How you wound up in chastity.

grubber · Post by **grubber** » Mon Jun 30, 2014 10:15 am

Just curious how some of you guys got to the point of living this lifestyle?

For me it was a way to reconnect with my wife. We have been empty nesters for several years now and our sex life diminished to the point of no sex. My wife just lost any interest and it became too much of a hassle to even bother trying to have sex with her, not to mention the guilt I felt for pushing her. We love each other dearly but sex was off the table.

I discovered chastity on the web several years ago and after weeding out all the bull crap, I realized that it could be a positive thing for our marriage. I ordered a CB6000 and when it came in I immediately tried it on. Loved the feeling and the arousal it gave me. I wore it on and off for a couple of weeks then I decided to wear it all the time.

I had it on most of the time for about a month before my wife noticed one day when I was getting out of the shower. It's pretty sad that it took this long for her to notice and I wasn't even trying to hide it. She flipped and asked me what I was wearing. I tried to explain but she would have none of it and told me to take it off or else. I told her that I wasn't going to take it off. It was my penis, she didn't want anything to do with it anymore so I was going to wear it if I wanted to. I have to say that the next several days were a little different to say the least although I noticed that she was checking chastity on the computer by her history.

Anyway, about a week or so went by before things eased up and she asked me about it in a nice way. I explained about it the best I could. I told her that after researching about it. I came to the conclusion that this could be good for the both of us. I let her know that I was starving for intimacy with her and that I missed this side of her. I told her that it wasn't as much about sex to me as it was the intimacy. I told her that wearing the cage and fantasizing about her created very high arousal and this in turn caused me to want to be with her more in and out of the bedroom. Real intimacy. I explained about her having control of our sex lives and how she could be pleasured without worrying about having to reciprocate and how a man is very intimate when he is aroused and not so much after an orgasm and how without the cage I could masturbate which would kill my arousal for her and so on. She seemed receptive to the idea but still thought it was a little weird. She did admit that she noticed I had been a little nicer to her lately but didn't think anything of it.

That night in bed, instead of our usual kiss goodnight and maybe a hug, she pulled down the blankets and started checking out the cage. I got extremely aroused and things were bulging out everywhere and my balls were blue and swollen. She was asking things like, You can't feel anything to be able to cum? and I told her no. She was concerned about the color of my balls and I told her it was normal when aroused and they are natural color when relaxed. We said good night but I stayed awake for a while throbbing.

A few nights later she asked for the keys. I gave them to her and she didn't say another word.

It's been a wonderful intimate ride ever since.

Post by **Tom Allen** » Mon Jun 30, 2014 12:00 pm

I've got some older blog posts on that.

http://vanillaedge.wordpress.com/2007/1 ... sm-denial/

And if that didn't bore the hell out of you:
http://vanillaedge.wordpress.com/true-tales/

grubber · Post by **grubber** » Mon Jun 30, 2014 9:30 pm

Thanks for the links Tom.
I have been to your site several times over the years and find your writings very enjoyable. I like your 'real" stories far more enjoyable than bullcrap fantasy fapping stories on other sites. I think I am going to spend a little more time on your site from now on.
I have found it somewhat surprising that there is very little response on here for the real stuff even though that's what this forum was originally based on according to the forum rules.
Most people seem to want the fantasies more than the truth. Wish more people could keep it real here. It would be good for the wives or girlfriends just finding out about their other half's fantasy and what it is really all about and why.

Lockedchef · Post by **Lockedchef** » Mon Jun 30, 2014 10:40 pm

I don't think it is so much to ignore you thread but a lot of people have posted their stories already. You can find them in the introduction thread, on the blog section, or just by reading people's first posts.

SubSec · Post by **SubSec** » Mon Jun 30, 2014 11:14 pm

Wow Tom, between you and thumper you've created a particularly good resource for us fellas that are taking our first bunny steps into chastity/flr.

As the other fellas say it has an erotic edge but is shot through with realism that raises it above the sad little fapfest it could be.

Thumper's tumblr wins hands down for pushing every single one of my buttons with almost scary precision. Makes it rather hard to be caged.

Kia kaha guys.

locked4her55 · Post by **locked4her55** » Tue Jul 01, 2014 6:03 am

grubber wrote:Most people seem to want the fantasies more than the truth. Wish more people could keep it real here.

Are you sure you are referring to THIS site?

slave d · Post by **slave d** » Tue Jul 01, 2014 6:26 am

locked4her55 wrote:
grubber wrote:Most people seem to want the fantasies more than the truth. Wish more people could keep it real here.
Are you sure you are referring to THIS site?

Have to agree. This site is by far the most real I've seen, that's why i'm here personally !!

d

Post by **Michele** » Tue Jul 01, 2014 7:01 am

locked4her55 wrote:
grubber wrote:Most people seem to want the fantasies more than the truth. Wish more people could keep it real here.
Are you sure you are referring to THIS site?

Ok I was about to ask that too!

Post by **Michele** » Tue Jul 01, 2014 7:10 am

http://monkeyinacage.wordpress.com/2013 ... -marriage/

It takes a minute to get there haha but this is the post that talks about how we got started with this whole chastity thing.

grubber · Post by **grubber** » Tue Jul 01, 2014 7:24 am

locked4her55 wrote:
grubber wrote:Most people seem to want the fantasies more than the truth. Wish more people could keep it real here.
Are you sure you are referring to THIS site?

I was referring to this site. After reading back this sentence you quoted, I realized that I forgot the word "like" between the last two words. (Wish more people could keep it real "like" here)

I wasn't complaining about lack of responses on my post. It doesn't bother me who posts on what I say.

I was just trying to point out a few things:
1) I wish more posts on any sites pertaining to chastity were more real. (This forum being the best at it)
2) If you scroll through the post headings, typically the ones with the most action are the ones with the edgier content. Here and at other forums.

Chastity, while being fun and a great enhancer for a relationship, can still be a normal lifestyle in everyday life and I for one appreciate real posts. When my KH wife first started looking on the web about chastity on her own, it scared her half to death with some of the stuff she was reading out there. I pointed her to here and a few other sites that made her feel far more comfortable with it.

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