[gehngus] one step forwards, two steps back

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[gehngus] one step forwards, two steps back

Post by Gehngus » Tue Nov 19, 2019 4:05 pm

[Gehngus] one step forwards, two steps back

Changed my intro. To much information.

married with kids.

now married 15 years to a most wonderful wonderful woman whom due to religious upbringing was a bit clueless about anything none misionary. But.. seemed to catch on pretty fast once things got going.
I on the other hand had a different background.
Lots of one night stands. Short relationships and so on. By twenty I'd dated a woman twice my age, danced on tables for hen parties and danced on stage naked (comedy chipedale/balloon dance type of thing)
I was lucky enough to be fit and decently proportioned so my first paying job was a kiss a gram. party entertainer and table dancer.

I had a bit of history.

Now after 15 years of marriage sex is great. always. on tap. my wife wants me to feel satisfied and seems happier if we have sex regular. even if it's a hand job.

but I'm starting to not rise to the occasion. or lose it while in the act. my usual answer is to try to spice it up a bit. new toy. new kink ect.

my wife does not like me having toys or gadgets at all.
She doesnt like anything new.
its competition or an alternative to her. Although she does have a few toys of her own that I've introduced over the years and she likes them. . oh yes. a lot.
I dont mind obviously. Ive pretty lucky in the erection catagory at just under 8" so I'm not at all intimidated by them. in fact I introduced them as a part of spicing up.

I cant use Vanilla for our relationship. Recently I added cum play. Not my wife's thing at all. Not sure it mine now we have it? No. Not vanilla as such.
Its more bound by our lifestyle (yes we have kids) so as much as we would.. spontaneous over the table isn't an option. Spontaneity isn't an option at all.

And. Yes it becomes a bit tedious. No matter what you do. Do it often and it just isn't as exciting.

My wife.. she is My exciting! My porn. My pasion. My mision. I want to keep it that way

My wife thinks everything is perfect and there is no need for change.
As a rule any attempt to introduce a sexual topic is cut off abruptly and will not be tollerat.

So new games for the bedroom is usually my goal.
And I have to be inventive. I also have to do a whole lot of shit shovelling.
Thank God she loves me regardless.

This is the intro to my journey. Its back dated as I started my notes in june but will eventually be up to date.
Yes I've fucked up. Yes advice was needed. But what is done cannot be undone.
Feel free to be outraged. At this time my apologies have already been made and debts being paid.

2019. in sunny Wales. everyone is happy and weekend holidays have begun. A perfect time to bring up a new idea

so I start with.. " hey honey. Ive seen this interesting thing thst might help me in certain ways...and I'm cut off with "if it's anything about your penis or kinky wierd stuff stuff the answer is NO! I don't want to know"

ok. expected I supose so now I know where I stand.

now over the years I've added all sorts of minor kinks which are now just normal but I've always had to use the back door or a round about way to get them in.so I figured I'll get one anyway figure it out and then find a way to introduce it.
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Re: [gehngus] one step forwards, two steps back

Post by Gehngus » Wed Nov 20, 2019 3:39 am

June 2919.
I was going to find a way to self lock in a way that she could accept. Hopefully in time it she would accept it.

I started to read advice from those who sell, and after lots of experiments with different designs and sizes (see how many have you got in general forum) I settled on a steel cage. oval ring and shoelace.

this was in advance because I knew there would be no patience for wearing in time.

I build houses these days. one at a time. solo. from foundation to roof and everything in between. so im always getting knocks and bangs and power tools are my new heaven.

A few times I I'd hit my bits. and couldn’t perform. and i had some sensitivity issues which i blamed on the vibrarions from the tools (like white knuckle).

Maybe it was age. Maybe not?

I had found a website that promoted chastity cages as an alternative to a jock box. protects your main bit. but no sweaty balls.
this was something I could work with.

another night where I couldn't perform.

So i put it down to work again.

"cant you wear a sport box"
'no. they make my balls sweat and get i a rash'
"there must be something?"
'I'll google it. Ok there is this. it protects the penis but doesn't cover the balls so no sweat. but its expensive'
"well it's better than an injury".
'ok. I'll order one'

now at this time. I already had them and I had adjusted to day wear.
cb6000 silicon and curve..

now to wait a few days before saying they had arrived.
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Re: [gehngus] one step forwards, two steps back

Post by Gehngus » Wed Nov 20, 2019 4:45 am

this was the poster/add I used to support my case. PeniGuard is my own idea. it does not exist. dont waste time trying to find it :twisted:
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Re: [gehngus] one step forwards, two steps back

Post by Gehngus » Wed Nov 20, 2019 12:03 pm

July 2nd 2019

a week later I walked in after a hard days work.
i had been wearing the curve all day no problem.

'Hi honey. I got banged pretty hard in the bits today'.

"Oh no. again?"

'yeah. it didnt hurt though, I've been wearing this thing since Monday'.

She came right over and grabbed my crotch

" Oooh, that's good, it worked.. Well come on, show it to me."

'um, ok. bit embarrassing though'

"Now!"

'ok,

"omg it's huge".. she wails.

I reply 'yeah. but did the job. but it came free with purple soft one which is smaller. ill try it on, see what you think'.

so I Don the silicon cb6000

"Yes" she says " that looks much better" but whats with the lock? it makes it looks like something from bdsm ha ha"

'well I could use ties. but it might fall off and that could be really embarrassing'.

"great. Hopefully no more damage down there then"

and that was that. went a lot better than I'd hoped.

But. I had tried them both and wasn't happy. the curve fits well but it ridiculouse to wear and the silicone cb6000 just twists and strains when I get hard. just not that happy. but now I've a step in the right direction I'm willing to shop for steel.

I broke one of the rings and claimed it had broke with the impact and i would feel better with something more sturdy

wife agreed straight away realising the benefit of my wearing it at work.

and so I hit the net and order some steel. :D
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Re: [gehngus] one step forwards, two steps back

Post by Chastityat60 » Wed Nov 20, 2019 5:37 pm

I hope you have a good answer for her when she searches for PeniGuard and doesn't find it anywhere. Otherwise, great story..!!!
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Re: [gehngus] one step forwards, two steps back

Post by Gehngus » Wed Nov 20, 2019 7:23 pm

We go away at weekends camping and I do work on the woodlands there. chainsaws. ditches and so on and weekend was coming up.

my wife said I should wear my cage at week end too. so that me in self lock 7 days per week with my wife's approval.

now i hoped to find a way night ware?.

I carried on complaining of a numb penis.

my metal cage arrived. I'd said the curve had been sent back and refunded so it had paid for a better cage.

this cage was small. 2.5" so pushed my penis into my body.
during the day it was actually very comfortable.

Wife said it looked more like a fashion accessory. Small and neat.

I decided to test it at night.
my wife didnt know, she very rarely touches ne there &I didn't want to say I was trying it out without a good enough reason.

big mistake. night erections very uncomfortable. painful but I endured them.
I must have been moaning quite a bit. my wife mistook it for sexual frustration and woke up really horney.

I had to keep her away from my cock. shed freak.
I offered to go down and tongue and toy fuck her for now and then fuck later.

I said because my bits are still numb from the bang.

My cock and balls were fucking screaming now. especially with all this sex.

my balls were completelysoaked with pre cum. this was new.

As soon as she had an orgasm I jumped up to make coffee and went straight to the bathroom.

I was bruised swollen and sore.

still happy as fuck though.
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Re: [gehngus] one step forwards, two steps back

Post by Gehngus » Wed Nov 20, 2019 7:32 pm

a week later i was still complaining about the numbness from tools at work.

"does that thing help" she asked

i replied 'yes it does. eventually it will cure it. but how long depends on how often I wear it'

"but you wear it every day"

'Yes. but only for 8 out of 24 hours'

I showed her a leaflet with advice.. wear as much as pos. no masterbation etc.
wear at night for best effect.

well you should wear it at night as well then.

and now I'm locked 24/7 with consent and hoping the wife will get used to my wearing it.
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Re: [gehngus] one step forwards, two steps back

Post by Gehngus » Thu Nov 21, 2019 4:44 pm

Chastityat60 wrote:
Wed Nov 20, 2019 5:37 pm
I hope you have a good answer for her when she searches for PeniGuard and doesn't find it anywhere. Otherwise, great story..!!!
I knew she wasn't interested enough to look. But if it had come up I had the Web page ready to upload 😉. I didn't do it before hand in vase I got an order I couldn’t complete
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Re: [gehngus] one step forwards, two steps back

Post by Chastityat60 » Thu Nov 21, 2019 4:50 pm

Gehngus wrote:
Thu Nov 21, 2019 4:44 pm
Chastityat60 wrote:
Wed Nov 20, 2019 5:37 pm
I hope you have a good answer for her when she searches for PeniGuard and doesn't find it anywhere. Otherwise, great story..!!!
I knew she wasn't interested enough to look. But if it had come up I had the Web page ready to upload 😉. I didn't do it before hand in vase I got an order I couldn’t complete
Too funny..
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Re: [gehngus] one step forwards, two steps back

Post by slave d » Thu Nov 21, 2019 5:28 pm

Sounds to me as if you’re going to a massive amount of trouble to avoid speaking truthfully with your Wife !! On my case that would never get me where i wanted to be in the end !! Sooner or later, if you want to progress, you’ll have to tell Her what you’ve done and so She will feel foolish. In my view, while amusing to a degree, this is a poor way to start anything in a relationship.

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