Any dominate men in chastity with a submissive partner?

[CaptivatedCaveman]

Barons,

I've been following this thread with interest but didn't have anything to contribute - until a thought popped into my head this morning.

For my wife and I, one of the keys to making chastity work for us was finding the right framework, the right model, for our interactions. For us it's a knight and his Queen style dynamic. Perhaps I can suggest a different framework that might work for you and your wife.

Consider the myth of Pandora, the woman who has a box which contains a great evil within that she cannot resist opening. That could be you, the raging sexual beast trapped in the chastity device. I suppose this occurred to me because some friends just took me to see "Cabin in the Woods" at a second run theater and there's a small scene with a character who is a stand-in for Pinhead from the Hellraiser movies. They're not my cup of tea - too gory - but they do lend themselves to your dynamic.

You can be the Dark Demon Sex God who she dares not unleash lest you utterly ravish her, but she can't help it. She can tease you, so tempted to let you out, even though she knows she really shouldn't. Eventually she can't help it and gives in to her lusts and unleashes you. You have your way with her and then return to your cage until the next time.

You just have to make sure that the experience is intense enough for her that it is worth the wait. The longer she resists releasing you the more overwhelming you'd have to make the experience when she finally gives in.

Does any of that work for you?

[Tom Allen]

Upvoted for nice references, good usage of Greek mythology, good insights.


My wife does not identify as dominant, but she does enjoy the idea that she has locked up a beast which must be controlled. We don't indulge un any other kinks (sadly ), so except for orgasm denial or more recently, ruined orgasms, the paradigm that she has adopted is similar to what was described above; she enjoys me being constantly aroused, and likes to think that she's controlling a separate part of me.

[TwistedMister]

Upvoted for nice references, good usage of Greek mythology, good insights.


My wife does not identify as dominant, but she does enjoy the idea that she has locked up a beast which must be controlled. We don't indulge in any other kinks (sadly ), so except for orgasm denial or more recently, ruined orgasms, the paradigm that she has adopted is similar to what was described above; she enjoys me being constantly aroused, and likes to think that she's controlling a separate part of me.

That's a shame, I think it's so much more interesting when there is more involved- particularly dominance and kink. Mrs. Twisted did not previously identify as 'dominant', although she *did* have a rather dominant type personality outside of the bedroom. She has been growing into the role lately, though.

[DocSwitch]

Me and my partner are both switches with me being far more dominant and usually in control and her being the perfect submissive. She has a lot of trouble being dominant and it's something I really love (subbing that is) every few months. Currently what we do is most of the year I'm in control and for a month at a time we'll switch roles and she'll lock me up. I introduced chastity to her because it interested me greatly and it seemed like a more mental way of getting her into dominance since she's very scared of actually hurting me or going way past my limits on accident since she's so new to it and isn't 100% confident. It has had a lot of bumps and wrong turns but once she started to get into it and we started communicating totally openly about it she and I both started to love my denial. It's a small step toward her trying to be more dominant with more frequency as well. At the moment we've only switched roles for a month as me being submissive and locked but as she gets more confident that time may get longer. Also we have the problem of not living together at the moment so when we do move in together eventually we both feel we'll have more time and privacy to fully evolve. We're both 26 and have been together for 6 years so we feel like we have PLENTY of time to tweak, evolve, explore, and get it right.

That my situation, not much help in this case but I figured since I fit the initial topic I might as well say something.