Total orgasm control.... Good or bad

[Caged55]

My KH has decided that a "scheduled" orgasm, i.e. one every month or 3 months etc, puts her under pressure of granting such an orgasm - because its scheduled and therefore an expectancy is created, which in turn would limit her, granting me additional orgasms - as she pleases, or for her pleasure...

Her version is now: There will be NO SCHEDULED ORGASMS - orgasms may or may not be granted when SHE wishes, which may be during sex (PIV) or masturbation for her viewing pleasure etc. The rules that accompany her decision are simply:
- No begging or pleading for release or orgasm
- No emotional games
- No mention of my orgasm needs
- No demands, no "games"

Orgasms, at her sole discretion, at all times, and very/totally dependant on my behavior which will be determining as to her granting me an orgasm or orgasms.... time will tell, but she did say I should have NOT have ANY expectancy EVER, but to await her permission.... could work both ways, hoping for more orgasms, although she made it very clear, future orgasms depend soley on my "post" orgasm behavior, and general behavior before and after a permitted orgasm - I must say, I find it very sexy how she taken total control and "dictates" from the top...

hmmm anybody else have this sort of arrangement?....

[Forherdesire]

That is pretty close to my arrangement. I never know when I will come, whether it be a ruined, milked or regular orgasm I never know. So far in the last three weeks she has given me two full orgasms and three ruined with one of those having after orgasm torture.

[locked4her55]

Orgasms, at her sole discretion

This is how it has always been. No schedule for us. Never know when my next release or orgasm will be. I'm not allowed to discuss it either.

[knighterrant]

Orgasms, at her sole discretion

This is how it has always been. No schedule for us. Never know when my next release or orgasm will be. I'm not allowed to discuss it either.

+1

[carolina cyclist]

Orgasms, at her sole discretion

This is how it has always been. No schedule for us. Never know when my next release or orgasm will be. I'm not allowed to discuss it either.

+1

+1 as well.

[DLsKnight]

Orgasms, at her sole discretion

This is how it has always been. No schedule for us. Never know when my next release or orgasm will be. I'm not allowed to discuss it either.

This pretty much sums it up. She has not allowed one for the past year and 12 weeks.

[groundedBird]

We have started on scheduled orgasms but no scheduled orgasm is what I'm aiming at. If this happens, in the long run I am likely to get lesser full orgasms than on the schedule release plan

[Caged55]

... its a bit daunting, even being on a 3 month orgasm schedule, to no schedule at all... I understand her reasoning at not wanting to be under pressure to grant me an orgasm just because the time is up, this way its under her TOTAL control, and highly dependant on my behavior pre and post orgasm... but then that is what I signed up for when we decided to accept chastity as a permanent part of our life, now that SHE enforces it, its kind of even more sexy, I love her control and that she is accepting chastity as a permanent enforced way of life, which SHE loves... I just hope I get to orgasm occasionally, or even more than the scheduled 4 we where on....

[Locked by LRC]

Other than the begging and pleading we are also there. LRC encourages begging and pleading because she enjoys it. However, there's times when she doesn't want to hear it or I'm getting to whinny, she'll tell me, and it has to be suspended for the rest of the day.

[peter_rabbit]

Yes. My wife doesn't like schedules or games. For the past 448 days I've had no orgasms without it being a gift from her. I vowed to never edge, masturbate or milk myself this year. She is more generous than my fantasy addled brain would have me denied. We've accomplished two record breaking one-month stretches of denial this year.

I only sometimes ask for cuddling which sometimes leads to her decision to have sex. I need that physical connection with her. My skin hungers for her.

But she laid down the ground rules last year. If this is going to work, she gets to tease me whenever she wants and I'm not allowed to beg and whine for more. She had to be firm about it because I'd always chase her or make her feel guilty.

That guilt has passed. She tells me it's good to be hungry. And that my always responsive libido means I'm healthy. She takes care of me.

I now treat tease and denial as a gift, as much as an orgasm. Being told "tomorrow" or "later" helps me greatly. It means she cares, and understands. She rarely has me stroke myself. It's been only once this year. It's easier when my cock and ass are completely hers to play with.

Otherwise I will either get myself overly excited and not fun.

If I beg or plead, demand or play emotional games then she shuts down disapprovingly.
I don't count down the days for her, and let her know how long it's been. We used to in the past but that creates pressure on her

I'm also not to apologize for being too quick. She decides when I cum, and has fantastic control (internal muscle control and her clever hands) I would apologize, but she shut that down too. It was a near scolding.

Basically I'm not to introduce any negativity into this dynamic.
It has to be whenever it pleases her, and I am to be grateful for what I get. She's started ruining and frustrating my orgasms. I'd love to ask for more, but I keep her in the drivers seat. She's finding her own in this.

Now, I'd rather never have any cum release without her, orgasm or no.
Unfortunately I've had two spontaneous ejaculations this year, both with a fevered frenzied brain.

In short I think it is so much better now that it is her decision, and I don't complain. After we reach my first 500 days under orgasm and masturbation control, I hope my good behavior will let us continue to 1000. (Swoon!) Then after 1000 days under her orgasm control, I hope to make her a vow to last forever. It's become a romantic dream of mine.

Do try giving in completely and letting her drive. I'm finally living my dream.