Would you rather...

[Michele]

Be denied orgasms for a long period of time but be allowed intercourse, or be denied intercourse indefinitely but allowed to have orgasms.

CM is currently pushing 8 months denial and he is out often for intercourse and teasing while denied. This is a great question!

[Tom Allen]

Be denied orgasms for a long period of time but be allowed intercourse, or be denied intercourse indefinitely but allowed to have orgasms.

We've done variations on this, and for me, there's no "rather," they are both different. Intercourse with no orgasm is fun for a while, but there comes a point at which I found it difficult to refrain. Really, really long term lockups were fun, but after a while we had to mix things up to keep it interesting. And just to mix things up even more, at some point Mrs Edge decided that she would ruin all my orgasms, so that was interesting, too.

[Finn]

There's 3 of us, so it's a bit confusing. Basically, after trying many things, we've settled on one year without orgasms. Using Tantric methods, I'm pretty good at separating orgasm and ejaculation. Using that, I'm able to get close to an orgasm, and instead, just have the ejaculation. I get relief from the horny....and I find that the other parts of sex and kink, become heightened. Also, using Tantric, there's more of a connection to pleasure that I give, and if I get my headspace right, I get relief from essentially sharing the energy of orgasms that I give. By totally removing orgasm as a goal, or part of sex, and focusing totally on achieving the orgasm the other person is working towards, I somehow, physically find my arousal/erection reacts as if I've orgasmed. It's not 100%, but it's not bad. This even works when using hands and toys.