[belocked] What have I started?

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belocked
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Re: [belocked] What have I started?

Post by belocked » Sun Dec 17, 2017 4:47 am

Its been a long time since my last update. All I can say is that chastity isn't enough to save a relationship. We're still together, but it's been a tough year and I still don't know if we'll save our marriage or not.

My wife isn't interested in chastity at all. The only time I used the cage was after the summer holiday. I'd put on weight and wanted to lose it but knew it would be tough. I decided a week with exercise but no booze would help so I bought a kitchen safe, set it for a week with the keys inside, and locked myself in my cage. I told myself that any infraction would mean a reset. I soon wanted out enough that I did everything I needed to get out at the end of the week. It worked great! Maybe not a typical use of a cage but highly motivational.
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johnny1
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Re: [belocked] What have I started?

Post by johnny1 » Mon Feb 05, 2018 7:47 pm

Hey - I read through your journal and found it very interesting, though the last bit was a bit of a twist. Any updates?
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belocked
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Re: [belocked] What have I started?

Post by belocked » Tue Feb 06, 2018 1:41 pm

johnny1 wrote:Any updates?
The marriage is recovering slowly, but has a long way to go. Chastity just doesn't seem important right now as we have bigger stuff to sort out.
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Re: [belocked] What have I started?

Post by johnny1 » Tue Feb 06, 2018 6:40 pm

Understandable. I guess I meant to ask how things are going in general, rather than chastity-wise. Glad to hear it's headed back in the right direction. Best of luck.
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belocked
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Re: [belocked] What have I started?

Post by belocked » Sat Mar 02, 2019 2:41 pm

A year later and I suppose it's time for an update. Things didn't work out and we're in the process of divorcing. Very sad but not hateful stuff like some.

Occasionally I self-lock as it seems to lift my spirits, and not having erections even seems to help me sleep better. I still monitor this site and another "mansion", and I miss the thrill of having someone else take charge. I'm thinking of using my kitchen safe more to add a little spice to my life, but it's not the same. I've even just bought a Custom Chastity Saint; perhaps just a passing thrill but it will give me something to think about and try out. I'll post my views on it when I start using it.

This post is mainly to tell people that chastity isn't a guaranteed way of recovering from other relationship issues. Perhaps it helped my marriage for a while, but the problems were too deep for chastity to make a difference.

As this is my personal journey, please don't post any replies here. Depending on my mindset I may reply to any PMs, but probably not quickly. Good luck to you all in your journeys.
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