[cshorts] My (our) journey

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Post by cshorts » Sun Apr 14, 2019 1:12 pm

While eating breakfast in bed, we got high. (A friend had suggested SL try CBD for her migraines. Don’t have any CBD extract in the house now, so vaped weed.) I really enjoy sex while high: everything seems to move more slowly and I’m more intensely aware of details.

SL, my KH, told me to cum today. After nearly 6 weeks without, plus being high, it was wonderful. I was just a wee sad when she told me, since I know the edge will be off for several days, but lordy, that was special. Not just the O: she is even louder and more inclined to thrash coming when high, and this morning she just wouldn’t stop, hitting at least six powerful orgasms in a continuous flow before stopping to catch her breath, then another two multiple-O rounds, the last concluding when I came with her.

What a wonderful week it’s been.
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Re: [cshorts] My (our) journey

Post by cshorts » Tue Apr 23, 2019 1:40 am

[Sunday 21 April]

Regular Sunday morning playtime took a surprise twist. We've had this habit for at least 10 years now. Has always - every single time - involved multiple O's for my SL. Since we started chastity that has continued but more than half the time I'm left caged and it's mostly about SL - sometimes some direct teasing for me, sometimes I simply serve. Today things started with her giving me an intense (caged) tease session, followed by ... "That's all, this morning is just about you." Don't know where *that* came from, quite a surprise. (Was great fun, but...I really really enjoy giving her pleasure so I felt a bit denied of that, on top of the orgasm denial. So a double tease!)
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Re: [cshorts] My (our) journey

Post by cshorts » Sun Apr 28, 2019 8:53 am

We're on a long weekend romantic getaway, for the wedding of my best friend's son. We're staying at a wonderful B&B in Saugatuck, MI, owned and run by one of the two women who ran The Silver Palate and wrote their terrific gourmet cookbooks. And this B&B specializes in the food. Sumptuous personally prepared breakfast, homemade sweets out in the afternoon, and an elaborate spread of appetizers every evening, most using Silver Palate recipes.

This is day 3, and SL has been welcoming of my attention each day. Oral and finger loving each of the days, and yesterday an hour of energetic play beginning with me reading her an erotic story while she used her wand, with my fingers inside, followed by excruciating teasing of my nipples and caged cock, then more oral loving for her (a six or seven O day for her :) no orgasms for me (she made a point of bringing the key on the trip, but hasn't gotten it out).

Extra special: after sex yesterday, she asked if we could talk: "Of course." She wanted to know how I was using a couple of new butt plugs I'd recently gotten (she's not much into butt play with either of us, so I mostly use the plugs on my own). She was much more relaxed asking me and talking about sexual activity than she usually is. Then we talked about my pleasure in being sexually submissive to her, even in small ways (mostly, she welcomes me serving her, but she is not very domme). I've had a bit of a breakthrough I think, and we talked about it. She has complained in the past that I'm kinkier than she, and that I'm always pushing her boundaries. She resists, I've gotten frustrated, and it backfires: she actively resists by being even less exploratory or adventurous. Now, in chastity, I'm realizing that the opposite may help us both: I am being more submissive (still working on getting better at that), simply doing what she wants, for her, with no expectation or suggestion that she do *anything*. In particular, no suggestion that she or I do anything that is outside our norms. Then, as she feels safer -- less pushed -- and more confident and enjoying being in charge, she can relax more and start to feel more comfortable exploring new ways to have fun and experience pleasure. That is, rather than me pushing her to expand her boundaries (which is a big fail), sit back, leave her be, exercise patience, and let her develop the comfort and confidence to (perhaps) push her own boundaries. 

I think that's what's been happening gradually over the past six months, and this awakening awareness on my part reinforces my sense that chastity is a wonderful path for the two of us.
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Re: [cshorts] My (our) journey

Post by spinpole2001 » Mon May 06, 2019 6:44 am

Really enjoyed reading your story so far, please keep giving us updates!
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Re: [cshorts] My (our) journey

Post by cshorts » Mon May 06, 2019 2:58 pm

Thanks @spinpole2001.

Not much to report this week. I had only two days back home before leaving for current trip and had to cram in so much work we had no personal time (I was going to bed after she went to sleep, even), except for an hour to catch up over dinner.

First night of the trip (Thursday) she let me read her an erotic story over the phone while she played with he magic wand. She tends to be pretty noisy when cumming, but I think she’s even been feeling more uninhibited— or enjoying teasing more — since I entered chastity, because she’s picked up the volume. And she just kept going through 4 or maybe 5 Os before telling me to stop (fortunately it was a long story). Of course I was caged, so my pleasure came solely from listening and enjoying her pleasure.

Tonight I think she’s going to let me read to her again, but this time with her iPad on its stand between her legs with FaceTime on, another new way she has started teasing me while I’m traveling.
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Re: [cshorts] My (our) journey

Post by cshorts » Sun May 19, 2019 11:18 am

Short reflection on the past week. We seem to be settling into a comfortable place. SL is accepting (still doesn't understand) my chastity, and is becoming more comfortable with enjoying the benefits without guilt. She did talk the other night about how it does seem to her selfish -- why should it just be what she wants, isn't a good partnership about what both want? I reminded her that it was my idea, that being denied and sexually serving her *is* what I want, and she seemed okay with that.

In fact, I do hope things will progress to a more balanced place: I would love for her to engage in more teasing and sex, along with the denial. But based on how things are going so far, and what I've learned from others in the forums, I think we're more likely to get there if I am patient and don't suggest (which she might experience as pushing).

And indeed, it's not a desert! For example, she took (and gave!) delight by giving me two blowjobs (cage on) in the past three days, working me up into a state then smiling and stopping. Once she stopped so I could give her oral pleasure (without denial!), the other time we cuddled and went to sleep (for me, sleep after my list and excitement settled down).

She unlocked me for sexytime yesterday, and said it was my lucky day. 'Why?" "Because I'm leaving on a trip so you can have your recovery and I don't have to do without your attentiveness." This is clearly becoming a (good) thing for her, too.

Days since last orgasm: 34
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