In the "Ruined Orgasm Thread", mention was made of one's KH teasing, and stopping such before any "squirting" starts. That would seem to me to be "Edging" rather than "Ruined Orgasm". Edging well-worth doing too!
Specifically, edging is the practice of sexually stimulating your partner to the point just-shy of their orgasm, then keeping up enough stimulation to keep them at that point. Too little, and their arousal goes down. Too much, and an orgasm results (Which can be ruined in case this happens as a last-ditch method). The trick is learning how to keep it just at the perfect point.
It can be done with any sort of stimulation - although it's difficult to impossible using penetrative sex. Manual, oral, using vibrators, electro-stim (for the more adventurous). or using any other sex toys are possibilities. It can be done in conjunction with light bondage or not. Light bondage prevents the person being stimulated from pushing themselves over the edge in their blissful frustration when the partner's stimulation stops, although lack of bondage works because the person is often unmotivated to move because it feels so good. It works on men or on women, and does not have to be done in conjunction with chastity. From my recent experience, MC helps quite a bit. In conjunction with MC, it can be done to him as part of T&D, or it can be done to her as part of the lavish attentions that chaste males often wish to give to their KH.
Basically, the instructions are to sexually stimulate the person by whatever means until they are close to orgasm, then hold them there.
The exact means is one you've got to learn by practicing with your own partner - it is something that is far better suited to use in a long-term relationship than a one-off tryst. Different techniques work better and worse on different people. It works the first time, but it works far better as one gets better practiced, and observant of what the specific things one's partner does when "close to the edge". It can be improved if the "victim" has a one-syllable word that he or she says just before they are going to surely cum. A video I saw of it the word was, "Hey". It's great for increasing intimacy, because to make it work the person doing it has to focus intently and exclusively on their partner - an act which IMX increases the feelings of love toward that person. Truly, for me, there's nothing that tells me how right I'm doing it when I look in Anymouse's eyes which are rolled-back in his head, and watching him having squirmed himself 30 degrees off of "straight" on the chaise-lounge with the fuzzy "seat belts" that, among other things, prevent him from falling off the chair, or to "help" me push him over to a "Big-O". Watching such a thing gives me immense pleasure, although of a different kind than when he is directly sexually stimulating me.There's no theoretical limit to how long you can do this. It can be done until one or both people have done this to the point of exhaustion, some pre-determined amount of time, until someone gets thirsty, hungry, needs a bathroom break, or until some other event happens (bedtime, sunrise, the neighbours pound on the door complaining of the noise. "All My Children" comes on, or the Mayan Prophecies are fulfilled).
Librarian doll
that I am (wind me up and I'll recommend a book), I would suggest reading and following the instructions in the book ESO: How You and Your Lover Can Give Each Other Hours of Extended Sexual Orgasm by Alan P. and Donna J. Brauer. The book is written in two parts: One is instructions on how to so pleasure a man, and the other is instructions on how to so pleasure a woman.
