Afraid she will SAY NO.. OR YES!

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Afraid she will SAY NO.. OR YES!

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I have been locked up for a couple of weeks and I am super horny. BUT, I feel so good. I have more energy. I am in a good mood. I'm focusing the energy on work. The only time it sucks is the middle of the night when I am horny as heck and the wife is sleeping soundly next to me. And I must say that REALLY, REALLY sucks. It is fairly miserable then - but just then. That is the time that I need to be locked. If not I would not have been able to resist. I know it. The other times are manageable. But then I would give in.

My wife knows I am really horny. But I have not asked to be allowed relief, although I really want it. It will suck if she says NO. But, I am also a bit worried if she says YES. How WEIRD is that?

I am almost afraid of losing my focus and energy.

Can anybody help me understand this?
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I think you are in the majority. It's the desire to orgasm then being denied keeps the game going. If you can have an orgasm whenever you want or don't want one at all, then what's the point of all this. It's not how much one gets to cum or how often, its that you only cum when your KH says to. I've been denied orgasm when I was dying for one, then made to orgasm over and over. I think chastity isn't just orgasm abstinence, but orgasm control. In my case, I trust that my KH knows best. If she wants me to cum twice a week that's fine, if she wants me to go so long I can't remember what an orgasm feels like, I'm cool with it too.
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I agree with everything you said, so thank you. Do you also feel more energetic? More focused? Happier?
For me the thing is that masturbation was almost a hobby for me. I think it kept me down. I actually FEEL better now.
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Yes to all three. I am much more content and feel better overall. I'm more attentive to my KH and a better husband. I think that before chastity, I was so concerned with getting off, I let other things go. Now that it is out of my hands, I can focus on other things, like home projects, making my KH comfortable, and giving her mind blowing, gushing orgasms. (Thanks cagedmonkey!!)
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notbeinfringed85 wrote:Yes to all three. I am much more content and feel better overall. I'm more attentive to my KH and a better husband. I think that before chastity, I was so concerned with getting off, I let other things go. Now that it is out of my hands, I can focus on other things, like home projects, making my KH comfortable, and giving her mind blowing, gushing orgasms. (Thanks cagedmonkey!!)
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notbeinfringed85 wrote:Yes to all three. I am much more content and feel better overall. I'm more attentive to my KH and a better husband. I think that before chastity, I was so concerned with getting off, I let other things go. Now that it is out of my hands, I can focus on other things, like home projects, making my KH comfortable, and giving her mind blowing, gushing orgasms. (Thanks cagedmonkey!!)
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The other day my wife jumps into bed, right out of the shower, wakes me up and says, "I have to be at work in one hour so get busy". Of course I do what needs to be done. After several wonderful O's she pushes me away and gets up to get dressed. I make the strong argument that her day would be even better if she unlocked me so that I could pleasure her even more. She replies "nope because I'm feeling really good right now and you are going to thank me later for not letting you out". I have to say she was correct as usual. About an hour later I texted her at work thanking her for not giving in. She responded "I know what's best for you" :D

It's that question of what we want vs what we need.
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I would agree with you completely. I just was saying that I have been in around a month and could end up going all summer if this next week doesn't work out. (kids and no school in the summer means, no private time) So I have that same thought, Let me out, no keep me in.... I want to have a release, No I want to not be released... Oh the mental battle. lol.
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