Bisexual Key Holder

[maxANDsue]

I cannot be the only one with a female bisexual KH. Here is my situation. A few years ago we moved away from my wife's girlfriend of 38 years which consumed most of our 45 years of marriage. My wife's sexual preference is a little strange and as I learned, being bisexual is not just putting her hand down someone's pants and being happy with whatever she found there. She has only been with one women and only with me present, even if just to watch. Her order of preference is FFM and FM with me being the only man, which we tested out once before. That is it. After our move, our sex life got boring so I looked for something to spice it up that we had not tried before and that was not as easy as it sounds. My wife tried anything once.

We discovered chastity about a year ago and I wear a CB6000s most of the time with a few hours of freedom every few days when my wife is with me. Here is the problem. My wife thinks semen is disgusting, especially the way men shoot it all over the place. She has not allowed intercourse for longer than either of us can remember. I estimate it has been about 30 years. She blamed my semen for giving her all the vaginal infections she had. Plus intercourse is not comfortable for her due to a medical condition. Once we found out that I was sterile and could not get her pregnant, there was no reason for intercourse in her mind.

Sounds strange and so is my wife's sexuality and feelings for me. As she tried to explain, she enjoys making me hard, edging me and watching and listening to my moans of pleasure and frustration. She says that the noises I make and the hardness of my penis are what triggers her orgasms. She is very multi orgasmic with me and was not with her g/f. She would cum once and that was it with her g/f. As far as she is concerned, she only lets me cum to please me because she loves me. She would be happy if I never came again.

The main issue we are having is that I am telling her to only make me have an orgasm when she wants to, not when I want to and yet, I lay a guilt trip on her when I want to cum. She told me that I cannot have it both ways because I am actually in control in the long run, not her. I see her point but I am hesitant to give total control to a woman who is not interested in making me orgasm for her pleasure. She is talking about if she has her way, I would never cum again. In reality I am thinking that she will actually only deny me for a few months at a time and let me cum on our anniversary, xmas and my birthday at the least.

Anyone else have a bisexual KH who views your orgasm as unnecessary to her enjoyment of sex? Would you put your fate in the hands of someone like that? She did confess that she only fantasizes about having sex with women, never men and that my squirting cum when she is using her vibrator destroys her fantasy. She has to hold my erect penis when she masturbates. I do not know why, but she does. That creates a situation where she has a very sensitive and horny penis in her hand but is focused on herself, not me. I have had a few accidents like that. I try to warn her but she is so focused on herself she does not pay attention to me. She does not want that to happen anymore and has been telling me to wear my CB when we have sex and I prefer that I feel her hand on me and not on my balls or plastic cage.

Tonight is her birthday and also our scheduled date night. I have not cum in two weeks or so and she wants me to go for about 10 more weeks until a special occasion for us. She said if I want to cum tonight she will show me a good time but that would be it for chastity play for her with no hard feelings. If I consent to be denied I will have to actually give her total control and not make her feel guilty anymore. I am on the fence right now. The thought of long term denial is exciting but I also like orgasms. I have a few hours left to make up my mind and I need to make a decision. I thought that writing this would help but it hasn't.

[jblackthorn]

Well like most of us in chastity we day dream and think wouldn't it be great if I was wearing this chacity and only allowed to cum when the wife/gf/partner allows it? The sexual tenstion builds up. But in practice after we go a while (days,weeks, months) we feel the earning to cum. We will do anything for it.

Like another post on here about a guy saying he's not gay, but wants to know if chacity makes him gay because he does gay things. The thing is, I and you asked for chacitity, if my keyholder (wife) brings home a guy (she hasn't before) and says suck his dick and I'll take your chactity off and give you an orgazam I'll do it. Not that I'm gay, just, I'm doing it because she told me to, and I get rewarded afterwards.

There is also the issue in that you do need to cum for health reasons. So I suggest you give in and do what your wife wants, but allow her the choice of how to handle your health. Wether she decides to make you cum, give you pivate time to rub one out, or she decides to milk you.

She's right you can't have it both ways, but she does need to take care of your health.

-John

[maxANDsue]

Well like most of us in chastity we day dream and think wouldn't it be great if I was wearing this chacity and only allowed to cum when the wife/gf/partner allows it? The sexual tenstion builds up. But in practice after we go a while (days,weeks, months) we feel the earning to cum. We will do anything for it.

Like another post on here about a guy saying he's not gay, but wants to know if chacity makes him gay because he does gay things. The thing is, I and you asked for chacitity, if my keyholder (wife) brings home a guy (she hasn't before) and says suck his dick and I'll take your chactity off and give you an orgazam I'll do it. Not that I'm gay, just, I'm doing it because she told me to, and I get rewarded afterwards.

There is also the issue in that you do need to cum for health reasons. So I suggest you give in and do what your wife wants, but allow her the choice of how to handle your health. Wether she decides to make you cum, give you pivate time to rub one out, or she decides to milk you.

She's right you can't have it both ways, but she does need to take care of your health.

-John

For us it is different. Sex is not used to reward or punish. That has worked for us over our 45 year marriage. We do not consider sex to be a weapon. It is an act to share intimacy and strengthen the bond between us. Chastity is a sex game for us. No matter what I do, it does not affect my release date, even buying my wife a new car as I recently did. All I got was a longer teasing session.

The other thing is that we know each others limits and boundaries and do not violate or push them without first discussing and agreeing. We have been into a lot of different sexual fetishes that were both just between us and that involved playing with others. Knowing each others limits kept us out of the trouble our friends got into that resulted in divorce.

As for being gay or not, you will never know until you try. My wife joined her girlfriend and me in bed 40 years ago. That started a 38 year threesome and our g/f having her own room in our home. Despite having over 4000 sexual experiences with a woman, my wife never considered herself bisexual. She only had sex with her g/f in a threesome with me. Outside of that context she did not show any affection to her g/f beyond the affection of two close friends. We grew up in a different time when society and even the gay/lesbian community did not recognize bisexuals. My wife and her girlfriend would have been considered as closet lesbians. Back then, it had serious consequences. So my wife only thought about being bisexual this year when I asked her. Her reply was that she never thought about her sexuality but was attracted to the person and not their sex. She also confessed that she only fantasized about women, never men. She hid her sexuality for a very long time.

So until you try it you will not know and even trying it does not make you gay unless you get sexually aroused. It can be just humiliation or something you will never repeat. Good luck.

[Finn]

My wife also hates semen, and I haven't had an orgasm with her for about 15 years. The difference is that she wants me to orgasm (usually 1-2 a month) for health reasons. In bed, she does not care if I ever cum again, but overall, she does want me to orgasm, or at least ejaculate. My kink partner/girl lives with us, and they are good friends (we have a kind of communal life, but not sexually at the same time) but dont interact sexually. My girl is now in charge of me "emptying out". That includes when, how often and how. I love that it's not up to me anymore, and that I can't give myself one, but despite being a hot fantasy when horny, I wouldn't want to go forever without, especially if it's simply out of lack of interest.

[maxANDsue]

Thanks for the good replies. Since my wife prefers to watch me with women, there will never be any guys coming over to our house for sex. Even if there was, ordered to or not, I would not have sex with him. My wife and I know each others limits and respect them. Our marriage is not a D/s one. I may surrender to her in the bedroom for some BDSM scenes but it is always discussed before hand as to what we will do.

I understand the feeling of submission because I do like to be sexually submissive but not lifestyle submissive. It just goes against my personality. I am one of those guys who others complain about me wanted to always do things my way. I am the result of my life experiences. Hard to change that at my age but I do understand sexual submission, just not to the level of many here.