What if both of you want it both ways?

[lmf]

Hello guys,

Thanks to this forum and your genuine replies we've been communicating very well and now we want to figure how it is difference for us, from most the MCs. I realized that most of you are happy with the role on very long term. However I want him to be Dom sometimes and he enjoys Sub and Dom. Anyone has the same condition? How do you deal with the switching? Does it make the whole thing any better or worse to you?

[fuzzydunlop]

Anything that is fun and makes you feel close is good. You have to be assertive about communicating so you can decide when to compromise, when to give in, and when to insist.

[kpb57]

There's all kinds of methods to deal with this situation.

Ours, at the moment, is like this: when I'm in, it's her say, when I'm out, I have free rein.

Which leads to things like just this weekend, where I was out for three days, and "used" her some 7 or 8 times (lost the count somewhere in between). Including some S&M.
Now I'm back in.

But there also could be situations where I am in and requested to "do her", but also required to stay in, until she maybe signals to get the key and go all the way. Being "in" for us does not mean strict denial for me, just that it's her say when and what.

Think of how hot a situation can be where you are tied to the table, and he is having a go on you with a strap-on, but can't come himself. Just be careful that he doesn't wear you out.

K