[RickTheGuy] Striving for Improvement

[RickTheGuy]

After 30 hours of being locked up, it started getting uncomfortable. Using the inspiration from my Goddess, I kept pushing forward.

Trying to focus one day at a time but then my mind wanders to the possibility of 30 days and it’s overwhelming.

Just have to keep working. I cannot give up; something I have done so often in tha past.

Remembering that I’m not just doing this for myself but for others and I cannot disappoint them (or myself),

Reading through other entries on this forum has been enormously helpful. We’re not alone. We may have different motivations, though it’s all atheists same kind of journey.

The best we’ve done is taken the first steps.

[Tongue+groove]

Use this as an opportunity to pleasure her as much as she wants. You will find a new and different reward/pleasure for yourself. It will provide the motivation to continue locked.

[RickTheGuy]

This was my hardest day yet. I had to readjust the cage several times due to pinching. I’m sure it’s the cheap quality of the cage itself. I will never again go cheap over quality.

I visited a sex shop in San Francisco years ago and received excellent advice but I didn’t listen and picked up something inexpensive.

So now I’m dealing with constant soreness. I’ve taken five minute breaks and it’s harder to get back on. I’ve been using oils and lotions, which temporarily helps.

(Thank you tongue + groove for the good advice. The tongue, indeed, can make up for a lot).

I’m looking forward to Monday.

[RickTheGuy]

I had a tough time mentally Monday, nearly calling it quits. Thankfully I was talked down but I need time to sort through things in my mind.

Much of my concern is the lack of comfort. When it’s physically okay, I’m in a much better state of mind. Maybe it’s because I have never gone so long with a cage on and have never been through periods of discomfort.

The cage itself is a consideration. When I can manipulate the skin around the ring it’s fine. But it seems the skin can get bunched and pinched and that means mild suffering.

Reading through other journals lets me know I am not alone and helps keep me focused on my goals: shifting my mindset in regards of being chaste long term; becoming a better man; understanding there’s a higher principle.

[atxmtb]

Don't quit. If need be get a new cage. I'd recommend a Vice (It's what I use). I've worn it 30 days straight (never off), and off and on for over a year. And it was my first cage. There's lots of parts so you can mix/match to find the right combination that fits.

In any case, yes, it takes a bit for your body to accept it. That's why it's good to have a KH who doesn't take any shit. "You wanted this, now suck it up. Oh, what? It's pinching you? Poor baby". Now, I don't know how bad fitting it is. Maybe it's truly terrible, but mix it up some. Wrap a long shoelace around your waist through the cage and tie it tight if that helps. Rub vasoline around if that helps. Accept some discomfort if that helps. I can attest that with the right cage, you will hardly know it's on.

Good luck

[WifeIsVanilla]

Cobras come in a lot of sizes. When you find one that fits snugly enough to stop erection attempts in their tracks, it should be comfortable.

As for bunched up skin, every time in put a device on, the skin gets bunched up. I lube the bunched up areas well with baby oil and push the skin into place with the end of an old toothbrush. I also use baby oil on strategic areas after showering, before bed and when I get up in the morning. I could literally wear my Mature Metal JailBird forever comfortably if real life didn't get in the way.

[RickTheGuy]

Thanks for the great replies. As soon as I drink my coffee, I’m going out for supplies and hopefully a more comfortable future.

[RickTheGuy]

The combination of petroleum jelly and a missing piece of the cage turned into a nice, comfortable day.

I missed a small piece of plastic tubing that was supposed to slip over the joint that had been pinching me. I have some soreness after eight days without the tube but now that the problem is solved I feel much better.

It was a smooth day with the cage, though I still struggled with arousal. When I’m not working I’m trying to keep busy around the house. I do feel a bit more energetic but it does get boring at times.

I really just sat back and enjoyed the lack of pain,

[slave d]

You’re supposed to feel aroused, that’s the whole point, you get more and more aroused and eventually learn that orgasm isn’t some big deal it’s the end of a journey of arousal. Then finally you realise that arousal is actual much better than orgasm and then you’re getting somewhere !!

MsM’s ld

[KnownAsHerbert]

Just get used to arousal because it's not going to go away.

Well it might go away for a while but you can be sure that it will be back. You'll find yourself getting hard unexpectedly sometimes no apparent reason. Just enjoy it!