[Norcalguy09] and so it begins

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[Norcalguy09] and so it begins

Post by Norcalguy09 » Thu Sep 27, 2018 5:39 am

Just like many others here the journey has to begin somewhere. My story started about a month ago, maybe a couple months at the maximum. My wife and I have been married for 16 years and slowly over time our sex life began to slow down and became monotonous. Sex is more or less one position either in bed after all the kids are asleep or in the shower when we can squeeze in the time. I love my wife more than anything on this planet but my libido and hers are so far from the same. Like most men, I turned to porn and enjoyed myself because I don’t always want to bother her to please only myself.

I’ve now come to the point of realizing that I’m selfish and want to change. After stumbling upon this forum and another, I found that maybe Chastity is the way to bring some excitement and intrigue back to our sex life. I broached the subject with my wife and quickly bought my first cage, a knockoff CB device. After one week I found what size ring and spacer would fit and I was on my way, or do I thought.
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Re: (Norcalguy09) and so it begins

Post by Norcalguy09 » Thu Sep 27, 2018 2:59 pm

Through the first week of lbeing “locked” I had the key and would put the cb on after work, the usual time I would selfishly take care of my pent up desire. I knew if I was going to be successful I had to stop masturbating. Finally the weekend arrived and my wife decided to play along a bit. She is not against this Chastity by any means just it’s new and very different than anything we’ve ever done. She told me we could take a shower together and that I could piv for three minutes. Once the time was up I needed to stop and lock back up! This definitely got me going, I set a timer on my watch and quickly got to work. Sex has not felt this amazing in quite some time! I’m fact, I was so turned on by her time limit that after only 1 minute I was releasing inside of her with force. I was shaking and feeling faint as I pumped into her and my orgasm lasted longer than I’ve felt in a long time. On a side note, I so wanted to go down and clean her up, but she has never enjoyed oral, ever. Just one time in our sixteen years have I been allowed to help her cum by oral. Anyway, as we finished showering she did comment that maybe this chastity thing isn’t so bad. She always tells me I’m too big for her and that it hurts to penetrate her, but those words that I came so wuickly was a good thing for her made me so happy and turned on even more. It has given me hope that we will get more into the chastity life and hopefully make this more permanent.

I love my wife and now I’m recognizing that I love her even more that she wants to even just a little share this journey.
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Re: (Norcalguy09) and so it begins

Post by Norcalguy09 » Fri Sep 28, 2018 5:58 am

Since weekends are the only time that we have for potential play time, I was hoping for some play time this past weekend. Saturday came and she straight up told me, no. In the history of our marriage no has not been a word I’ve heard. She has felt in her words obligated to say yes. She doesn’t enjoy sex currently or for the past many years but always says yes for me, at least once a week. After discussing that I don’t get to make the call or demand sex but it’s now in her court she’s is slowly taking ownership. I love hearing her say no! Sure I want sex. But her saying no means that she is in control and that may be hotter than anything. She did however tell me I need to massage her glutes after an especially good booty workout she did the day before. I was so happy to oblige! While she laid on the couch I did my best to help massage and work out the knots all over her sexy butt for a good half hour or so. She grimaced and winced but even those sounds were good signs that I was doing my job. The whole time I could feel myself filling up my cage wishing I could press into her. This bit of teasing on her part whether on purpose on not was amazing and so sexy.

The next day we did our normal Sunday activities. I’ll say, wearing a cage to church seemed a bit naughty but fun. We came home and had lunch with the kids and what do you know, she didn’t ask, but told me to clean up the kitchen. More little steps in her taking on the female led marriage that I crave! Kids go down for naps and after cleaning the kitchen and it’s time to watch some football, she went to lay down for awhile as well. A bit later she texts me, 1 minute. Her message was loud and clear. I quickly turned off the tv and headed to the shower. She was already stripped naked and was warming up the shower. There is nothing like seeing my wife wet and dripping in the shower. Water running down her flat stomach and streaming down her breasts. I was out of my cage as quickly as my hands could move. She moved to the bench in the shower and proceeded to bend over so I could enter her in a standing doggy position. I set my timer and proceeded to find my way to her opening. Sex is so much fun with this new approach! Before I knew it the seconds were ticking down as I hurried to enter her and pump my cock into her. Being locked for the week I almost thought I could finish before time was up. Sooooo close but just not enough time. My watch buzzed and I was out of time. She just stood up and gave me a smile and said sorry and to lock it back up. We finished in the shower and after a few minutes to let my erection to go down I was back in my cage.

I can’t wait for this weekend! I may not even get unlocked but at this point I’m so happy that she’s playing along I may be just as happy if she denies me the whole weekend.

My wife is killing me in such a good way.
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Re: (Norcalguy09) and so it begins

Post by jfenoffti » Sun Oct 07, 2018 1:34 pm

Norcalguy09 wrote:
Fri Sep 28, 2018 5:58 am
wearing a cage to church seemed a bit naughty but fun.
When you think about it, it's actually just the opposite. You are absolutely chaste, for your wife. Just like your wedding vows. "...promise to keep yourself...." just for her.

That was a criteria my KeyHolder/wife had before we started -- is it supported by our religion or is it contrary? Very much supported! Game on!
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Re: (Norcalguy09) and so it begins

Post by Norcalguy09 » Tue Oct 09, 2018 1:39 am

After two weeks I am full of sexual frustration. And to top it of, the wife is unavailable as it’s her peroid week. Not very sexy usually but she made up for it by taking the lead by demanding a weekend of chores for me. She made many comments throughout the week that she’s not sure I’m goimg to like doing all the chores she has in mind. My brain was screaming YES I WILL!! The fact that she is taking the lead makes me overly excited.

Saturday comes and I’m lined up with chores. I sweep and mop the floors, fix a broken closet door, put a new handle on the back door, clean the guest bathroom and then the best part. She tells me to clean our bathroom, especially the shower. It needs to be clean in case I let you out of your 🔒. Instant blood flow to my caged member.

The evening comes and she heads to bed. I work nights so I typically stay up a few more hours. Usually just watch some tv but on this night I decide to read some erotic fiction. Surely she would not approve but I’m all worked up. My cage is trapping me so tightly and yet something happens that is a first for me. I can feel a climax building and yet there is zero touching on my part. Before I can turn my phone off and pay attention to the replay of the baseball game I am cumming in my shorts. What just happened?! I can’t say that it didn’t feel amazing and yet, I am filled with anxiety as I just got off without permission. To make matters worse I hide it from my keyholder wife and try to move on.

Pretty uneventful rest of the weekend and then it’s time for work. The week begrudgingly passes and wife texts throughout the week that she has more chores planned for the weekend. She left me unlocked for work for most of the week but Friday I had to lock myself up because I kept finding myself hard while she was texting me.

Saturday comes again and I’m busy cleaning the house some more. Wife comments many times that she’s loving this new arrangement. I too love that she is happy and enjoying it. I’m trying to not comment and being caged in a bad way but still learning. Either way, Monday is the last day of the weekend for me. She tells me that if I want to cum I better be ready when she says so.

Again she’s not so much into the sex for her pleasure but she still is doing this for me. Part of me wants to stay locked up as penance for cumming the week before but the other part wants whatever she wants to allow me. I told her that if she prefers I’ll stay locked but she says no. “You will come shower with me and I’ll give you two minutes. If you don’t cum than too bad.”

She starts the shower and begins warming herself up in the steaming water. I don’t get to see her naked often and was mesmerized by her small breasts and hard nipples. They are absolute perfection to me. I’ve removed my cage and began stroking myself. I asked if I could join her to which she nods yes. I jump I. And begin to lube up my hardening cock. She makes sure to tell me to set my timer and not go over. She checks my watch to be sure I’m honest and then turns around and bends over presenting her tight butt to me. She’s leaned over the built in shelf in the shower water cascading down her back side. Like always she allows me to slowly penetrate her and get her lubed up inside. She feels especially tight and hot inside. Once properly ready she tells me to start the timer. I feel like I’m going to lose it on the first couple of thrusts but eventually settle into a rhythm. I don’t want to look at my watch but I can feel the time flying by. Twenty seven seconds to go and I can feel myself building up for a powerful explosion. The seconds are ticking and I’m so close! Just as I’m about to cum my watch goes off and she pulls away. The movement of her releasing me sets me off and I explode all over the wall and floor of the shower. One large shot and then just dripping cum. Without even trying she has ruined my orgasm. (In fact she didn’t know what that was until a couple weeks ago when I hinted that that might be fun to try sometime.) it felt so good to get some release and yet not nearly satisfying enough. The best part was that as I was moaning and cumming she was laughing at my plight. Normally I would be mad if she did that, this time it was music to my ears. Has she really started to embrace this that much already?

I really am uncertain how much she is into this. She has made repeated comments that she likes me doing the cleaning and her other comments randomly about being locked up, then this laughing at my ruined orgasm has me on cloud nine. I only hope that this will continue to develop and that she will get more pleasure from her taking the lead in our sexual relationship.

My wife and keyholder is simply the best!
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Re: (Norcalguy09) and so it begins

Post by Norcalguy09 » Tue Oct 16, 2018 1:16 am

Another week of work down and a weekend full of chores. Wife/KH is definitely into this part of the lifestyle. I am hopeful that after a while she will begin to understand this is all for her. From my perspective we have a long way to go, however before I become too negative, I really do appreciate her trying. Like I’ve e said in the past sex is not in the top ten things that she thinks about on the daily. I digress.

We’re give or take a month in to the weekend chores. I’ve grown to expect them and in fact hope that it is her taking more of a dominant role, whether she thinks about it actively or not. I spent the first afternoon staying busy and really blowing through the list. Sunday comes and I’m selfishly getting irritated that she hasn’t commented on denying me or not for the weekend sexually. I mention it in passing and she says no, not this weekend. Ha! I’m oddly ecstatic. She also mentioned oops, I kinda fogot about that. If I knew she was teasing me, I’d be even more excited however I know she really did forget so I’m a bit bummed. Oh well. I did get a slight feeling of the cage shrinking or my cock swelling until it was tightly trapped in my cage. Was a great feeling.

Fast forward to Monday afternoon and after some more chores I get ready to go take a shower. She meets me in the hallway and says she decided to give me fifty seconds of PIV. Holy junk!! Shrinking cage again. She gives me the key to unlock while she proceeds to strip her clothes off and jumps in the shower. I know she doesn’t like me ogling so I ask her permission to come into the shower while she shaved her legs and warmed up. She consents and I waste no time jumping in and standing in the corner. Feeling lucky, I ask if I may stroke myself until she’s done shaving and ready. Again she consents and it’s my lucky day. I begin to stroke while also lubing up to be ready in a moments notice. My watch timer is already set and I’m so ready to go. As usual she bends over the shower shelf and presents herself in a standing doggy position. I slide in behind her and work myself into her. Trying gently to ease inside of her tight pussy. (Interestingly, after having our child, she is even tighter than she was before. A big thanks to her on/gyn.)

She tells me to start the timer and I’m off to pumping into her. I can tell that I’m not going to last long but I’m not sure if fifty seconds is quite enough time. She feels so good and I’m getting close. I don’t even look at the time because I can feel myself about to lose it. Just like last week I start to cum inside of her when the timer buzzes. I managed to get one burst into her when she stood up straight and watched as the rest of my cum dribbled out onto the floor of the shower. The feeling is so maddening/amazing as I watch two or three more sad drips of cum leak out of my still hard cock. I don’t know if I call this a ruined orgasm or not but I know that it’s not normal to still be this turned on right after a full ejaculation for me. Whatever it is, I both love it and hate it at the same time. Her smirk makes me think she is at least somewhat enjoying putting me through this. And that is the silver lining to her forgetting earlier in the weekend.

Chastity definitely takes two to make it work. While I know she doesn’t think about it as much as I do, obviously she’s not wearing a cage, I love where we are, and even more of where I hope we are going on this journey.
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Re: [Norcalguy09] and so it begins

Post by Norcalguy09 » Tue Oct 23, 2018 1:34 am

Normally the weekend consists of chores and if any PIV is going to happen it’s sunday or Monday, this weekend my KH/wife started to fun quickly. Normal chores were given and then that afternoon she told me that she needed to wash her hair. She also let me know that she was going to give me 35 seconds to PIV. This time she made me wait to join her until she had shaved and washed her hair. I wasn’t even allowed to enjoy the view of her sexy naked body this time. She seems to be getting more and more comfortable denying me.

Once she had pretty much finished in the shower she told me to get into the shower and lube up. I set my watch timer like always but this time I unsilenced my alarm. She does allow me a few extra seconds usually to work the lube into her and let her get used to me being inside of her. Before I could start the timer she made sure to tell me to not pump into her too hard. In my mind that was just one more way for her to control me and I loved it! Timer is clicked and I begin getting into a rhythm, not too hard but definitely I’m trying hard to cum. Looking back, it had been about a month since last fully cumming inside her or by myself. My body has never gone this long since I can remember, maybe years. I know the seconds are counting down and I am nowhere close to release. If I had another 30 seconds I may have. I pull out of her and it takes what seems like eternity for my hardness to go away.

Later that evening we sat on the couch and I was told to massage her sore quads. Better yet was she was only wearing her panties and a tank top. Nothing like teasing me by touching her in a nonsexual way. We talked for a while about this lifestyle and I asked her if she was getting more comfortable with it all. Surprisingly she admitted that she is but still feels pressure to allow me to have sex with her. I reassured her that if I am doing anything to make her feel pressured to let me know and especially that it is up to her if she wants to add time to my chastity. The conversation was unlike most conversations about sex in that we finished talking and there wasn’t awkwardness and irritation. Just that she’s coming along and will try to step up more to the dominant role.

Fast forward fifteen hours and I made what I thought was a lighthearted joke and she let me know in no uncertain terms that it wasn’t funny and that any jokes about her body are off limits. In the past we have joked about her butt or abs or anything and it’s fine. Not today. I was told that I would not be having sex with he today and probably not tomorrow. Feeling confused and a little turned on by her quick dominance.

The weekend ended with her announcing that she was going to take a shower and not to even think about me joining her. She also let me know that due to not finishing all the chores that next weekend might be off the table too.

My wife IS starting to get the hang of this!
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Re: [Norcalguy09] and so it begins

Post by Norcalguy09 » Thu Oct 25, 2018 5:40 am

Quick update. I asked the wife if I should wear my cage to work on Tuesday and she said, yes I think you should! Music to my ears. She thinks it would hurt or be a bother but I’ve been trying to reassure her that it doesn’t hurt. She is slowly working this more into our daily lives and is more open to talk about me being in chastity.

I’m excited at the coming prospects of this locked life.
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Re: [Norcalguy09] and so it begins

Post by Norcalguy09 » Sun Nov 04, 2018 12:39 pm

It’s shower time and her question is, “have you gotten all your chores done?” No, but I will once I go to town to drop the stuff in the mail and donate the old baby clothes. She relents but only gives me 25 seconds. Thanks to being locked up, it’s almost all I need!

For a wife/KH that doesn’t really enjoy sex she is very happy with our new arrangement. The pressure is off of her to perform and she smiles and laughs just a little when I can’t quite finish.

She also is more free to just pull her pants down to model her new panties. “Aren’t these cute?!”

Also, she is taking a trip in two weeks and hinted that I may not get out until she gets back. Never been locked 24/7 for that long. Oh my!

I love my wife!! Here’s to hoping there’s more PIV this weekend but even if not, we’re having fun with the chastity life.
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Re: [Norcalguy09] and so it begins

Post by Norcalguy09 » Tue Nov 13, 2018 2:41 am

Sweet release! It has been since September 15th since a full release. The wife is headed on a trip and I think she had pity on me as I will be locked up 24/7 for the entirety of her trip. Add work this week and her trip and it will be nearly two weeks fully locked up. This will be a record for sure.

PIV is now strictly on her terms and has happened five times in the past almost two months, her preferred method also only allows for a few seconds each of those times. This latest was 30 seconds and then she told me to stroke myself until I released. I was not about to argue and finished quickly.

While I know there are many of you that have much longer times between PIV or even full releases, we continue to learn and I hope to share more as we progress.
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