Sub?

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You are a guy, you like to be locked in a chastity device, and you consider yourself...

Submissive
14
64%
Not submissive
1
5%
Um...something else
7
32%
 
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thumper
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Re: Sub?

Post by thumper » Wed Oct 20, 2010 7:37 am

Maybe I'm trying to get to what motivates one to be "into" all this chastity stuff. I don't know. Obviously, this is just one facet of any of us, but is it significant enough to identify yourself that way?
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Re: Sub?

Post by Dev » Wed Oct 20, 2010 7:42 am

My husband likes the fantasy of being submissive but when push comes to shove, he can't really do it. A few weeks ago he told me he'd be truly submissive for 7 days --- the week leading up to his scheduled release on October 9th. He said he'd do this for me to thank me for getting the Jailbird. His definition was that anything I asked, he'd do, no matter what it was. So we played around with that (I sent him a long list of instructions that I wanted him to follow). It lasted for about 18 hours before we both felt it was a little bit stupid and boring. LOL.

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Re: Sub?

Post by thumper » Wed Oct 20, 2010 7:52 am

Dev wrote:So we played around with that (I sent him a long list of instructions that I wanted him to follow). It lasted for about 18 hours before we both felt it was a little bit stupid and boring. LOL.
It's so much more than that. It's not what you do, it's how you feel in your chest. At least for me.
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Re: Sub?

Post by mikecb » Wed Oct 20, 2010 8:46 am

For me, "Submissive" is a loaded word. I'm masochistic (into pain play, to be specific), and I'm into doing things that are mutually satisfying. However, I'm also stubborn and disinclined to do things I don't want to do. For me, the definition of "Submissive" would be that I would be willing to do things that I don't really want to do, because my partner wants me to do them. I would take my satisfaction not from doing a thing, but because by my doing it, my partner gets satisfaction. That holds very little interest to me. That's why I don't classify myself as submissive.

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Re: Sub?

Post by likes2blocked » Wed Oct 20, 2010 9:36 am

I have zero interest in doing mundane stuff as an expression of submission. it wouldn't last long for me, either. Sexually, then I'll do a fair number of things - tied up, spanked, yum.
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Re: Sub?

Post by Dev » Wed Oct 20, 2010 10:17 am

thumper wrote: It's so much more than that. It's not what you do, it's how you feel in your chest. At least for me.
That's why I say I think it's more of a fantasy for him---which he wants to stay in the realm of fantasy. Not everything has to come true. I really don't know if I could cope with it if Hugh Jackman showed up and wanted to have sex with me. ;)
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Re: Sub?

Post by Dev » Wed Oct 20, 2010 10:19 am

likes2blocked wrote:I have zero interest in doing mundane stuff as an expression of submission. it wouldn't last long for me, either. Sexually, then I'll do a fair number of things - tied up, spanked, yum.
Hooked and locked with a chain connected to the end of the JB to the eyebolt on the kitchen ceiling---and expected to cook dinner whilst in this configuration. This was suggested to me last night. ;)

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Re: Sub?

Post by jnuts » Wed Oct 20, 2010 10:27 am

Dev wrote:Not everything has to come true. I really don't know if I could cope with it if Hugh Jackman showed up and wanted to have sex with me. ;)
Make sure you watch the claws.
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Re: Sub?

Post by Belle » Wed Oct 20, 2010 12:08 pm

jnuts wrote:
Dev wrote:Not everything has to come true. I really don't know if I could cope with it if Hugh Jackman showed up and wanted to have sex with me. ;)
Make sure you watch the claws.
The claws are the last thing I would be looking at.
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Re: Sub?

Post by Atone » Wed Oct 20, 2010 12:38 pm

likes2blocked wrote:I have zero interest in doing mundane stuff as an expression of submission. it wouldn't last long for me, either.
I can do the mundane stuff all day long if I am doing it because my wife is asserting her control and her desires. I just love it.

I am also a bit of a masochist, or at least I love pain play in the bedroom.

To be honest, I don't think I have met a kink I didn't like.

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