Living the real life under lock and key
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fuzzydunlop wrote: ↑
Mon Feb 16, 2015 3:15 pm
Just curious. For me personally I came to the realization that I was a sex addict. Or more precisely addiction to masturbation. I just couldn't stop. In order to break the compulsive behaviour I got myself a chastity belt. It hasn't actually helped. But now I like wearing chastity belts
And that's my story.
What are the signs of MB addiction? There are times I do it every day, but never felt like an addict. In college, I realized it was super intense if I waited a week, and that's when I first became interested.
The mechanism for all addictions are fundamentally the same. You're uncomfortable just sitting with the thoughts in your head. You can't really deal with all the emotional shit that comes up, so you use something to distract yourself. Get your mind off it. It doesn't really work. And the more you suppress the behaviour the more the thoughts crowd in and the harder you need to struggle to keep the thoughts away. You get locked into this behavioural loop.
Two people can engage in the same behaviour and for one its healthy fun, and the other its addiction. Only you can truly know whether it is. Usually the only way to know if you're addicted to something is to take a three months break and see what happens in your head. Typically the addict will switch to a new addictive behaviour. Its extremely common that recovered drug and alcohol addicts develop a sex addiction. That wasn't the case for me. But I learned this from my time in Sex Addicts Anonymous. I was only active there when I tried to break the habit.
Now I'm recovered. But its super easy for me to fall into old habits. So no masturbation or cumming for me. Ever. Life is much more pleasant now.
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I honestly don't know what happened. I remember seeing chastity on Californication, many years ago, and thinking it was mostly a joke, but really only suitable for the hard core S&M crowd.
Then last summer I found myself reading about it and ordering one for myself, but I honestly don't remember what made me even consider it.
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I’ve masturbated with a lot of edging since I was a teen. I always enjoyed being horny and having an erection, fantasizing about a “permanent erection”, as unfeasible as that is. And, I thrive as the submissive partner in a relationship. I’ve tried fully egalitarian and I’m not happy in it. A relationship with a slight “slant” fits me better.
So I suggested orgasm denial to my husband. We both had to grow into it - he had to overcome a feeling of guilt, I had to retrain myself to be grateful for denial - and now it’s a core part of how we have sex together. Since we don’t use a device, I get a lot of genital pleasure - just fewer orgasms. The feeling of extreme arousal after sex, when he brought me close repeatedly and kept me on the edge, is delicious. I haven’t given anything up, I’ve exchanged one form of pleasure - orgasm - for another form of pleasure - lasting arousal.
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Our marriage of 44+ years was deteriorating. As Kitten says we were more of room mates and hadn't slept in the same bed for a long time. That was partially due to the situation in the house and partially due to relationship problems. regardless of the reasons, we were close to throwing it all away.
I was spending several hours a day watching porn and masturbating almost daily. I approached Kitten with the idea of chastity to stop my addiction. Since then we have become close again and our relationship is now mostly Female Led! Although not really a Dom yet she is starting to become more dominate with me and I couldn't be happier.
Kitten's Boy Toy
Happy to be Kitten's property!