_Apricot] New Experiences

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[Muted_Apricot] New Experiences

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Hi all,

I am mid thirties male and living with my girlfriend of two years. She went away for a week in March and that's when the idea of locking my penis in a cage first turned me on. I had seen the devices before but never given them a second thought until that point. She returned home and those thoughts persisted for another week, so I caved in and ordered a cheap metal device from Amazon. The wait was torture. I was constantly hard with excitement, but also worried about how to tell my gf.

We sometimes play a game where we write each other notes and hide them around the house. When the other person finds a note they have to open it and instantly do what it says: "get naked and come find me" or "give me oral now", for example. It can take weeks for a note to be found so it's good fun and adds a little excitement at random times. Anyway, I had written a note that told my gf to "buy a kinky toy" and knew she had found it. I bought it up and used that as a jumping in point to explain that when writing the note I had bought myself a toy too. She got excited and wanted to know what I had bought so, as embarrassing as it was, I just showed her a picture. She took it way better than I could have anticipated. There was mostly confusion about what it was, how it worked, and why I would want to wear it but she was happy for me to give the device a go and she seemed quite excited by it even.

A few days later and the cage finally arrives at midday. We are both working from home. Gf wants to see it so I open the box and pass it over to her. She take the keys and gives it back. I go to the bathroom to put it on and gf is curious enough that she follows a minute later to see how it looks. I had accidentally ordered a 50mm base ring thinking it came with three different sizes, so it was a little larger than ideal but I noticed the error during shipping and ordered a 40mm base also. I had no trouble getting into it first time but it wasn't too big that I could escape. Gf locked it and made a joke about not being able to find the keys.

I am super excited by the whole experience. So many new feelings and weird sensations and a gf that is okay with me trying this. After an hour I need to pee and realise I'll need to sit down. It feels weird and I can't go. I also worry about the device slipping off and falling into the toilet (I later realise it's not coming off without the key) so I get a shoe lace and tie it around my waist. Now the cage feels completely different again - more comfortable and less room to expand.

First signs that the gf doesn't quite understand appear soon after when she is disgusted that I would pee wearing it. She had expected I would take it off each time. I explain I kind of have to as she won't always be there and I will keep it clean each time. She is also horrified that I might wear it out of the house, luckily we are in lockdown so it's only supermarket visits that I need to be out for. Later that day she also insists I don't wear it to bed. I reluctantly agree but I explain that I would prefer that it stayed on all of the time.

My first experience not being able to use my cock for sex was exhilarating. Gf brought out a vibrator and used it on herself and the cage. I enjoyed the feeling of arousal but not being able to get off, while she got off just fine.

Before we get to bed we have another talk and she is a bit more worried about the whole situation. She had thought this was going to be a bit of fun for two hours and not something that was permanent. I explain that I'm not after permanent either (although wouldn't be against it) and that I was hoping to wear it constantly for about a week just to get the experience. Going forwards it can be up to her how often to lock me up and for how long. She relaxes a bit and agrees that as it's something I want then I should wear it full time for the long weekend (four more days) and then see how we feel afterwards.
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Day 2
I slept well for my first night but did wake up very hard as I had removed the shoelace and the base ring had pushed away from my body. The shoelace tie clearly worked well but was quite uncomfortable so I replaced it with the cord from a dressing gown - much better!

I made a conscious effort to act normal and not talk about the cage around my gf today. I didn't want the topic to take over the whole weekend. My gf has to go out for a few hours and so for the first time I am left alone. Any time I remember that she has the key it gets me hard and I fill the cage.

I need to make a trip to the supermarket which is the first time I've been out in public since wearing the cage. It is a large cage and the lock sticks out but I find a pair of shorts that hides it well and I feel quite comfortable doing my shop.

One of the things my gf had mentioned yesterday was that she didn't like being dominant and would rather I am more dominant not less. She is right we are both quite shy and would rather the other took charge, and even then I leave her to initiate most of the time. Taking this on board I decide I am going to take control of the sex tonight and try a few new things that she has hinted at before. I want her to see that we can still have good fun without PIV sex and that she doesn't need to be the dominant one while the cage is on.

When she returns we both end up lying on the bed. After a bit of fondling I remove her t-shirt and bra and tie her hands to the bed posts. She jokingly mentioned getting handcuffs before so I figured she wouldn't mind this. Then I tie the feet to the other posts and place a blindfold on her. All of this is new to us. I introduce a small vibrator and a dildo and lick her pussy. She admits afterwards to starting off nervous but ended up loving it.

We then have the most serious conversation we have had in our relationship. A few minor issues had been going on for a long time and were starting to become major problems but it is nothing that we can't easily fix. We went through a period at the end of last year where we only were having sex about once a week and she felt she was always the one initiating. She is now worried with this new chastity kink that maybe I just don't want much sex. I can see how that connection was formed but for me it is more about the control and not the lack of sex.

She is happy to have got that off her chest and that I took it well and promised to try harder. The main thing I need to do is just initiate sex whenever I'm horny instead of waiting for the right moment. I can do that!
We then talk a bit more about this whole cock cage thing. She understands the idea behind chastity and has no problem with that but can't get past the physical device. She see it as a barrier to sex. I explain that the physical device is the important part for me and that I love that I can't get hard, orgasm, or touch until she releases me.
We then discuss what I want out of this going forward. I don't need this to be a regular thing, just want her to very occasionally decide to lock me up out of the blue. Don't tell me when or for how long, just do it. It doesn't even have to be for a whole week - a day or weekend I still fun. She seems quite onboard with that, I think she was worried I wanted something more permanent.

We seem to be in a much better spot after this conversation. A lot of air is cleared and with one of the issues being a lack of communication on both sides it felt good for us both to talk openly about what we want/like/dislike. During this I tell her what would really do it for me is if we got to my release day and then just as she is about to unlock me... she changes her mind and keeps me locked for longer. I also say that if she is really not getting much out of this then I am happy for her to take it off early. Now I don't know for certain if I will still be released on Monday or before/after that :D
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Day 3
Woke up hard and hornier than I've been for a long time. Tieing the cage to my waist overnight helped to keep the base from pushing away from my body. When the gf woke up we had another talk, reflecting on everything so far and she was much happier with the situation now. One of the big barriers for her is that she gets horny when my cock is hard and this makes that never happen. I ask if she hasn't gotten anything out of this so far and she says she has had fun the last few days but isn't sure if it's thanks to chastity or not. She enjoyed being tied up and blindfolded but would I have done that anyway or was it because I had to think up new ways to please her? She even hinted that I might be locked for a bit longer than Monday but I did tell her I'd like it if she said that, so I'm not sure when release day actually is. Then she starts stroking my balls and after a minute or two suddenly stops and tells me to go and make her a coffee. I love it.

Later I decided to go for a run. I taped the padlock down so that it didn't make a noise and found a pair of shorts that hid the cage well. Running was surprisingly comfortable, no problem there. The rest of the day was normal no mention of the cage to gf and I forgot it was there a few times.

In the evening my gf had a surprise for me. She announced that my key was hidden on her and that if I found it she might release me temporarily if I agreed some conditions. We kiss and fondle. When I eventually get her bra off I find the key. She grabs it back off me and reveals the conditions: "I will release you for a short while but you mustn't cum and then I will lock you back up. If you do cum then you wil still get locked back up but can't touch me or see me naked until I next release you". I accepted and she turned the key into the lock releasing me for the first time. My cock was throbbing by this point and went full hard almost instantly. My ordered me to lie back and then rode my cock. This position works very well for her and I like it too but find it hard to cum from so I wasn't too worried about the punishment yet. She then starts to give me a hand job. Much harder to stop myself now but I'm determined not to enjoy it 'too' much. Then she gives me a blowjob and again it feels so great. but I somehow hold out. It was a short but fun break from the cage and she goes to put the cage straight back on. My cock is clearly too big for it so we wait 10 minutes and then I get it back together and she snaps the lock shut.

Today has been an awesome day. I think she really understands now what I get out of this and even if it's not her thing she is willing to put up with me doing it for a short while and make sure I get as much out of it as I can. We talk a little more and she likes to keep sex separate from the rest of life, so it's tough for her to accept and she wouldn't be okay if I wanted to make it permanent. I suggest that we just do it once or twice a year for a week or weekend, at a time that suits her. She is fine with that and I'm happy to keep it as a rare surprise.
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Day 4
I woke up hornier than ever and 'needing' some kind of release but knowing that none was coming just made me hornier. When the gf woke up she asked if I wanted a coffee, I couldn't resist any longer and needed to do something so licked her pussy and then as soon as she came I went and made the coffees.

The rest of the day was fairly uneventful. I was at home on my own and still slightly horny but it wasn't as powerful as this morning.

In the evening my gf sat on my lap and grinded through our clothes against my cage. I was now just as horny as this morning but in a position where I can't do a lot caged. As I started stripping her I only got the top half off before she announced "I'm all done. Let's go to bed". I was thoroughly unsatisfied, and I loved it. She never only thinks about herself and part of what I wanted out of this is her to enjoy sex without feeling any need to reciprocate. So it was super hot for her to shut me down like that.

Tomorrow is the day we'd agreed I'd be unlocked. Gf is still not fully onboard with chastity but knowing that we are only doing it short term she is definitely having more fun with it these last couple of days. She has put in a huge effort to make sure I get what I want out of trying this and hasn't released me early even though I said I would be okay if she did.
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Day 5
I wake up to my gf stroking the cage and playing with my balls. She then unlocks me and says I'm free to do whatever I want. I just want standard missionary sex with a rock hard cock. It feels much better than normal, as if we haven't done it in ages (we kinda haven't). I last longer than I expected and we both cum around the same time.

Afterwards I am relieved that I didn't have to put the cage back on. I had a feeling that she might insist I did, seeing as I had previously told her I'd like it, but in the moment I wanted to stay free. The cage was fun while it was on but now that it wasn't I was glad to not be wearing it. After an hour or so the desire to be caged returns but not as strong as before. I'm happy to pack it away for now.

Our short experience is now over. I found it a huge turn on but gf didn't get a whole lot out of it. She had a good time but that was despite the cage rather than because of it. Going forwards I will leave it up to her when she wants to lock me up. She knows I enjoyed it and so is happy to lock me up occasionally. I like the idea of her suddenly surprising me with it.

I have a 40mm base ring arriving this week. I was using a 50mm base that was too big, but I'm not sure if 40mm will be too small. Once I know my size I will order another cage that is shorter and has a built-in lock. The cage I was using is a cheap stainless steel Chinese one from Amazon. It is actually very good just a little too long, heavy, and the padlock makes it harder to hide under clothing.

For now the journey is on pause but I will update again the next time I am caged.
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