Dealing with Horniness

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CanuckInNJ
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Dealing with Horniness

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I'm mostly on the honor system (with occasional bouts in a cage), and with the help of hypnotic audios like those of Shibby and eSuccubus I've been "master of my domain" for over a year.

The only problem is that I'm horny as hell ALL THE TIME, and it's starting to interfere with my sleep and work.

I love being so horny, but there are times when I'd like to be able to hunker down and get some work done without a sudden need to go somewhere and edge myself, or surf Tumblr for dirty femdom images.

Any strategies for suppressing the horniness temporarily? (Not masturbation, obviously!)
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ks67
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Re: Dealing with Horniness

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I also feel horny all the time. I only get an orgasm once every 2 or 3 weeks so even after I cum I feel horny again minutes later. My wife uses a vibrator on my cock and it's not the same as masturbating. By that I mean I don't think I get all emptied out. She stops the vibrator as soon as I start cumming. I don't get tempted to cheat and masturbate and don't stroke myself at all (even when looking at porn). I only want to cum when my wife uses the vibrator on my cock and let's me have release (most of the time no release). It took a long time until my wife really embraced and started enjoying this. This works because I don't cheat and stay devoted to her. I don't want this to end so I am a good boy and don't cheat.
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Being horny is the ehole point for us. I love that feeling of desperation and my wife loves that I am willing to do anything and I mean anything that she wants to do sexually. Without the cage she would never have gone on a date with me and a very passable trans girl that ended with me sucking the trans' cock together and watching my wife get fucked. Embrace it.
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Jon Descer
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Re: Dealing with Horniness

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I'm sort of unclear on the issue. Are you single and just never, ever orgasming? Kudos if you are, but realistically, is that the best way to go? If you set the fantasy aside and look at the physiology, we're not really designed to be completely celibate, and it's not for everyone. Some people can handle it, some people start to get...weird after a few weeks. And some folks find their libido just shuts down. So seriously consider if, perhaps, you actually should finish yourself off once a month or so.

Beyond that, I have a few ideas. I actually prefer wearing the cage at work because it prevents erections and also prevents my junk from rubbing in my shorts, which is intense when I'm pent up. Or go hardcore and invest in a Kali's teeth. You could also schedule your play time--say, 7-8 at night is the only time you're allowed to touch yourself or look at porn. Or let someone else schedule it; online app, even an online dom, or a community. For sleeping, I've turned old school; I take a shot or two of whiskey before I go to bed, so I sleep soundly. Not because of arousal, just in general, but it might help. Also, exercise; maybe try to work that energy out with some intense cardio.

Also...well, let's be serious, and say porn addiction, and sex addiction, is a thing. I'm not trying to jump to conclusions, because I think the problem is overblown sometimes, but if you're missing work or even risking your job to look at porn, that's not healthy. That's like going to the bathroom to drink gin at 10AM. You should not be struggling to focus on something other than your genitals at all times. I don't care what an online hypno dom says you're capable of, if you are so horny it's starting to negatively effect your life, get the sock. It's not worth it. Don't let a fantasy ruin reality.
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I don't know what your internal rules are, but when I was experimenting with self-locking (as I assume you are, my apologies if that makes me an ass!) I did not consider prostate play to be interfering with chastity, so having a nice long session attempting to get a prostate orgasm (haven't succeeded yet) always helped that let's say high level horniness that interfered with my ability to focus at times.

Also, I totally second @Jon Descer in wearing the chastity cage at work. I mean I wear it all the time now, but I really do think it helps in those environments.
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