Chastity as a part of D/s training?

[imposedsensation]

I use it extensively for D/s, especially without the benefit of a dedicated keyholder/teaser. And I've been incorporating that into an exercise regimen, so all positive across the board. I'm keeping a blog of the experience although I am currently on a medically-necessitated hiatus due to severe nickel allergy. I ordered a powder coated device from Steelworxx which I hope will alleviate that issue, even though it may be an undesirable diversion from the fitness objectives as I wait through the somewhat slow turnaround & delivery time frame.

Blog is in my signature I believe... Post something, always looking for followers and feedback.

[Aarkey]

Thanks for the replies folks.

Imposedsensation, I'll definitely check out your blog.

[gummicouple]

An interesting question. I don't think of putting my husband/slave in the cage for training or discipline, if by discipline you mean punishment? I use the cage as part of our relationship. I enjoy locking up his cock and I don't want him playing with it willy nilly when I am not around. I think if he had his way he would stroke all the time, so I like to control that.

~Alex

[Aarkey]

I don't think of putting my husband/slave in the cage for training or discipline, if by discipline you mean punishment?

That's a good question, and something I probably should've clarified originally. I don't consider discipline and punishment to be the same. Punishment can be a component used to discipline someone, but it isn't necessary and some couples find that it doesn't work well, if at all.

Discipline is more along the lines of training for a set of behavior. It can simply be about the exercise of control - both for training and instruction, but also just as a simple exercise of the power exchange.

[imposedsensation]

I don't think of putting my husband/slave in the cage for training or discipline, if by discipline you mean punishment?

That's a good question, and something I probably should've clarified originally. I don't consider discipline and punishment to be the same. Punishment can be a component used to discipline someone, but it isn't necessary and some couples find that it doesn't work well, if at all.

Discipline is more along the lines of training for a set of behavior. It can simply be about the exercise of control - both for training and instruction, but also just as a simple exercise of the power exchange.

For me, discipline is consistency, accountability, dependability, doing what you've committed, when you've committed to doing it and maintaining regularity.

Punishment is a consequence of not being disciplined. It's a tool to enforce discipline, and to exercise control (regardless of its efficacy). That's not to say that some people don't punish just to punish and frustrate, but in that context it's more akin to torture, because actions or lack of action isn't the cause of the punishment in such cases.

Hopefully I'm making sense.

As for tease and denial, it can be punishment, but I don't think tease and denial always is punishment by my definition. Sometimes tease and denial is a way to remind someone of his or her loss of control, of a sacrifice made out of devotion, or simply to help amplify sensations of love and passion at a later date--in recognition of how special they are, so that they are not taken for granted.

Alright that's enough abstraction, conceptualization, and really just running my mouth for one post...

Let me know what you think--do you agree or disagree with how I understand it?

In regard to my personal blog, I get punished for not being disciplined and driven to achieve my fitness goals, albeit self-inflicted. I try to use the community and the viewership to make decisions, enforce, and keep me disciplined and honest.

[gummicouple]

"Discipline is more along the lines of training for a set of behavior. It can simply be about the exercise of control - both for training and instruction, but also just as a simple exercise of the power exchange."

The cage helps ensure that I control his orgasms and not him. I think without the cage he would go back to sneaking in stroking when I was not around. So, in that respect it helps with training and self control for him. But, I also enjoy seeing him naked and wearing the cage. That pleases the Lady!

~Alex

[gummicouple]

I don't think of putting my husband/slave in the cage for training or discipline, if by discipline you mean punishment?

That's a good question, and something I probably should've clarified originally. I don't consider discipline and punishment to be the same. Punishment can be a component used to discipline someone, but it isn't necessary and some couples find that it doesn't work well, if at all.

Discipline is more along the lines of training for a set of behavior. It can simply be about the exercise of control - both for training and instruction, but also just as a simple exercise of the power exchange.

For me, discipline is consistency, accountability, dependability, doing what you've committed, when you've committed to doing it and maintaining regularity.

Punishment is a consequence of not being disciplined. It's a tool to enforce discipline, and to exercise control (regardless of its efficacy). That's not to say that some people don't punish just to punish and frustrate, but in that context it's more akin to torture, because actions or lack of action isn't the cause of the punishment in such cases.

Hopefully I'm making sense.

As for tease and denial, it can be punishment, but I don't think tease and denial always is punishment by my definition. Sometimes tease and denial is a way to remind someone of his or her loss of control, of a sacrifice made out of devotion, or simply to help amplify sensations of love and passion at a later date--in recognition of how special they are, so that they are not taken for granted.

Alright that's enough abstraction, conceptualization, and really just running my mouth for one post...

Let me know what you think--do you agree or disagree with how I understand it?

In regard to my personal blog, I get punished for not being disciplined and driven to achieve my fitness goals, albeit self-inflicted. I try to use the community and the viewership to make decisions, enforce, and keep me disciplined and honest.

I think I generally understand and agree with your perspective. I don't use the cage for punishment if he is misbehaving, just as I don't whip him if he is misbehaving. The cage and bdsm activities are part of our relationship and if he misbehaves, then we talk about it. The cage is a positive element in our relationship and I would not want it associated with punishment. It is fun, erotic, sexy, exciting and part of our dynamic.

~Alex

[Aarkey]

Thanks for the replies. Ms. Alex I definitely like the remark "I don't use the cage for punishment... if he misbehaves, then we talk about it."

I'm a big believer in that kind of communication and dynamic.

[RegularJoe]

For us as a couple, my life wearing a cage is about her dominance, and my submission. It's only punishment when I am not released from its bondage at some expected time due to some sort of transgression....or even merely upon her whim. There are certain situations (which I won't go into here) where I am normally free to experience sexual relief.