when is it time

[kata]

S my key holder and I were talking last night as to when I should be allowed to cum.
I am at day 12 and a virgin still to chastity and my 6000, the question is when should S let me out and allow me the pleasure of orgasm. She said that thus far I have been a good slave doing what I am told and giving her 8 orgasms to my 0, how ever she as a virgin still too is feeling a bit selfish.
We discussed leaving it to chance and place 11 coins in a box with 10 plain coins for her and 1 marked coin for me, then each night or second night pulling a coin. Has any one used this method or are there any better ideas out there for us to consider???????

[wishful4]

kata,
We have used the marble game. You put 4 blue marbles to every 1 white marble in a jar giving you a 20 percent chance of drawing a white one. Draw a white, you get an orgasm, draw a blue, no orgasm. The decision of the marble is final and my KH likes not having to make the decision all the time.

[celticqueens_sub]

S my key holder and I were talking last night as to when I should be allowed to cum.
I am at day 12 and a virgin still to chastity and my 6000, the question is when should S let me out and allow me the pleasure of orgasm. She said that thus far I have been a good slave doing what I am told and giving her 8 orgasms to my 0, how ever she as a virgin still too is feeling a bit selfish.
We discussed leaving it to chance and place 11 coins in a box with 10 plain coins for her and 1 marked coin for me, then each night or second night pulling a coin. Has any one used this method or are there any better ideas out there for us to consider???????

Ok... so my view on this... The time is when it feels the right thing to do. Ummm.. not much of an answer you say. Well think of it like this (based on the fact you used the words good slave to describe yourself). If you have submitted to her control regarding your orgasm, then when she feels she wants you to have the pleasure of an orgasm is that not the most amazing thing? You know you are going to cum becasue she wants you to have that experience and that feeling? So the time is when she feels she wants you to have that feeling.

The question then becomes not so much of when is it time, but when does she feel like it. Hope that makes sense?

[celticqueens_sub]

kata,
We have used the marble game. You put 4 blue marbles to every 1 white marble in a jar giving you a 20 percent chance of drawing a white one. Draw a white, you get an orgasm, draw a blue, no orgasm. The decision of the marble is final and my KH likes not having to make the decision all the time.

So, actually, chance is your keyholder?

The decision of the marble is final

. That's actually quite an interesting angle CQ would always have the last word, but I can see that it could seriously add to the suspense, not knowing if she would abide by the marble? (What am I saying.... Jeez, of course she wouldn't )

[Anymouse]

She said that thus far I have been a good slave doing what I am told and giving her 8 orgasms to my 0, how ever she as a virgin still too is feeling a bit selfish.
We discussed leaving it to chance and place 11 coins in a box with 10 plain coins for her and 1 marked coin for me, then each night or second night pulling a coin. Has any one used this method or are there any better ideas out there for us to consider???????

I would hazard, if so permitted, that if your Lady has had eight O's to your zero O's, she is no longer a virgin to your chastity (nor are you). The ice is broken. Now you have the rest of your life ahead.

I would have to agree with Celtic Queen's sub, that if a special coin coming up is the equivalent of allowing you to cum, then chance is your keyholder (or at least your jailer). Of course, when you draw your coin, your Lady could simply make you throw it out and draw again, this time without the special coin in the lot. "Honey, now that you have your practice draw out of the way, go ahead and do your real one."

You also could always choose not to take the opportunity (if the agreement between you and your Lady permits you to refuse the option). She might find that particularly devoted and noteworthy. She probably wouldn't let you cum.

On the other hand, as your Lady, she might make you cum. The worst thing a sadist can do to a masochist, for example, is refuse to punish him. As you refer to yourself as a slave, I presume your Lady has the final say in all things (per whatever agreement you have with her).

BethK and I on the other hand are in a totally vanilla relationship. We are equals in our marriage (except she is far better educated than me [three college degrees to my none], and well, she does hold the keys). She has stated no desire to punish me, or order me around, or humiliate me in any way. (On the other hand, when she gets with the other women of the village I will have no idea what she tells them, but since I know everyone here, if everyone is staring at me at the next village board or Library Board meeting. . . .)

She is not interested in leaving my orgasms to chance. She has set a date. Our anniversary in September. Trouble is, she didn't say what year.

And because I am still breaking in to the new belt (a steel belt will certainly not break in to me) I still have access to the spare key, to swap with the CB-6000S if needed. Some might not call this "chastity," but I have no desire to break our rules and "play," after all, this was my suggestion, and seeing how much she gets out of it, why would a loving husband refuse his loving wife's enjoyment?

On the day I declare I am fully settled in my new belt though she will whisk away that spare, or perhaps lock it hanging from our bathroom medicine chest in full sight on a one-time use lock (teasing is permitted, and that would be a daily visual tease).

And per our agreement, if this is not fun anymore for one or both of us, we can suspend temporarily or end entirely this chaste way of life. I do not foresee that at the present time.

A bizarre thought crossed my mind last night, which I passed on to my wife. (We are middle-aged so we think of these things from time to time.) Supposing she could precede me in death, what happens if the keys are buried with her? And if the other way around, should I be buried in my belt? (That would give both the funeral director, and possibly some archeologist a thousand years from now reasons to wonder. . . .)

[danj]

Ok... so my view on this... The time is when it feels the right thing to do. Ummm.. not much of an answer you say. Well think of it like this (based on the fact you used the words good slave to describe yourself). If you have submitted to her control regarding your orgasm, then when she feels she wants you to have the pleasure of an orgasm is that not the most amazing thing? You know you are going to cum becasue she wants you to have that experience and that feeling? So the time is when she feels she wants you to have that feeling.

The question then becomes not so much of when is it time, but when does she feel like it. Hope that makes sense?

I like this answer! Excellent.

[wspony]

Of course the best time is when your KH WANTS you to have an orgasm...

However some KHs are unsure themselves if they want you to have an orgasm... For example my KH is often unsure if the time is right, if she should let me stew a bit more in my juices etc. Also often she would feel tired, etc. and simply postpone a release ... So we too play a bit of a game. She always retains the Veto in case the chance tells that I could have a release.

Like Dsrv said, if the chance hint is to allow an orgasm but your KH has somehow a gut feeling that it is too early, she can simply veto it

What I like about chance games is that they really are unpredictable. If you know your KH you often know that after a release you won't get anything for weeks to come... but by taking chances it might happen much earlier... or much later...

Perhaps when my KH gets more self confident about releases, punishments, rewards, etc. ... we won't be playing stupid games anymore

[TwistedMister]

Last night after we got into bed Mrs. Twisted was saying that there might be a 'Cum Day' soon. It's been long enough that I don't quite remember when the last one was, I told her I was over-due...she said "You're due when I say you're due." She also said that I'm due for punishment first, as I have not been particularly meticulous about adhering to the latest rule- which I forgot again last night...

[kata]

Thanks for the replies to my coin thought with 10 coins for S and 1 coin for me. The other game we have discussed is a dice game. Our rules are as follows:

Playing with 1 dice throw the dice and the number rolled equals the list below
1 = sex, me allowed to orgasm
2 = vibrator on S
3 = oral on S
4 = massage on S
5 = S plays and teases me, but I am NOT allowed to cum
6 = Bonus round roll again to spin the following more adventurous outcomes

1 = bondage S on me, her choice if I am allowed orgasm
2 = bondage me on S
3 = sex in sex swing her choice if I am allowed to orgasm. If allowed to orgasm I must lick her pussy clean
4 = masturbation, toss a coin to see who is to masturbate in front of the other person
5 = personal dare, toss a coin to see who creates the dare for the other person, no limitations (nude run etc or sexual act, eg her on me with strap on)
6 = public sex, her choice in the car, back yard, park, shopping center toilet etc

NOTE - Dice are rolled the day prior to play

Has anyone played something similar or have suggestions to alternative activities

[wspony]

I posted several times in different posts so ppl. are probably bored already to read about the game I play with my KH. Forgive me if this is the case but since the poster asked, here I go again.

My KH and me currently play a sort of card-game with the following rules.
1 stack of cards numbered 2-8

1 stack of cards with small teasing actions that can be done by my KH (eg. call me during the day talk dirty, mail me something, send me a picture, touch/stroke me, etc.). Add half as many blank cards.

1 stack of cards with actions that can be done to me (without mentioning orgasm/no-orgasm results, eg. oral stimulation, tying up, masturbation, etc.)

1 stack of cards with possible results (orgasm, ruined-orgasm, edge, ...)

My KH would draw 3 cards, a number card, an action card and a result card. These cards (which I don't get to see) are a hint for her on when I would be released, what action she could take on me and what the outcome could be. Eg. released after 6 days for a bit of masturbation by her resulting in a close to the edge experience and lockup again. The action and result cards would stay out of the game, the number card goes back in. After I was released this way she would draw 3 more cards the next day... This game continues until the result was an orgasm after which all stacks are reset and the game starts anew. This way actions are random, outcomes are random, lockup-time-until-orgasm is random...

Each day she too would draw a card from her tease stack. If it was blank she just enjoyed her day, if it had a tease written on it she would do it to me. Each day she sets me tasks as well. Eg. bring down the trash, vacuum clean the house, wash the clothes, make the bed, go down with the dog, cook dinner, etc. etc. etc. If some tasks are not to her liking, she would just add days to my lockup in between those "actions"

Sounds all very artificial and mechanical when written and laid out like this, but those cards are just hints and she is free to move the date or change the actions/results etc. Of course whenever she wants in between or instead of such an action she is free to take the pleasures she deserves It was intentional that I did not write actions like "KH has to allow sex..." it is her choice what type of pleasure she herself wants and when and how etc.

I wrote this on my journey post. I am currently making a small android app with such a game. This way we get rid of cards and my KH can simply look at her phone