I think some of this gets back to the issue of "how much does partaking in any particular sex act (or wanting to) say about one's identity in the first place?" If I have a certain kink, how much does that actually say about me as a person? Personally, I think it says I have somewhat specific and exotic sexual tastes, but doesn't by itself make me much different than anyone else. Does dressing like a sissy every once in a while make a person a sissy by identity? Does participating in an MFM scenario with elements of power exchange make a person "bi" or a "cuckold" by identity? I appreciate that these are very personal questions for all of us, but for me, being kinky is one aspect of my identity, and any specific sex act or taste never puts me in a box in the first place.tcs wrote: tcs wrote:
I love chastity and orgasm denial, but suspect a great many people would find it tedious, even those that don't associate with cuckolding, sissy, bi, or other "unmanly" activities. And that's a point that I ponder, why are all the "manly" chaste men so sensitive about cuckolding, sissy and bi activities?
I can't speak to why other men are so sensitive to it. I'm sensitive to it for a few reasons, most importantly is that I find it prejudiced that so many people try to label and pigeon hole me in a place where I don't fit. I don't have any issue with sissies or bi-men, or cuckolds, etc. In fact, I have many friends who fit those interests and groups. Its just not me, and I would prefer if people didn't automatically assume because of A, B is automatically the case.
The other thought I have---if another person really has any interest in chastity games at all and has any empathy at all---how long should it really take them to get over any "assumptions" they might have, really?
It's hard to match up an partner up with others when one has tastes that are "out there" compared to what we know about most other people, so I get that. I'm now at the middle part of my life, so I'm trying harder to not worry as much when people don't get me.