"Hello world" thread
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Welcome Alescan. Checking your profile, I see you are from Italy. Cool. Nice to have an Italian point of few on male chastity
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vanillaish
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Hi everyone!
I am an emigre from the other chastity forum that shall not be mentioned! Too many fantasists and people typing with one hand. I am on this forum for adult conversation as some considered advice when its needed as we try to move to a 24/7/365 lock up (with releases of course!). I am based in the UK, married for 20+ years and we have incorporated male chastity play into our marriage, on and off, for the last 7 years.
I am an emigre from the other chastity forum that shall not be mentioned! Too many fantasists and people typing with one hand. I am on this forum for adult conversation as some considered advice when its needed as we try to move to a 24/7/365 lock up (with releases of course!). I am based in the UK, married for 20+ years and we have incorporated male chastity play into our marriage, on and off, for the last 7 years.
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TheNookieMonster
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Hello,
Loooooong time lurker, first time poster. I am a mid fifties guy recently married to a lovely older woman after a seventeen year courtship. I have been interested in chastity, tease and denial, and wife led marriages for over a decade. My wife and I played off and on but we have recently decided to take things more seriously. I think we have turned the corner from her indulging my desires to her seeing the real enhancement chastity and WLM can be to our relationship. It feels like we are partners in chastity rather than me trying to drive the dynamic alone. Its been new, and fun, and intimate in all the right ways. We are working to make that continue.
NM
Loooooong time lurker, first time poster. I am a mid fifties guy recently married to a lovely older woman after a seventeen year courtship. I have been interested in chastity, tease and denial, and wife led marriages for over a decade. My wife and I played off and on but we have recently decided to take things more seriously. I think we have turned the corner from her indulging my desires to her seeing the real enhancement chastity and WLM can be to our relationship. It feels like we are partners in chastity rather than me trying to drive the dynamic alone. Its been new, and fun, and intimate in all the right ways. We are working to make that continue.
NM
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The Nookie Monster
As of October 2023 in a new Watchful Mistress from Mature Metal. Wife keeps me locked nearly 100% of the time.
As of October 2023 in a new Watchful Mistress from Mature Metal. Wife keeps me locked nearly 100% of the time.
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@TheNookieMonster
Welcome! Sounds like things are going great! Hope you find the support and encouragement you're looking for here.
Nice to hear from you.
Welcome! Sounds like things are going great! Hope you find the support and encouragement you're looking for here.
Nice to hear from you.
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Wife, Girlfriend & KeyHolder
My boys are Wearing: Jail Bird (cm) Steelheart (a)
Owned Devices: MM Jail Bird (x2), MM Spyder, MM Locking Double Cockring, Steelworxx Revenge
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My boys are Wearing: Jail Bird (cm) Steelheart (a)
Owned Devices: MM Jail Bird (x2), MM Spyder, MM Locking Double Cockring, Steelworxx Revenge
Click here for Our blog & Podcast
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My wonderful wife and I have been married for a little over 15 years. I’ve always been turned on by femdom concepts, though none ever made their way into our marriage. Our chastity journey began several years ago when after going through a very rough patch caused by my porn use I bought a cage on amazon and presented it to her one day like “here, this will help me be faithful to you!” Typical immature rookie move. We did use it off and on for maybe a couple of months, but eventually it ended up in a dark corner of our closet collecting duct until eventually she asked me to get rid of it. She hated it because it reminded her of my unfaithfulness with the porn.
Fast forward several years, a conversation with my wife on her healing journey with regards to her sexuality, and she says something to the effect of how it’s hard for her to really know who she is as a sexual person when she spends so much time thinking about my sexual needs. The end result of that conversation is that I say let’s spend an extended period of time only doing sex when she wats it, how she wants it etc. It’s really hard for her to swallow, she worries I’ll resent her if I’m not having my needs met, and over the next several weeks after a lot of reassurance, and her seeing me be happy in spite of not having sex, she begins to come out of her shell.
The language we (I) start using sound very much like “whatever you want to do…it’s not what I want, it’s what you want…don’t ask me if I want you to touch ___ or kiss ____ or anything, does it bring YOU pleasure? If so then do that thing, if not then don’t. I want you to get out from underneath my sexual shadow and discover who you are.” I make a game out of and, start called her “your highness” and other similar names. Somehow it goes to her head and she picks up the reigns and really runs with it. She discovers that she likes being in charge and next thing you know she is having me do her for a few minutes and then pulling out when she’s had enough and telling me to lick her…then she says goodnight! (Granted, it took a lot of reassuring from me that this was ok, and in fact found it sexy as hell! First few times she did this, the next day she’d keep asking if I was ok.)
At one point in this this period of discovery, she brings up that she has been thinking about chastity devices and part of her things it would be sexy to get another one, but part of her still feels like it would stir up a little of the trauma. I do not push the issue at all, and just remind her that she’s in charge, if she wants one we can talk about it.
As hot as this period was, it didn’t last too long. It was encouraging, and validation that the healing journey she has been on for a while has had much progress. Life, young kids, etc. takes its toll, and our sex life, while very good, has mostly resumed what it was before. With the exception of that now, on occasion, she does feel at liberty to play the “I’m in charge” card and after her having an orgasm, she’ll say something like “I think it will just be about me tonight” but then because of how infrequently moments like that happen nowadays, I can feel her observing me to make sure I’m ok with that. If I were to press, she’s probably give in, but I never do, I reassure her that it’s hot when she plays that card.
That’s where we’re at, I think it would be hot to get back into chastity play, but in a healthy way this time. If we do, I’ll definitely keep you all updated!
Fast forward several years, a conversation with my wife on her healing journey with regards to her sexuality, and she says something to the effect of how it’s hard for her to really know who she is as a sexual person when she spends so much time thinking about my sexual needs. The end result of that conversation is that I say let’s spend an extended period of time only doing sex when she wats it, how she wants it etc. It’s really hard for her to swallow, she worries I’ll resent her if I’m not having my needs met, and over the next several weeks after a lot of reassurance, and her seeing me be happy in spite of not having sex, she begins to come out of her shell.
The language we (I) start using sound very much like “whatever you want to do…it’s not what I want, it’s what you want…don’t ask me if I want you to touch ___ or kiss ____ or anything, does it bring YOU pleasure? If so then do that thing, if not then don’t. I want you to get out from underneath my sexual shadow and discover who you are.” I make a game out of and, start called her “your highness” and other similar names. Somehow it goes to her head and she picks up the reigns and really runs with it. She discovers that she likes being in charge and next thing you know she is having me do her for a few minutes and then pulling out when she’s had enough and telling me to lick her…then she says goodnight! (Granted, it took a lot of reassuring from me that this was ok, and in fact found it sexy as hell! First few times she did this, the next day she’d keep asking if I was ok.)
At one point in this this period of discovery, she brings up that she has been thinking about chastity devices and part of her things it would be sexy to get another one, but part of her still feels like it would stir up a little of the trauma. I do not push the issue at all, and just remind her that she’s in charge, if she wants one we can talk about it.
As hot as this period was, it didn’t last too long. It was encouraging, and validation that the healing journey she has been on for a while has had much progress. Life, young kids, etc. takes its toll, and our sex life, while very good, has mostly resumed what it was before. With the exception of that now, on occasion, she does feel at liberty to play the “I’m in charge” card and after her having an orgasm, she’ll say something like “I think it will just be about me tonight” but then because of how infrequently moments like that happen nowadays, I can feel her observing me to make sure I’m ok with that. If I were to press, she’s probably give in, but I never do, I reassure her that it’s hot when she plays that card.
That’s where we’re at, I think it would be hot to get back into chastity play, but in a healthy way this time. If we do, I’ll definitely keep you all updated!
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Hi. I'm Chaz.
Just another classic story of repeatedly trying to get her to play along for what I wanted.
Serious try with age and understanding. It's all about her. It's been a journey of a couple of months of mental chastity. Finally got a new cage a week ago and I'm patiently waiting to be locked up.
Looking for to learning and sharing with you all.
Chaz
Just another classic story of repeatedly trying to get her to play along for what I wanted.
Serious try with age and understanding. It's all about her. It's been a journey of a couple of months of mental chastity. Finally got a new cage a week ago and I'm patiently waiting to be locked up.
Looking for to learning and sharing with you all.
Chaz
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Uhuru_NUru
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I'm Uhuru N’Uru
I would describe myself as a Transfeminine Submissive Sissy.
Submissive, means pure DS, I have no interest in BDSM, and my being caged is, not "Permanently" required, if I can't get hard at all.
Sissy means, I do NOT want to be a woman, and I intend to remain limp, and will eventually chemically and/or physically castrated, but keep my "BBC".
That's my Beautiful Baby Clit.
That may take as long as 5 years just to actually start my Transition, if I start the process tomorrow, when I see my GPs Surgeries, Mental Health Practitioner. the very first step down the road to dealing with that issue.
Though my requirements differ, I like to learn from those with experience, and this was the top search result for Chastity, so here I am.
I would describe myself as a Transfeminine Submissive Sissy.
Submissive, means pure DS, I have no interest in BDSM, and my being caged is, not "Permanently" required, if I can't get hard at all.
Sissy means, I do NOT want to be a woman, and I intend to remain limp, and will eventually chemically and/or physically castrated, but keep my "BBC".
That's my Beautiful Baby Clit.
That may take as long as 5 years just to actually start my Transition, if I start the process tomorrow, when I see my GPs Surgeries, Mental Health Practitioner. the very first step down the road to dealing with that issue.
Though my requirements differ, I like to learn from those with experience, and this was the top search result for Chastity, so here I am.
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Welcome Rob quince and chasade.
I hope it all works out well.
I hope it all works out well.
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TheNookieMonster
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Welcome Chaz and Rob. Those are two thoughtful posts. Age and understanding is important. Our story is similar. It has been a long and winding road but she didn't start to run with it until I relaxed and truly let her led.
Best of luck.
Best of luck.
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The Nookie Monster
As of October 2023 in a new Watchful Mistress from Mature Metal. Wife keeps me locked nearly 100% of the time.
As of October 2023 in a new Watchful Mistress from Mature Metal. Wife keeps me locked nearly 100% of the time.
Re: "Hello world" thread
Longtime lurker. Normally a dom to my submissive wife of almost 30 years. Played around with her chastity and orgasms control for years (she can come on command with no stimulation), but now playing with cock rings, locking cock rings and maybe some chastity. I appreciate all the info here.
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