Decrease in sex drive?

[jnuts]

Anyone else have a decrease in sex drive while in chastity? Don't get me wrong, sometimes I'm on fire but I find myself a lt more indifferent than I used to. It's almost like my body knows I can't do anything about it so why bother. I have been out of the cage here and there for healing and I have had no desire to masturbate at all. I guess because I'm not allowed. Odd that the desire isn't there anymore though isn't it?

[cb6000s]

Doesn't work that way for me. Sure if she ignores me I lose interest but if she shows any interest all I'm vibrating like a plucked violin string.

[Shane67]

I have noticed that my sex drive has gone down. It has been 9+ weeks of denial. Maybe I'm just syncing up with her? I can be browsing tumblr and have no physical reaction whatsoever down there behind the tube. It's sort of a weird detached feeling; I can appreciate that a photo is highly erotic, but it doesn't trigger a need to do anything about it. However, if she so much as mentions the device, I'm instantly hard. Same goes for any contact, no matter how brief. She's lying right next to me as I type this. I had strong erection just rubbing her back earlier, and I know if I turn around and snuggle up to her, I'll be hard again. But: even though my body is reacting, I still have little desire to do anything about it. I don't feel sexually dead or anything like that; that low level half aroused/half content feeling is still there. Can you feel aroused but yet have no desire to have sex? Apparently so.

[mikecb]

Can you feel aroused but yet have no desire to have sex? Apparently so.

I can, absolutely. This thought crossed my mind last night, as I was reading Tom's blog. Would you rather be slightly to moderately aroused all day without release, or have five minutes of intense arousal and orgasm? I'm definitely in the all-day camp.

mikecb

[Atone]

Decrease? No. Changed drastically? Yes.

It is strange to browse tumblr and not have a physical reaction at all. At the same time there are certain images that cause an incredible reaction. Not an attempt to become erect but just this really deep desire / need to masturbate. To feel the sensation of touch on my cock. It is hard to describe but it is primarily a mental desire with just a touch of physical "twinge".

Recently I had the opportunity (privilege?) to perform oral on my wife. I didn't even become erect (or attempted at least because I was locked up of course) until right at the end when she had her orgasm. Even then it wasn't a particularly hard erection, I only noticed it as I moved around and it got in the way It was very powerful and exciting for me but a very different experience none the less.

Would you rather be slightly to moderately aroused all day without release, or have five minutes of intense arousal and orgasm?

If I had to choose I would take aroused all day without release. Oh, I did choose didn't I? There have been times in the past where we would go for long periods with both though. Those were also good times but just like the seasons the environment has changed. I loved that season. I love this season. Life is good!

-A

[poinciana]

No decrease here either.

I had never experienced such sustained periods of low-level arousal before being in chastity. I had never experienced such deep, intense desire for another person before, either. Especially now that my wife really knows what's going on, and enjoys being involved.

On the other hand, porn just doesn't cut it any more. I can't get excited by one star sex, when five star sex awaits.

So, for me, I would call it a transition, or a change in sex drive. But certainly no decrease.

[jnuts]

Ive changed my mind. I just can't get aroused without Belle causing it.

[Celtic Queen]

You chaste guys are now "on call" rather than "self service" is all

[celticqueens_sub]

Can you feel aroused but yet have no desire to have sex? Apparently so.

I can, absolutely. This thought crossed my mind last night, as I was reading Tom's blog. Would you rather be slightly to moderately aroused all day without release, or have five minutes of intense arousal and orgasm? I'm definitely in the all-day camp.

mikecb

I find I am more consistently and highly aroused all the time I am in my device and the level of sexual tension is high. I then need to do other things to divert that energy into useful and 'wife pleasing' activities, tidying up, doing the dinner etc, not just giving her orgasms (though that is the best bit!). That level of arousal is an amazing experience... and when CQ gives me an O... its indescribable..... The release is intensely emotional as well as literal! So no drop in sex drive for me at all.

[danj]

No decrease in my desire mentally, but definitley less erections in the cock...like he knows full well that NOTHING is happening unless the wife is involved, so no point in getting (or attempting) to get hard. As I mentioned in another thread, this made me nervous at first...but found I'm not the only one on this.