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Hi there, I'm not yet sure if I'm in the right place or not. By the way I'm David 34 Years old and chaste... but this is juste my choice, so I'm not even sure if I'm welcome here.

By the way, nice to meet you!

Daves wrote: ↑Thu Sep 30, 2021 7:17 pm Hi there, I'm not yet sure if I'm in the right place or not. By the way I'm David 34 Years old and chaste... but this is juste my choice, so I'm not even sure if I'm welcome here.

By the way, nice to meet you!

You may not be in the majority at there forums, but you do have a lot of company here, including me. So. . . WELCOME!

Hello world, cdkas01 here, 40 y, it's 5 days locked since my last release, and i am new here, i have many devices

I am a single male and will be turning 50 this year. I wasn't having much luck in the dating world since my early 30's and then became more interested in porn than trying to bother with finding a real partner. Now I've been into self locking in cages for the past 10 years or so. For me it makes watching porn more enjoyable. It would be nice to find a woman to share my interests with but have had no luck with that. So I just do me for now.
My longest lock up was 37 days and my goal is 6 weeks.

Hey everyone!

New here

My CB6000S arrived today after trying out a cheaper one from Alibaba a few weeks ago.

I have ADHD and want to try chasity to increase my concentration, and avoid "distractions" while working from home

jaly wrote: ↑Wed Oct 06, 2021 1:37 pm New here

My CB6000S arrived today after trying out a cheaper one from Alibaba a few weeks ago.

I have ADHD and want to try chasity to increase my concentration, and avoid "distractions" while working from home

You may find yourself more distracted than before , Hope you don't have access to keys .

Just saying Hi. Yes I am real. I play alone because my wife gets freaked out when I suggest anything "perverted" until it becomes her idea and she is ready to play.

mgablea wrote: ↑Thu Oct 07, 2021 9:24 am Just saying Hi. Yes I am real. I play alone because my wife gets freaked out when I suggest anything "perverted" until it becomes her idea and she is ready to play.

Welcome to the forum.

Yes, that seems to be a peculiarity of a lot of people, they don't want anything to change unless it's *their* idea, and they will firmly resist any such change that someone tries to 'force' on them. They have to chew on it for a while, swallow it and digest it until it becomes a part of them...

Hi everyone

I am probably around 15 years into my journey, but have never experienced chastity or any serious OC in a relationship. I say 15 years because was around 15 years ago when I found myself returning time and time again to the world of orgasm denial/control, and what better manifestation of this than chastity. But it’s still only fantasy.

Fast forward 15 years…

I am 7+ years in a loving marriage with 2 young kids and we have a very vanilla sex life, 5-6 times a month, always PIV with some variety of positions but during I always fantasise about either denial or being made to cum on command. My wife has a reasonable libido but it is very on/off as opposed to ever-present. She often initiates and our sessions last 15-30mins but they often come from nowhere and merely punctuate the realities of married life which invariably default to the kids, work, life admin etc. Flirtation, teasing, non-penetrative and spontaneous activity is not a feature of our relationship.

When we are not having sex I frequently contemplate the chastity lifestyle and recently managed to kick a masturbation habit (3-4 times a month) primarily through the purchase of a range of knock-off devices which I would wear during her period (when we have no contact). The effect of this self-locking was to greatly improve my performance and readiness during sex.

We had a month recently where I explained my desire to have limited numbers of orgasms (but no less sex). This was also a month when I confessed that I had had a masturbation habit which started when she was pregnant with child number one. She was seemingly hurt that I had done this as I had previously denied masturbating and I had also previously explained occasional performance issues as being due to stress or diminishing libido with age, whereas in fact it was the diversion of my sexual energy from masturbation which was responsible.

Anyway, despite her apparent hurt, she engaged in some form of teasing in response to my explanation of my penchant for t&d. The main manifestation of this was while she was watching some show on Amazon (which happened to touch on a lot of sexual topics) she allowed me to spoon up to her. After some time she would start slowly grinding into my crotch and often a hand would come and gently start rubbing. Initially I took that as a cue to go down on her and she seemed ok not to reciprocate but after a couple of times she said she wasn’t comfortable if I didn’t cum as well. There was one occasion where I had gone down on her without her wanting it and despite an orgasm she would have preferred to keep watching her show. There were also times where she worked me up and I didn’t initiate anything and then she got upset that I didn’t take this as an invitation to sex - I was just selfishly enjoying the stimulation. So then after a number of semi-arguments she decided she didn’t want anything to do with my fetishes, except agreeing to let me know when she wanted me to cum (which she doesn’t do anymore) and so now everything is back to normal.

I am now in a phase where I am just desperate to be able bring the topic up again, as try as I may it just won’t go away and I seriously don’t think I can be truly fulfilled in this aspect of my life without some form of chastity/denial play/lifestyle.

I have a feeling deep down that she will ultimately embrace some aspects of this but I just fear the conflicts that may arise in the journey.

So for me it is going to be a long journey and I feel I need to pick the right moment to start to bring this up subtly and slowly - baby steps - for this to have a chance.

I recently bought a vibrator which is still hidden away as I have no idea if she will be willing to experiment even with the most ubiquitous sex toy - I figure if she can contemplate a vibrator we can start to explore more wild things.

I have so much respect for the guys who were in similar positions to where I am now and took a risk with their partners and are now “living the dream”. I also envy you!

Anyway that’s enough for now. If anyone has any tips, they would be most welcome!