[Tessasissy] Wife as Keyholder a new experiace for us both

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[Tessasissy] Wife as Keyholder a new experiace for us both

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Hi all,
A little background first. I have been married to my wonderful wife for 24 years. At the beginning of our marriage we were quite adventurous sexualy and very active in that area. As with many relationships due to stresses of work carears etc. As well as some other personal issues I won't go into on this forum, our sex life dwindled. The rest of our relationship being strong it did not present a breaking up issue. Clearly as a man my labido was and still is higher than my wife's so over the past 10 years or so of our marriage I have relied a great deal upon self releaf. Watching all manner of porn!.

We have both aknowlaged that we need to get intemacy back in our lives and to do something about it over the past couple of years, but as usual life gets in the way.

I myself have always been in my mind at least sexualy submissive to my wife and we have in the past indulged in bondage etc. Though nothing extreme and I have always been more concerned with her pleasure than my own when having sex. I am not submissive in any other way and don't think. My wife would want me to be in any other aspect of our lives.

About 6 weeks ago it took it upon myself to write to my wife, you might think this strange but some times putting something in writing where you take time to craft the words that realy explain how you feel and giving reassurance all the while, can explain something better than a conversation which may go arry before you manage to express yourself fully. The letter which I shan't go into detail about, but will just say that I introduced the subject chastity in what I hopeD was a non threaten but serious way, to open the discussion about.

My wife took a a day or so to agree to trial the the chastity approach for atleast six months and that should it help improve or relationship especially intemacy we will discuss the on going terms agree them an continue with it indefinatley.

Now I have dabbled over the years with several chastity devices from steel tubes to silicon and some plastic cages. To be honest these ball trap devices have generally been uncomfortable mostly do to the scrotum ring.

Whilst I am no huge I do have a reasonable sized appendage. Minimum flaccid lenght on a cold day or after exercise is still 100mm diameter about 45mm with erect lenght about 200mm and diameter about 65mm

This presents issues with ring size and pain mostly furning from folded compressed scrotum skin which can be extream as well as other issues.

So any way once my wife agreed to chastity (which feeds directly to my submissive sexuality) i looked again at devices we settled on the Fancy Steel male slim fit belt with a slightly wider than standard tube and anti pullout plate.
The Maximum Jay can go to due to tooling restrictions is a 35 mm tube diameter and I have stuck with the standard 90mm tube length. I am given to understand that a little compression with no room at all for growth is preferable for comfort over the long term.

Any way having confirmed the order and the lead time to receive the belt being up to 12 weeks. To keep the impetus going with this new aspect of our married life I decided to again try a ball trap device for the interim period until the full belt arrives. Having looked through multiple websites blogs reviews etc. And taking into account past experiance. I opted to try the Holly Trainer V 3 maxi which I purchased from the House Denial. The Device amazingly turned up the next day. Also the price seemed to be significantly below that of other sites.

The first thing to say is that whilst I have not measured it fully with the protrusion of the cage section which ends behind the ring it must be 90 +mm long but the cage in front of the ring is i think 65mm long the diameter of the tube before the shaped head section must be a about 35 mm diameter if not a little smaller with the head of the tube being significantly wider.
I tried this with the largest ring size suppled which is 55mm diameter but which is also erganomicaly shaped. I know that round rings realy don't suit me at all.
I fitted the device when it arrived and found it quite comfortable which supprised me as so many devices are not at all to me. Needles to say I more than fill the tube and there is 0 expansion room. My penis feels like it has a constant firm hug. The ring size is just about large enough though I still get some burning and pinching it is significantly less than I have had with other ball trap devices. I tried this for the day and waited for my wife to come home from work (I work from home). At which point I presented her with the keys and the master lock blue tooth key lock box we had purchased.

This lock box I would recommend to all keyholders both remote and present as it allows the keys to remain with the locked person without them having any access unless granted by the keyholder which can be done remotely and fir temporary periods only. Thus it is ideal if there is an emergency or you want to let them out you can send a one time release code that expires for access to the box. So as soon as the box is closed again with the keys in it they no longer have access to the keys again.

Any way I digress.

My wife took the keys and key box and shut the lid! No if buts or maybes done.
Now I have been the HT v3 for 8 days before lock up and had refrained from masterbation for a week (a long time for me) . The HT V 3 has taken some getting used to night times being the hardest, no pun intended. The pinching and burning still being an issue even with the use of baby oil as a lubricant. Nighttime erections due to growth and pulling on my balks have been hardbut manageable it is the burning and skin trapping wch has been hardest after 5 day it got a little easier think my body is trying no so hard hard to get an errection. And I havecstartedcwearingbtightbbreafs to hold it compressed to my body so that the device can't pull on my balls quite so much.

Last night my wife had agreed to unlocking once a week for cleaning. I was allowed out of the device, once clean I was told to lock myself back up and then I got to give my wife a massage she did not want anything else from me yet. I enjoyed that and thought that was it, but my wife then had me lay down put a lid fold on me and made me put my hands behind my head.
She un did the cage, and started to tease me with her fingers an then with copiouscamountscafvbaby oil use both her hands to masterbate me to say I was squirming and trying not buck as she teased me would be an undestatement. I tried to resist orgasm but after 8 to 10 mins of this and having not cum for 2 weeks I said that if she did not stop I would come. She said six words which realy hit home 'I GIVE YOU PERMISSION TO CUM'.

At which command I exploded. My wife laughed an sad get yourself l cleaned up and straight back in your chastity, which after thanking her for the unexpected release I did.

She later told me she thought I deserved it as she thought we where getting on better now I was locked up.
(I may not be waiting 6 months for her to say this is a permanent arrangement based on that feedback)

So I am now back in the HT v3 waiting for the hornines build up again. Looking forward to the future in chastity(hopefully in my full belt sooner rather than later so my balls get a rest.

I will update you if you are interested on the next phase in a couple of weeks to see how it is going.
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Hate to sound picky but the use of a spell checker would make your writing much easier to absorb !! Good luck for the future, you seem to have started well !!

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like @slave d said, your writing is a bit hard to follow but it sounds like you are off to a good start.
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Update

Was taken out of the HTv3 for cleaning on Saturday and had soreness all down the underside of my penis, some marks that looked like friction burns. This did not happen in the first week and a half of wearing, which went with no real problems other than usual ring burn, which is cured with some rearranging and lube.

This injury must have occurred with some trapping of skin over skin on the underside after the last cleaning. Clearly you can't see that part of the penis in the cage at all. And I think I associated the burn with the ring type rater than under the penis itself at the time.

Tried wearing it again after a few hours out over night last night but had to take it off as while there is no broken skin the back of my penis was feeling sore and has some marks.
so I have been out if the cage all day and will remain so until tomorrow am, when I will try again fingers x soreness will have gone away mostly by then. Quite frankly I am missing wearing it and the feeling of slight pressure which is a constant reminder.

I am on the honor system until I am able yo go back in the cage, absolutely no touch other than wiping after peeing (which I still have to do sitting down)

Has anyone else experienced this problem with the any device.
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i’ve occasionally had, and still have, odd bits of bruising and sore spots but they resolve quite quickly. Usually due to sleeping in a funny position or chafing on something etc. Never had to actually “go without” but had to lube more often and be careful of positioning for a time.

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Once, when in the HTv3, I had a bad rash develop on my penis that took several days to heal. Don't try to go macho and lock back up until you are sure the problem is cleared up. Monitor it a bity closer to see if it comes back.
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Thanks I am trying to be careful, I think that it is all about the tube diameter. I have measured the HT v3 maxi, it says it is 35mm diameter but in fact the tube is 35mm by 25mm so the space is quite tight and I think the skin on my penis hit trapped on itself creating a burn effect.
I have asked the wife to let me take it off and inspect daily until I am comfortable with it again.
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There is a lot of trial and error that comes with chastity and wearing a device, sometimes! Good luck!
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Thank you Lady M I agree, using the HTv3 as a temporary until full belt arrives which I am hoping will be a more comfortable long term solution. My darling wife and key holder has made several comments about getting something comfortable and long term. She seem to like having the key! Just her commenting at all about keeping me in chastity gets me excited.
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Hi back again, just wanted to give you a brief update.
I have now been locked by my wonderful wife for 22 days in that time I have been out of the cage 5 times twice my wife has played with my cock I did not ask for this she just decided that she wanted to give me an orgasm both times my hands bound and I was blindfolded I have to tell my wife when I am close and I am only alowed yo cum when she gives verbal permission. Then I have to cleen up and lock back up. I love it when my wife just takes the key and puts it in the lock box without saying a word as if it is now totally normal. To say that my orgasms where explosive would be an understatement. Once I had to come out of the device for 48 hours on the honour system as I had a sore patch on my penis when I was alowed out for cleaning, which needed to settle down and have antiseptic ointment applied. The other two times have been for cleaning so ma be 30 mins max.
I am getting increasingly horny despite the two orgasm, and I love the feel of constriction and straining at the cage when try to get hard, it just adds to my arousal and frustration.

I have found that whilst the HT v3 is quite comfortable I have found that there is movement between the ring and the cage. It has some play in the dovetail when the lock is inserted that also slite front to back movement which can pinch the skin that folds over the rear section of the tube. It is also quite easy to pull out of if I wanted to which I don't but I would prefer more security!

So I decided last night that I would order a Birdlock neo to try as this is one piece of silicone, so not the same issues with pinching and it is so I belive harder to pull out from than the HTv3. I will let you know what it is like once I have tried it.

Both of these devices are temporary though will be used when we have to travel by plane.

I am eagerly awaiting the arrival of my fancy steel belt all the way from Australia which will probably not arrive until February. I belive that it will allow less stimulation to my penis as it will be held titely against my body, with a greater downward and back angle. It will alow far less movement for giggling the tube or movement at all for any stimulation which you can easily do with any ball trap device. Also with the metal anti pull out plate at the top of the tube again held titly to my body it should prevent any attempt to get finger behind the tube to try to pull out.

The greater the security the more I feel controlled and horny.

We are away this weekend with friends and then it is family Xmas so I am not sure if there will be any chance of my wife unlocking me for anything other than a quick clean over the next few weeks. I am both simultaneously dreading and loving the idea of weeks more frustration. Our agreement is that I am not alowed to ask for any release other than cleaning, and I am allowed once a week if she has not already alowed this for me to spend a couple of hours pampering her in any way she likes(I always hope it is orally, but some times it is just massages or foot rubs Etc. Even this is making me horny!)

I feel like I both want an orgasm but never want the arousal and frustration to end. Both feelings are strong but actually not wanting to spoil the frustration and arousal wins out. Not sure how long it will take for me to realy start climbing the walls and the balance to tip to wanting the orgasm despite knowing the downside of loss of arousal and frustration which is so excruciatingly wonderfull.

Anyway I will update you after I have tried the Birdlock neo and with how my emotional state is going in a week or two.
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