[RickTheGuy] Striving for Improvement

[Tongue+groove]

Just wait. One day you’ll be naked and only caged and you will get one of those jr high school days unexpected arrousals. Then she will notice and inquire about it. You will say things you never thought about.

It’s just because you’re in the same room with me.
Or
Your presence does this to me and I so enjoy it.
Or
Thank you for doing this for me. It has made me such a better man.

Best one yet.

I wish we had been doing this from the start. You deserve it.

Been there myself.

[KHEmmi]

... though I still struggled with arousal.

Struggle with arousal?
Im preparing for a few days away and decided to change Herbi's cage to the one we call big.
Reason? It gets, and keeps him aroused and hard more often and for longer.
Which is what I want. I want him to know he's wearing it.
6 months in and getting aroused hasn't gone away. Just less orgasms.
So don't struggle with it. Get used to it!

[Tongue+groove]

So don't struggle with it. Get used to it!

Miss. Emmi always knows best.

[Mr Pickle]

By "struggle with arousal". Do you mean in a frustrating way or in a painful way?
Frustrating you will get used to.. eventually. But you will always be frustrated and aroused.

If the cage is still causing problems. The cobra Nano (or nub if youre 3" or less flacid) will usually sort that out.
There is a cheaper version aroud £12 which serves just as well. Tried and tested by many.

[KHEmmi]

By "struggle with arousal". Do you mean in a frustrating way or in a painful way?
Frustrating you will get used to.. eventually. But you will always be frustrated and aroused.

If the cage is still causing problems. The cobra Nano (or nub if youre 3" or less flacid) will usually sort that out.
There is a cheaper version aroud £12 which serves just as well. Tried and tested by many.

Definitely agree about the Cobra Nub.
Herbi wore his for 6 weeks with no problems at all.
Frustration doesn't count as a problem
Mr Pickle is right. You will continue to get aroused. You will always be frustrated.
You shouldn't get pain though.

[KnownAsHerbert]

Miss. Emmi always knows best.

She does.
She told me so herself.

[RickTheGuy]

Most of my problems came from not reading the cage instructions. Now that I’ve got everything on right, there is no other problem except for the constant feel of the cage.

Great advice from you guys have helped me get into a good mindset and the addition of petroleum jelly has made a big difference calming my skin woes in the area.

It really helps that my KH gives me a daily motivational speech saying how proud she is, etc. She also gave me a chance to f**k my ass with a bitt plug. Of course I also had to reciprocate with my tongue.

I have been in mental chastity before and made it six weeks. There’s nothing keeping you from having an erection though. I suppose that’s what I’ve missed so far this month.

It’s onward, looking inside myself for how this experience is changing the way I think and feel. It’s been much more interesting than I first thought.

[RickTheGuy]

There’s plenty to work on while getting quite used to wearing this cage. I can go hours without thinking about it and then I’ll see something that reminds me of it.

Other times I’ve felt turned on and I think I get hard but I’m not. Absent-mindlessly I reach down and grab the cage and it’s a tad frustrating that I cannot feel anything.

Then there are moments when i brush up against KH’s bare arms and it’s even more electric than what I’ve felt in the bedroom and that’s confusing.

I’m thinking there are so many more ways to show my love and devotion to her than I realized. Sex is not the thing in and of itself. Just being more attentive to her needs, whether helping her with laundry or cleaning the house can bring its own satisfaction. I’ve even cooked for her.

Her feet are even more beautiful than they were two weeks ago and touching them is so damn hot.

These are things I have not thought about for a long time.

[RickTheGuy]

In the past two days I have found myself listening to a variety of podcasts and YouTube videos about chastity. While a few were affirmations, more of them were serious discussions about the role of remaining chaste for the male,

A month ago, I never thought I’d even consider a lengthy period of time in a cage. Now i am thinking about long-term chastity. I’d certainly miss achieving orgasisms on a regular basis but then if it makes me a better man, than I am all for it.

Plus it gives me pleasure if I can satisfy her. I’ve learned several new techniques.

The best thing is this month is getting easier and I’m feeling confident of making it all the way through.

[RickTheGuy]

There are still times I struggle with being locked up, especially when I’m watching a movie and an actress does something particularly sexy. Those are times I question my sanity.

However, as per advice I have received, I get up and take a short walk until my mind clears. I’ve only been able to watch one or two movies all the way through this month and both were black and white films from the 1950s.

I have a lot of clarity these days and can really focus on work. I seem to be more productive and my attitude is better. Co-workers have mentioned I seem to be a changed person. I did not realize this would be a side product.

But here’s the question: Can I maintain the better attitude once I have been released and allowed to cum? Will I need to make a choice between regular sex and abstinence?

I like myself better and my KH likes that I have more energy and help around the house a lot more. I like being around her and it feels right to give her a break every now and then.

I also learned there are many parts of my body that can be used to stimulate her. Any touching is pleasant and I’ve come to adore giving foot rubs.