Michael and Melissa's blog

[cb6000s]

From Michael & Melissa… http://reallifemalechastity.blogspot.com/

“My desire to orgasm is greater than my desire to be denied.”

My first response was “Duh, isn’t that the point?” I’ve been thinking about it and decided that maybe it would be interesting to compare notes on our chastity experience as different people have different reasons and perceptions.

For me it goes like this.
Day 1. We have a glorious lovemaking session that leaves me totally satiated. I go back into my chastity device.
Days 1 thru 10 or so. I am denied but it is not a problem.
Days 10 thru … I’m currently at day 44 which is the longest we have gone. My desire to orgasm is definitely greater than my desire to be denied. If KH would unlock me I would be all over her like a starving dog over a steak.

That is my experience. Is it different for other people? Or did I misunderstand the statement?

[michaelnmelissa]

I want to come. I also want to be denied. Most of the time, if I were allowed to choose, I would go with being denied. It keeps the high. Right now, I want to be out. I want to come. The denial is still exciting, but I am at the point where I want out of my device. I want to come. She said no. She wants me to see what I think is my limit is really not. So far, she has been right. That's what I meant.

Michael

[cb6000s]

The interesting thing is we don't actually disagree here. If I understand you correctly the only difference is that we both want orgasm denial. But, at 20 days for example. if KH said let's get it on, your response may be "How about we go a little longer?" and I'm like "Yeah Baby". Realize, that I don't want KH to say let''s get it on at 20 days, I'm only saying what my response would be.

[cb6000s]

I see your blog has been removed. I hope you did not remove it because of anything I said. Nothing I have said was meant as a criticism, only as a comment on how we are different.

[michaelnmelissa]

It's back. Had to talk it over with the wife some more. Good to go!

[cb6000s]

This sounds like a chastity related issue. As fellow travelers this might be information that can help us. Please, can you tell us more?

[Celtic Queen]

Here's a slightly different angle to it.

My hub wants to come just like everyone else but it is his need for control that is stronger than anything else and chastity is one of the manifestations of this. Denial is not quite what is going on with our chastity arrangement - rather a need for him to hand over control to me, whether I deny him or not.

[michaelnmelissa]

CQ,

You said it well. That's what I desire - her control. There are times I would rather be denied than orgasm, I admit, but last week I realized that I had gotten to where I was genuinely pleading for relief and still she said no.

Michael

[Kiki]

Here's a slightly different angle to it.

My hub wants to come just like everyone else but it is his need for control that is stronger than anything else and chastity is one of the manifestations of this. Denial is not quite what is going on with our chastity arrangement - rather a need for him to hand over control to me, whether I deny him or not.

Thank you CQ. This is very helpful to me in understanding how this all works with Lukus. Of course we talk, and of course we are all individual - but hearing different perspectives really does help.

All I know is that I want to make him happy, whether that is control, denial, teasing, or...?!

So far, it has been really fun for me as well! And as long as we keep it that way, I guess we're doing it right.

[Celtic Queen]

Thanks both

To turn this concept on its head slightly, consider a forcedmale orgasm. This progresses from the rather binary orgasm / denial dynamic and further into the control realm. To the uninitiated this sounds rather impossible - how can you force a man to do something that he is aching to do anyway? Well, that's going to depend on various factors, mental states and a good understanding of your mate's psyche. I have forced hub to orgasm but removed all pleasurable stimulus by cropping him to speed him up and forcing him to masturbate whilst kneeling on a cold, dirty garage floor. This helped to drive home that firstly, there is no pleasurable orgasm unless I gift it to him in whichever why I deem fit and secondly, there is such a thing as an unpleasant orgasm. That is as drastic as it sounds and it isnt something that I have needed to repeat (yet ).

He doesn't plead for relief because it just doesn't work. He has to earn his pleasures through good behaviour and pleasing me - that's the nature of control and submission. Chastity is just one manifestation of our power dynamic.