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[Breed36]

Hi all
I'm new here but have been lurking for awhile.

I have somewhat of an addiction to porn. It leads to excessive masturbation. To combat this I have put myself on a chastity and denial schedule. I'm trying to get ahold of my urges as they have caused problems in my relationship with my GF of 7 years.

So I have been doing several hours of chastity a day. Not at work (yet) nor during sleep. I want to work up to 24/7 but I have only had my cb6ks for a week or so.

I told my GF About it last night and she was understanding. She knows about the porn and supports me trying to get better. I have even started attending SSA meetings. She has not agreed to be my KH although I am hopeful one day she will be. I am going slow with her.

Anyway I set a timer on my phone for 72 hours from the last time I masturbated. I figured I could make it three days and I have one day to go. I have committed to masturbating only to the smell of my GFs clothes, no porn.

Did I mention she's taking a vow of chastity until we are married? What a head job this all is.

So the time is quickly approaching and I am nervous. I know it's only three days but I am conflicted. If I jerk off I will view it somewhat as a failure. I mean 3 days is nothing right ? On the other hand I could view it as progress. I haven't gone three days in 20 years and no porn will be involved.

Still a part of me wants to stay chaste for my GF. I would love to have her in control of my orgasms but with her chastity and the newness of all this it's just not in the cards right now.

To top it all off we are going away for the weekend just her and I. I know I am going to be tempted and I plan on staying 'in' during the trip

Has anyone had a similar situation or dilemma? I had no idea chastity would make such powerful emotions. One out in me. I feel if I orgasm tomorrow I will be letting myself down and my GF even though she had nothing to do with the decision.

Thoughts ?

[poor]

Commit to only masturbating at her direction. She won't have to break her vow or lock you up, just give you the OK to pleasure yourself. If this is too dominant for where she is at the moment, commit to reporting each time you play with yourself (whatever the outcome) to her. That should give you something to consider before you reach for your cock.

[finallyhappy]

After 7 years it is time to get married.

[Breed36]

Agreed finally happy. It would take awhile to explain why we are not married and I'm not even sure I know all the reasons.

Thanks for the advice Poor. I think I'm going to tell her (if) I get myself off tomorrow. As it approaches I'm getting nervous. I don't know why exactly. Still I like the idea of asking her as its a sign of submission and it's taken me all these years to admit my submissive side.

[Curiousnotgeorge]

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[Breed36]

Test yourself and your submissive side. Push your limits. She has committed to chastity, you should do the same. It would be both a sign of incredible strength and incredible submission. If you love her submit. It takes a re-alignment of the mind - I've been there, and it's worth it. Do it for her (and ultimately for yourself). Don't use it as a game, but consider it as part of the commitment.
CNG

Great points CNG. Hadnt thought of that angle.

I'm worried if I go too long will I build up the desire to just go on a porn spree and masturbate 8 times

[Curiousnotgeorge]

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[Breed36]

Good points.

I just asked her about telling her if i do it and she was cool with it. She understands I have "needs" but I think that's just her making excuses for my behavior. That's because she's a good woman who doesn't want to see me suffer.

I feel like I need to suffer. That is def part of it. Of all the kinks I watched when masturbating to porn, chastity wasnt one of them. It never interested me from an arousal standpoint although now that I am getting some experience in it I can see the sexual allure of it to some degree.

For me it's my desire to be a better man for her because she deserves it.
It's more out of love for her than anything but there are other reasons I guess

In any case I'm going to try sleeping in it tonight. God help me!! Lol