Locktober shouldn't be too difficult, as I have 4 months of practice. However, our 15th wedding anniversary is in the middle of the month and my beautiful wife/keyholder has said she has "Special Plans" for it.
MM Jailbird
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Every year, I have trouble reconciling my feelings about Locktober. On the one hand, I hate the idea of a prescribed lock up period. I don’t want to know that there’s no possibility of release “tonight.” The hope that it could happen at any time, and the hopefully consequent denial, is the best part for me.
On the other hand, there have only been maybe two or three occasions where my wife has left me locked up long enough for me to reach truly frustrated, and that frustration, and hopefully denial of release while that frustrated, is a feeling that I long for. I feel like participating in Locktober could show my wife that she can lock me up for longer, and she might see the good it does for my soul.
“Why don’t you just talk to her about longer lockups, outside of the context of Locktober.” I have, she knows my feelings and desires. She likes my penis, uncaged. So, I’m accepting what I get. But I would be pleasantly surprised if she brought it up tonight or tomorrow and told me we’d be participating in some form or another.
I am currently locked, and it does appear I will still be locked tomorrow morning. So I’ve got that going for me.
“Why don’t you just talk to her about longer lockups, outside of the context of Locktober.” I have, she knows my feelings and desires. She likes my penis, uncaged. So, I’m accepting what I get. But I would be pleasantly surprised if she brought it up tonight or tomorrow and told me we’d be participating in some form or another.
I am in the same situation. "She likes my penis, uncaged. Like you I always like her request to be caged.
My birthday was last week. I got my present. She’s already said that was it for Locktober and probably through the end of the year. Nothing special planned for Locktober, AFAIK.
I think Locktober is a fantastic opportunity for less experienced or less... serious? couples to push some boundaries and feel supported and encouraged. A Keyholder who's never kept her guy locked for more than a couple of weeks won't know if she likes making him go a month until she's tried it, and Locktober is a challenge that encourages her to find out. Plus I think it helps some of the less confident feel okay - "Oh, I guess it's a thing, and lots of people are doing it. Maybe it isn't that weird...."