[onlyhers4ever] our journey

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Onlyhers4ever
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Re: [onlyhers4ever] our journey

Post by Onlyhers4ever » Tue Apr 24, 2018 11:51 am

This past weekend did not go as I had originally thought it would. Friday we were supposed to have appeared in court on a civil matter which would have been reason to unlock my cage or risk explaining to a local sheriff deputy why I set off the metal detector. Our hearing got postponed so no release for me on Friday. Then, Saturday we had some opportunity to enjoy a relaxing morning which led to some cuddling, followed by my starting to finger her pussy. My wife then asked to try out some of our new toys so I ended up inserting a small plug in her ass and then proceeded to fuck her with the strap-on dildo. Needless to see she had a very good time and I got so excited myself that I actually came while still wearing my cage. I was a bit disappointed but still enjoyed the overall scene. Of course, I was hoping that it would continue with her perhaps letting me out of my cage and maybe even use the strap-on on me but neither happened. I have now been continuously locked for 42 days with no expectation of being released for at least another week. My wife is certainly getting used to the idea of denial. Just wish there was a bit more teasing to go along with it.
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Re: [onlyhers4ever] our journey

Post by Onlyhers4ever » Mon Jul 02, 2018 3:04 am

I am still alive. Just have not had much time lately to update this journal. I think my previous lock up period ended at around 61 days. Since then there have been a couple releases and maybe one orgasm but then I was locked back up. I think I am now around 40 days into my current lock up period.

I had a conversation with my wife yesterday that I thought I would share. We had woke up and she asked me to go down on her (definitely a favorite activity for me). Afterwards she began fondling my locked member and I mentioned how desperate I was getting. She replied that maybe I would get released soon and allowed to come. I said something like “you can always release me and not let me come” and her response was “I am not that mean.” I then responded by telling her that is exactly what I wanted her to do. We have been playing with chastity for about a year now (not county previous failed attempts) and one thing she has never really done is edge me with the cage off. I always wondered why she would not do this. Hopefully after our conversation yesterday that will change.
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Re: [onlyhers4ever] our journey

Post by Schnoff » Mon Jul 02, 2018 4:46 am

Onlyhers4ever wrote:
Mon Jul 02, 2018 3:04 am
I said something like “you can always release me and not let me come” and her response was “I am not that mean.” I then responded by telling her that is exactly what I wanted her to do.
It took Bear forever to be okay with teasing me and not giving me an orgasm. That’s because in his mind, that was “mean”. I kept telling him how I feel when he edges me and then denies me orgasm, and he gradually came to an understanding that I am very different from him there. “I don’t get it,” he’d tell me, “like, I get you like this, but I can’t put myself in your shoes.”

He’d feel guilt when he denied me orgasm. Over time, by being told how grateful I feel when he does this to me, and how much pleasure I derive from it, he’s shed that guilt, to where he now enjoys the game.

I’ve seen a comment by someone who plays with men and women alike and he said that in his experience, generally and with exceptions allowed, men benefit from fewer or no orgasms, while women benefit from more orgasms.

She is fundamentally different from you in how she experiences sex and orgasm, most likely. So keep at it! Telling her how you feel will get you two there. Your emotions give her more than just “I want you to do this”. She will gradually come to understand that edging and teasing is not mean or cruel.
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Re: [onlyhers4ever] our journey

Post by Onlyhers4ever » Fri Jul 06, 2018 2:01 pm

So one thin that happened during the past month or so that I haven’t yet written about was that I finally experienced a real pegging session with my wife. Talk about a wild ride. Not sure if it was physical sensation or the act of total submission that I enjoyed more. I can’t wait to experience that again
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