hi im new! any input much appreciated!

[subtoy]

Hi all, I'm new to the boards, I thought I'd introduce myself, tell you a bit about myself, as well as share some of my thoughts on chastity and these forums. I know people on forums usually disregard these kind of threads, since statistics (76% of which are made up, according to statistics) show that 90% of people sign up to a forum, only to post three or four times and never return. I can't promise that I'll be any different, but at the very least you might find it interesting to hear yet another mc story, since I very much enjoy reading about peoples experiences on here. Theres such a wide variety of stories, people and experiences. Selflockers, married men, flr (which are married men also of course), keyholders, 4 days locked, 2 years locked, cbxxx or full steel belts... it has been entertaining, infofmative and, well, HOT to read about all these experiences, which seem truthful most of the time (I feel like I have a pretty good sense of when somebody is living out their fantasy online, and when its real). I also would like to thank people like Tom Allen and thumper (are they the same person?) For all the information they provided. A lot of people like myself wouldn't have been able to indulge their kink if it wasnt for people like you, so thanks.
So, my name is subtoy. I'm 22 years old. My introduction to chastity went like this: interest in femdom from a young age turned into an interest in cuckolding, which in turn introduced me to
Chastity. I still have an interest in these other things, mainly femdom, as they complement each other I guess (although I wholeheartedly agree with the 'being chaste doesn't make you submissive' sentiment as well).
I am currently self-locked in a cb6000s. Of course, there is a big part of me that wishes he had a KH, but I enjoy chastity even without a s/o who shares my preferences. More on that later!
When I first bought the cb6ks, I did t know about these forums and I didnt knos about 'pulling out'. I thought I had the smallest dck in the world lol! Not even with the s allest ring it would stay on. But, about a year ago I discovered my own little 'anti-pullout system'. In another thread, I saw post by a guy who did the same... I reversed the parts that go against the base ring, so the ring is smaller and the parts dig into my dck a little bit. I call it the frowney face system . In the beginnig I was worried I might cut off blood circulation, since its a lot tighter, but with the right size basering its possible to wear it long term without being able to pull out. The distance between basering and cage is a bit short, but if you have a loose sack (which is basically what causez the 'pull out' thing), it works. Try it!
I might someday go metal, though. At first I thought the cbxxx line was more a toy than a real cb, because people seemed to kinda frown upon it (at least in comparison with metal) and I was able to pull out. But now I find my device is actually very competent even for long time use. I understand why people sould shell out a couple hundred dollars more for a jailbird, but that doesnt mean the cbx is useless, right?
Like I said before, there is a lot of information made available by people like tom allen, which is great. Still, I can't help but think this information is kind of scattered/difficult to find. Like, everything is thdre, but all in different blog posts, different forum threads, different sites. I think somebody could compile all this hygiene-device-lifestyle (for lack of a better word Tom! What was the alternative, 'sincere play?' Meh, overwrought ) into one big site. Just saying, not complaining! What do you guys think?
Okay, now for the last part of my ramble... I want to discuss something I'm struggling with. Like I said, I currently don't have a kh. I never had one and I've never practiced bdsm... well I have but only in the dominant role, which I like but compared to submissive... not even a percent as much. But, I've never really been open about it. I've had girlfriends who I'm sure would have been open to it, but I never dared discuss it... not because I don't trust them, but because I don't really trust anybody with this, except for the NSA I guess lol. It would also be fairly easy for me to find somebody online to play/build a relationship with, preferably someone a lot older so we are on the same page, and I would trust more... but even then. I guess what holds me back is feaf of damaging my reputation. It might be an irrational fear, but I just feel like I don't want people to know this about me. Plus I'm fairly ambitious, I guess you might even say 'promising', and I don't want something that is mainly about pleasure interfering with the goals I set in life. I even met somebody through the internet once, an aspiring young mistress, who was my age, liked the same things I liked, and I connected with on a personal level (pretty effin' rare if you ask me), but after we met I stopped repsonsing to messages becauze I just felt like I couldn't go through with it. So yeah... still not sure if I should keep all of thid to myself, or just say f it this is who I am and go for it.
Any input is really appreciated, most of you guys are older and more experienced so... react hkw you see fit, wether to one thing I brought up, everything, or just say hi. Having a forum like this is a comfort and a blessing, so thanks in advance, and thank you for your openness!

[Michele]

Well, hello there and welcome!

[celticqueens_sub]

Be whatever and whomever you want to be.

Be careful to protect your identity and never use a computer you don't own and that has not got decent internet security SW and virus SW. It is very easy to stay anonymous using common sense. Also, anyone you meet and play with is in the same boat you're in right?

They have the same things they want to protect just like you. It is like MAD with nukes. If they "out" you it's not hard for you to do the same.

Also you might want to use the odd line break in the text... It is much easier to read!

Welcome and have fun! I hope you hang around for more than a few posts.

[Intense_Restraint]

Hello subtoy,

Thanks for your post, sharing about yourself and your request for input. I can understand your concern about confidentiality, your interest in certain types of recreation and trying to figure out what to do, exactly. My response is to find The Right Person, someone you trust completely, someone in whom you can confide what turns you on and someone who will also confide in you. I think you need to imagine a happy life for yourself, once that incorporates all aspects of your skills, education and desires. Once you have those images clearly in mind, then work hard to make that life spring into existence, building upon what you've already become.

If you knew a million dollars in gold coins was buried 20 feet deep in your backyard, then you would work hard to dig them out. So, you need to work just as hard, or more, to bring more happiness into your life, by finding The Right Person. Those are my thoughts, for whatever they are worth, and I hope they are helpful to you and to anyone else who happens to read them.