Driving the wife crazy with chastity

[gggxthree]

New to chastity, 3 months. Current lock up is 13 days .. my brain is so focused on the cage and teasing that it's driving my wife crazy .. "not everything needs to be about chastity "

Help me

[Tongue+groove]

I read a caption once that said “its not chastity until you want out”

So pretty much you have to commit to not saying a word about it unless she brings it up. Then keep it short and sweet. Keep in mind this was probably your idea not hers so she has a lot of catching up to do. Not to mention she’s not wearing something that constantly reminds her about it.

[Spaceman]

I've had to change so I only talk about it when she brings it up and I never make suggestions or ask her to do anything. Tbh if I'd gone one about it all the time she would have stoped it there and then.

Maybe that's your incentive, shut up or lose it?

[Herman]

Treat her nice, be attentive, and let her soak it all in. It is a lot for a woman to accept that her man wants to lock up his manhood. She will come around if you give her time.

[Tom Allen]

Years ago, I had to explain it to Mrs Edge. "Your life has not changed; mine has become vastly different."

It took some time and effort on my part, but I did learn how to not talk about it all the damn time.

[Sam3655]

When CS finally took the keys, we had a contract written up detailing each of our responsibilities and punishments should we violate the contract. One line said that I could not bring up Chastity unless she brought it up first and another line read that I could only ask to be unlocked for hygiene and medical reasons. Punishment was to push back my release date.

Now we don’t have release dates as I am locked 24/7 but I have also learned not to bring up Chastity unless above mention stipulations apply.

You may wish to draw up a contract with the wife. Many are available online and you and her can tweak them to meet your situation.

[Herman]

When I was trying to get my wife to see a benefit of me being in chastity, I used this argument to help sell her on the idea -

When we go to bed at night, over the years, I always try to get her to snuggle, and always (used to) try to see if she is in the mood for more... The last few years, she was less and less willing to snuggle because she didn't want it to go any further.

Once I explained to her that if I was wearing a cage, 'going further' wasn't going to happen unless she wanted it to. We could just snuggle each night, and then go to sleep, and she wouldn't have to feel guilty about it. Everything would be on her terms. She really liked this!

Now, we snuggle more than ever, and we both are enjoying it more! Over time, she is seeing more and more benefits to me wearing a cage. She also teases me a lot more than she ever did. She never did this very much in the past, for the same reason she didn't want to snuggle at night. Now she teases me a lot, without any worries! We both love it!

I don't know if you can use any of this, but it worked for me!

[cuyahoga]

I think it was on here that I read about someone with an agreement with their wife that on a certain night of the week, for a certain length of time, was his opportunity to get everything off his chest.

And another idea was a journal accessible to both parties, where he wrote things down to get them off his chest, and she could look at it at her leisure.

I also struggled with talking about it all the time. It was similar to breaking an addiction, in that not talking about it too much, and reading when it was acceptable, got easier with practice.

[Chastityat60]

@gggxthree
This advise is as good as it gets..
might be worth listening to...

[Mr Pickle]

We have a date night.
It used to be at home and I would cook. Lay the table, candles etc. After the kids had gone to bed.

Kids grown so now we go out for a meal.

For this I get 20 minutes to chat and report chastity stuff.