"Hello world" thread

[thosp]

Finally decided to register. We're in our late 40's, with teenagers, and have been at this a bit over a year. I'm the one who introduced it.

Chastity wasn't a long-standing interest. I'd poked around various corners of the internet since the early days, and had encountered chastity (altarboy, years ago), but didn't really take notice. I'd even gotten a bit interested in BDSM from the point of view of controlling her orgasms, and tried to introduce that into our play. She did Not like that - I think she might have been a domme at heart, though the little bit of bondage play we had done over the years involved me tying her up.

Then a couple of years ago I found myself returning to some of the more out-there fantasy versions of male chastity. None of it seemed real, and it didn't cross my mind that this could be something I'd actually take part in. Just wank fodder. But over time I found Edge of Vanilla, then The Key is on my Nipple Ring, Thumper's, a probably couple of others, and this board. I especially liked to hear the voices of real keyholders.

Shortly after that it hit me one day - since these people are real, I could actually do this. That was right around Christmas 2010, and for a couple of days it was all I could think about. One night I introduced the idea as a game, blurting out that I read something about this, and maybe should make me wait "just until tomorrow". Of course I did my best to pamper her over the next day - and found, to my surprise, how naturally it came, and how much she liked it. Over those next few heady days I started to slowly discuss everything I'd been reading and thinking. It was scary and exhilarating. And very very hot.

My wife's pretty game for new things in general, and though it took a while, she slowly came around. From the very start she enjoyed my new attitude towards her when I was especially hard up. It's not always been smooth, but things have progressed in fits and starts. At one point we stopped altogether for 3 months, mostly because my fantasy version wasn't matching reality. But we restarted (at her suggestion - yay!), and eventually I moved from a CB6000, to a Queen's Keep, which she finds much more appealing, as do I. I still think this is more my game than hers, but that's been shifting. Just tonight she said she might make me wait until July before letting me come again. That was in heat of passion, and I doubt it will be that long - but it seems a time might come soon where she wants me to wait a fair amount longer than I want to. The idea both scares and fascinates me. So far the longest has been about 6 weeks, but a couple is more typical.

The other aspect I find interesting is that while I initially approached this from a purely sexual point of view, and was probably fairly self-focussed to boot, I find that the dominance and submission aspects are starting to play a bigger part. If you'd asked me 3 years ago, I'd have said I had no interest at all been submissive to my wife. Now I'm drawn to going deeper, and I think she is increasingly enjoying her role as well. This is pretty much in the bedroom, but not entirely.

Anyway, I thought I'd quit lurking and tell my story, partly as a way of saying thank you to the pioneers of this. It's certainly brought something special, and unexpected, into our lives.

[Cagedaardvark]

Hi Thumper,

I am new to chastity, having been locked up for just over 14 hours now. Although this is my first time being caged I have been reading forums and blogs on the topic for several years. Yes, yours is one of my favorites and I try to go there at least once a day.

We purchased the CB-2000 several years ago for my birthday but it sat in my wife's nightstand all this time. I did not want to be the one to initiate this. She had no desire to have me locked up herself. We were at a standstill until I met a "bull" online at a cuckold forum. He expressed a desire to text my wife. I did not think there was any chance she would be interested but boy was I surprised. They have been texting, talking on the phone, sending e-mails and pics for hours everyday. It was his decision to have me in chastity.

It is 3AM here in California and I need to see if I can sleep in this thing. Hopefully I will be able to update you more tomorrow.

[Linus]

Hi !
I was amazed to surf through this site. I could never imagine that chastised men & also their owners throughout the world have such a wonderful platform to share experiences / guidelines / opinions / criticism!

By the way, my steel chastity cage has arrived just yesterday & my wife has installed it on me immediately. I got it through ebay. I'm currently using the 50 mm ring. Last night was horrible! I had to get up several times to calm down my erections. Harder the erection, more the pains!

Secondly, the feeling that I am locked is itself exiting, causing continuous semi erection.

Is this a common experience? How long my body will take to get used to my cage? I plan to be locked 24x7.
Please advice

I'll be posting the photo of my cage soon

Thanks

[TwistedMister]

Secondly, the feeling that I am locked is itself exiting, causing continuous semi erection.

Is this a common experience?

That is often the case for me.

[Cagedaardvark]

My first venture into being locked up lasted for about 23 hours. I experienced some pinching of skin and I think perhaps the spacer was not big enough because "the boys" got squashed a couple of times. Strangely I did not have any trouble sleeping.

All the problems with pinching and squashing were not what stopped our first go-around. Tomorrow morning I have a doctor's appointment and Susan decided to let me out for that purpose. I will go back in tomorrow night when she returns home from work. Hopefully with another spacer things will be more comfortable.

[wspony]

Hi there,

also new to this forum. Rather new to Chastity. My first device was the Looker 02 with fixed plug that extended beond the A-Ring quite a bit. I wore it a few months last year. My long-term GF hat a lot of fun during that time

But I was circumcised and PA'ed two months ago, so the plug does not work anymore. Currently my GF and me are eagerly waiting for the new Steelheart with PA-Fixing

[randylever]

Hello,

Me and my girlfriend should be receiving our CB-6000 tomorrow or the day after tomorrow and I'm looking forward to sharing my experiences as an 18 year old.

Randylever

[UnderHerThumb]

Hello,

I'm Robert, blood type ABneg. I'm 49, been married/living with my Wife/Mistress for almost 10 years. We are very active in the BDSM lifestyle and had discussed chastity in the past but never followed through with it. During the last 6 months, our relationship started to show signs of problems relating to sexual issues/communication issues. Last month, for her birthday, we went on a cruise [which was wonderful] and then upon arriving back home, I handed her the key to the new CB6000 I had purchased.

It has now been exactly 1 week since I was locked up and while I am not so naive as to expect that the rest of our lives will be as good as this past week, if it's even half as good, it will have all been worth it.

We both have a renewed interest and respect for each other in our relationship; emotionally and physically. I think I fought the chastity issue for a few years because of a fear of cuckolding, but the reality is, that's the furthest thing from my wife's mind. And while I see the combination of the two subjects intertwined quite often here and all over the internet, my reality [and Hers] is such that it's nothing but occasional fantasy talk/porn viewing between the two of us. We've known a few too many people in the lifestyle who have gone down that road with very bad results.

Suffice it to say, this has been one of the smartest moves we've made as a couple and I look forward to reporting back often about how things are going and posting a few stories, some fiction, some based on our actual lives.

Oh...and just to make matters worse [better] for me, tonight was supposed to be my first release after a week of chastity, but I have a work conflict and won't be home till very late. I sent Her an email today suggesting that we delay my release an extra 24 hours due to my conflict. Here's hoping that wins me some brownie points, i.e., more tease, less denial!

Robert

[practicinghetero]

I write about this under the name practicing hetero...i have, uh, broader tastes than that, but I'm happily married and that, for us, includes fidelity. so i figure if that's what i do, i ought to try to do it well....thus the practice bit.

the chastity piece for us is really about intentional submission. i'm a bit of a stronger personality, but an anxious one too. So in return for giving up a fair deal of control, i get in return the piece of mind that if i have upset her, I will know about it...no guessing required. she gets to find her voice in the relationship more easily. that, and it helps me....focus on her a bit more, instead of just defaulting to masturbation when she isn't interested or able.

we've tried it off and on a bit, and i'm about 5 days in with wearing it continuously. i expect to be out tomorrow for cleaning and an evening meeting, but i'll be back in (if i'm lucky with a smaller ring, since i feel like i'm between sizes a bit right now) right after i get home. next release? could be a while...probably 2 more weeks, for a total of a little less than a month. Don't really know for sure...it depends on her whim and our health.

right now, we're using the honor system a lot in terms of my access to the key...but so far, it's been going well.

[finallyhappy]

Hello world

51 yr old male here. 45 yr old gf. Been dating for a year and a half. Been locked up for a year. My idea beca use of the dynamics of the relationship. Gf has been wonderfully tolerant of it. She is actually starting to get the hang of it and starting to enjoy it.

Here to read learn and share. Been in a cb6000 but thinking of getting a jailbird. Longest time in previous to this was about 3 weeks well really 2 since she likes to give me some time off between each release. This time I'm working on week 5 and she's already told me it will be be another week. That she is too busy but I am on her to-do list.

Yep I think she's starting to get the hang of it.