Cranky & Pouty

[Belle]

@Belle: sending you all the best wishes for a speedy recovery - it's too busy a time of year to be down and it's always rotten when your young ones are poorly. They bounce back pretty quickly at that age though. I'd read Jnuts blog entry on Keyheld so mostly my comments were aimed at the OP.

I don't disagree with anything that you have posted above. My point is that the KH has the choice of when to deliver this 'cum-down' and how to mitigate it's effects if they wish.

Thanks, we are all functioning a little better today. As for the KH choosing when the let down is to occur is spot on. That is why Jnuts went as long as he did last cycle. He wanted to go past a certain point, which I was fine with. Problem was that put him close to our scheduled vacation, so I said it wouldn't be until after the trip because we both knew that there would be enough stress surrounding us, and adding his lows would only complicate things.

[Edgewood]

Just to clarify, if you’re unlocked there’s really nothing to complain about. If the keyholder is not up to the task of participation then that’s cool. It can’t be forced.

However, if you are locked and your keyholder doesn’t feel like participating then there would be an issue.

So, I agree with Belle here.

[danj]

Though I do hope my wife doesn't think I was being "irrational"!!!

Sorry, irrational isn't the best word. I guess I was thinking of some of my hormone induced PMS and pregnancy behavior, which could only be called irrational Maybe "less than desirable behavior and attitude" is better.

No worries

Oh, and the only reason I'm unlocked is a minor injury, not related to my device. I expect I'll be on the honor system for a day or two.

[Locked by LRC]

I hadn’t thought of it as similar to PMS but from what I have experienced from LRC during this period, then maybe this is the closest I’ve been. Post Orgasm Syndrome (POS).

I went through something recently. We were on vacation for our anniversary in the middle of August. Over a two week period I orgasmed five times. More times than the whole year up to then. Then it was six weeks to the next one. I was disappointed but, not the first time this long. The next one didn’t come until two weeks ago. Eight weeks, the first time this long. The first time with two long periods back-to-back. During the last three weeks of this period I was thinking “This chastity thing sucks. Why am I putting up with this? She could care less about me.”

Because I had problems early in our chastity adventure with moodiness on extended stretches, we had discussed this. I had to learn to control it because LRC doesn’t want to hear about this part of my chastity. She said I gave her the control so I just have to accept it as part of it. When I said I didn’t think she even thought of my chastity she informed me she was reminded everyday when in bed and when she looked at the key, often. I didn’t realize this.

Well, guess what? Two weeks ago she took my cage off and straddled me while I was on my back. She started going up and down way to slow. I had a mind blowing orgasm that felt like it lasted forever. Then I started to feel better about chastity again. Then last week she took the cage off and had me get on top. Another orgasm.

Now a week later and I am again happy with chastity. I guess this is a testimonial to the rollercoaster of chastity.

[danj]

It is a rollercoaster. That said, I always seem to find that even with the down periods, it is so worth it.

I don't want to "go back"

[poor]

This cycle is the first that I have been shackled on day one. 4 days in, it feels like the way to go; much happier all round.

[TwistedMister]

I know not this "cranky and pouty" thing. It used to be that after an orgasm, I would have no interest in sex for a few days. Lately though, I am horny as hell the next day.

As far as her 'not participating', we have recently gone through long periods where there has been no play and little apparent notice*. However, the way I see it, the point is that *she* is in control and I am kept ready for her when she wants to enjoy. Sure, I might enjoy more teasing, but the point is that I am subject to what *she* wants, and even being seemingly ignored has some eroticism. I do not feel it is my place to be demanding more attention.

*Life has been a little crazy lately, my hours at work changed and the farmers are only just getting out of bed when I'm driving to work. She took a 2nd job (against my recomendation) and is often getting home just a couple of hours before I get up for work so until the weekend comes we only see each other asleep...unless I happen to wake up when she crawls into bed. Even weekends are busy, with both of us working at least part of the days. We don't have enough time to keep up with things around the house, nevermind have any playtime. (Might get some today, though, or tomorrow!)

[Edgewood]

Sure, I might enjoy more teasing, but the point is that I am subject to what *she* wants

You probably have a better attitude than I do. I just got extremely frustrated last night because I thought for sure there was going to be some action for the second night in a row. Then she fell asleep on the couch. Karma is a bitch.

[poor]

I totally agree with what you've quoted (especially after spending a month 'out' due in no small part to a concerted effort by myself to avoid Tftb which ended up leaving Chatelaine a bit puzzled to say the least) but it was TwistedMister that said it.

[freespirit]

My keyholder will not take me giving her suggestions or being cranky. She tells me to strip naked, ties my hands behind my back. Takes me to the spanking chair ( a chair with no arms on it) she sits down fully clothed, pulls me over her lap and takes a ping pong paddle to my bare butt. Sometimes I am told to count the strokes. Other times I am told to just stop squirming and take what she gives me. Depending on her mood or how mad I made her depends on how long the session lasts. I am then told to kneel in the corner and say nothing for the next 30 minutes. This changes my attitude and also enforces who is in control, and it is not me.