How do I get my wife to let me wear her panties

[Georgemaser]

My wife ( who is a wonderful vanilla women) and I have been into this chastity thing for the past year. She has come farther with this then I thought she would and seems to be truly enjoying it . I recently spilled the beans about me taking and wearing her panties well on business trips. She felt that that was okay but she has no desire to see me in women's lingerie. Is there any way to change her mind? Like I said, I have come a long way and for her to enjoy the control she has over me with chastity is great but I just wanted to continue to evolve as her chastity submissive.

[Michele]

I'm all about communication... I write about it constantly. I think it's important that you talk to get about it and maybe you can come up with a way to compromise. If she doesn't want to actually see you in them, maybe you could wear them under your clothes once in a while or some other arrangement. Then she wouldn't have to actively be part of it but your fantasy is fulfilled.

Good luck to you!

[sirmebane]

You have taken the first step by admitting your interest which is great. Fully agree with communicating. It is a rare woman who enjoys seeing her man in lingerie. She may have worries or concerns with sharing her intimates with you that may not have been expressed yet.

Every lingerie shop on the planet is currently having their SEMI ANNUAL SALE and maybe you can encourage her to go with you and shop for panties that she would find 'less objectionable' and be okay with you wearing.

I haven't brought it up here before but I have over 100 pair of satin panties that are mine and I wear a pair nearly every single day. My wife is tolerant but not excited by the idea and prefers not to see me wear them so I honor that but she does the laundry and has seen me dressing so there is no mystery here. She understands the power of that particular fetish for me and hasn't made any serious objection to it.

Having said all that, I have never successfully gotten her to go shopping with me and she stumbled upon my stash before I let her in on my particular interest. I freaked her out more than a little with that revelation. Most woman assume you want to be in the Kaitlyn Jenner club if you want to wear panties, some do but most just get an extra dose of sexual excitement.

Totally agree with talking to her, go slow and beware that there may be a voice inside her head filling her with worry about this particular interest. Listen to her objections and make her concerns your concerns.

[Michele]

One way you could bring it up to her is this...

"Honey, I had this thought of how hot it would be if you were telling me how horny you were and that your panties were all wet and then later you made me wear your wet panties with all your juices in them... Dunno why that really got me going, but it did!"

Then it's not so much about cross-dressing which could be a worry for her (I suggest communicating and finding out her concerns) but more about the control and making you do something naughty and "dirty" to show get control of making you do something she wants, no matter what it is.

Just a thought... Good luck.