"Hello world" thread

[Buttplugboi]

Yo! New to the forum as well, though I've been reading Thumper's blog for quite some time. Been playing around with chastity for around half a year, though I've only been trying to practice it on a more serious level for about two weeks.

Cheers

[Joroincharge]

New to the forum. Just researching the lifestyle and was glad to find a site not dictated by porn hubs. (Which I have never visited ). My interest is in learning how to be an excellent keyholder.

Welcome and there's plenty of info here! First thing: get a good device he can if need be wear 24/7!

[FreedomfromBondage]

Hello from South Carolina.

I've married for nearly 25 years. We have played with chastity since the early 2000's with a variety of CB-x devices. I have an amazing wife who is a great lover, but I have often be unsatisfied with our sex life and have spent a lot of time in porn and seeking sex outside our marriage. In 2014, I recognized that I am a sex addict (clinically speaking). We are now using chastity as a way for her to have total control of our sex life. It is partially voluntary while I break-in and find a device that works. I have totally relinquished my control in that area. Chastity is a way for her to enforce that lack of control.

[Shepherdsflock]

Hi there, my husband and I first tried chastity a couple years ago. Like most wives I had no idea what it was or understood what he wanted from me out of it. We've had our ups and downs with it overall more positive then anything else.

I've never been much of a forum person but he finally convinced me to come on here and do a bit of reading from other couples. We haven't been using his cage the past couple of months but I think it might be time to get him back in it. Overall I'm looking for some more normal advice from regular people as opposed to a more BDSM crowd. We are pretty vanilla for the most part but certainly enjoy each other and want to to continue to grow.

Pastrychef, don't be afraid to ask for advice. There are plenty of us on here that are extremely "vanilla" with the exception of chastity. I think my own story is a good example (you can read through it in the Journey section if you like, nothing graphic or obscene). My wife and I have 4 young children, a very busy life, and plenty of everyday pressures that everyone else has. Add on top of that the sexual problems my wife has experienced and chastity has been a big blessing to us.

As many others on here will no doubt state, chastity can be anything you as a couple want it to be. We're not into edging or any BDSM stuff. For us, chastity gave us a new lease on our sex life that has helped us to have a happy and active sex life where we once had a dismal and infrequent sex life.

[Shepherdsflock]

New to the forum. Just researching the lifestyle and was glad to find a site not dictated by porn hubs. (Which I have never visited ). My interest is in learning how to be an excellent keyholder.

Welcome to the forum. The first advice I would give is understand what you as the woman in the relationship want from this. Your husband, if he is anything like most of us, has a fantasy of fulfilling your sexual desires. However, his idea of what your sexual desires are what they actually are may be miles apart. You will need to be assertive in teaching him and training him to be attentive to your needs and desires rather than his own fantasy.

As an example, before we started down the road of chastity, my wife was not assertive about her desires at all. She was very passive and just basically left it up to me to do whatever I wanted with her, even if she never got what she wanted. After several months of chastity with her just kind of losing interest in me, I finally put some pressure on her to open up about what she would really like from me.

To summarize it briefly, she wanted a lot more focus on cuddling, touching, and just holding each other. She also wanted my periods of lock up to be much longer than I ever expected. Not because she is cruel or anything, but from her perspective intercourse just seems like something to enjoy on special occasions. For her, intercourse is like a really rich dessert; it's not something to be indulged in at every meal. It's a special treat to be enjoyed on special occasions.

This was a tough adjustment for me. Over time I went from masturbating everyday to eventually going months between orgasms. But because of the commitment we made for me to be focused on her needs, we developed a very deep intimacy along the way. There were many nights when I was on the verge of tears just wanting to have an erection, not even an orgasm. She would hold me and kiss me and reassure me all the way through those times until I got through it.

By both of us committing to learning her needs and focusing on meeting them, we developed the kind of relationship I always dreamed of but never thought we would have. And you, as the keyholder, determine how much both of you will get from this. If you are serious about really understanding what you want, and committed to sometimes being tough with him to get there together, you both can have an amazing experience. Just take my advice, don't let this be all about his fantasy or you'll soon get tired of it and never get to the good stuff.

[Minas_Bitch]

Hello
Long story short been on a chastity journey for about 11 years. Starting with a leather device then the CB series, then a Belt, more CB series, silicone, Then steelworxx twice then. I gave up and made the worlds first 3D printed titanium chastity device. We have also been doing some banding recently. Hit me up if you want to know more

MB

[Shepherdsflock]

Hello
Long story short been on a chastity journey for about 11 years. Starting with a leather device then the CB series, then a Belt, more CB series, silicone, Then steelworxx twice then. I gave up and made the worlds first 3D printed titanium chastity device. We have also been doing some banding recently. Hit me up if you want to know more

MB

Just curious why you chose titanium for the material? Very expensive, and probably not much of a noticeable weight difference.

[Minas_Bitch]

Just curious why you chose titanium for the material? Very expensive, and probably not much of a noticeable weight difference.

It is about half the weight. Also once you get into the high end 3D printing the price difference between the steel and titanium is not huge. My piercings also do better with titanium vs SS. Plus you can do fun anodizing.

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[matureB]

Hello
I'm a mature husband and have always been curious about chastity devices. I think the time has come to take it a bit further and have been talking with my wife about, and she is starting to come around to the idea of me being locked as part of our sex play. I know it won't happen over night, and don't want to rush things long as I want her to be all in, so we both enjoy it. I've been lurking here for a bit reading about device choices and fit. I also enjoy the stories and experiences of the members.
Thanks for this forum
matureB

[Tom Allen]

I'm a mature husband

My wife does not believe that the words "mature" and "husband" can be used in the same context.