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> But when I voice my concerns about the hurt, rejection, and anguish that this causes for me, she seems to dismiss it as though I were just one more chastity sub enjoying the "torments" (?) of enduring such denial. Right, so she’s not hearing you at all. And that’s why you’re getting advice to work...

That’s quite the conundrum. You say she doesn’t want you to touch her genitals. How about her touching your genitals? Is she still on board with that? > What does she want? What does she need? > That’s for her to answer. I recommend to have that discussion outside of the D/s relationship, as equals....

Welcome to the forums, @Beard! As for folks - “normal” covers a very wide range of behavior. We do try to keep it real. We’ve been known to shift entirely unbelievable accounts into fiction. Nothing wrong with a good yarn!

I stopped edging myself in 2018, if memory serves. It led to orgasms - what you call “half-ruins” - sooner or later, and with no way to avoid that. My libido has been fine. Bear edges me when we have sex, once or twice a week. He likes the noises I make, and I need touch and genital pleasure to feel...

Thanks for sharing.

Do your feelings need classification and nomenclature? Emotions are messy. Though figuring out why a thing leads to a specific emotion, that’s helpful.

Here’s to you finding to a better place!

@sirmebane Instructions to build this on protoboard can be found here: https://github.com/night-howler/protogasm

I have no experience with 3D or pcb printing services - any recommendations?

I came across an open source hardware / software project, that uses an inflatable butt plug as a sensor and controls a 12V vibrator, compatible with magic wand attachments. It ramps up vibrations slowly, and stops them for a bit when impending orgasm is sensed through the plug. This might be compati...

We have never used a cock cage around here. Sometimes, even with years of conditioning behind me, I will stroke myself when not allowed. I asked Bear to be allowed to wear a cage when I realize I can't control myself, or for extended travel, and he said he was fine by it. I was looking for something...

Hey PoodleGirl , welcome to the forums! The arousal is normal, whether mentally or physically from the ring or a combination of both. That can be one of the benefits of this play, “frustrated arousal” can be fun. I can’t speak much to your relationship with your genitals. The only thing that comes t...

I’d call that “tease and denial”, and, it can definitely be called chastity. To be “chaste” originally meant to be “sexually pure”, as if there was such a thing. Keeping your arousal high for when your spouse wants to have sex, and reserving orgasm for her, fits into that “chaste” mindset for me.