my new life in an FLR

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my new life in an FLR

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Greetings everyone!

23 days ago, I was pleasing my wife, and for the first time in our marriage, I sought none for myself. Later that night, I told her about my love of being denied and simple giving pleasure. I told her about some of my adventures in MC before her. 18 days ago, I pulled my old curve & cb3000 out of their hiding place, got naked, put on the cb3k, and walked into the livingroom with an unlocked lock through the pin and a key. She looked at me like I was insane, then she smiled. We chatted for a bit about various issues of her curiousity, and she took the key. I then heard the most rapturous sound I have ever known.

"Click".

And with that, our lives have changed and we have had more intimacy than I have ever known. Within 24 hours, I was told that she loved the security of having me locked up. in 48 hours, I decided to "confess" about all of the porn and masturbation. She was astounding by just how much of my energies went into pleasing myself. And very angry. I trashed all of my masturbation toys, all of my porn, all of the lingerie I had before her (even before MC, she and I loved to play dress up). I was issued some strick punishments, and told that I should expect to be in the CD for at least a month.

The relief of getting rid of all of that porn and hiding sex toys, and lingerie from previous lovers was amazing. I felt like a 2 ton boulder had been lifted off of me.

Since that night, we have restructured our marriage and our lives. I had been playing the part of the dominant (ineptly) in the relationship because I am physically stronger and louder. That got our relationship steered into ruin with lies and hiding and resentment and anger.

Since I was a boy, I always admired the strength and competence of my Mom. I would do anything to please her and make her happy. As I grew, I knew that I wanted that same feeling in a relationship. Yes, I know that sound OEdipal, but Freud makes some interesting points. Any way, through these 25 years of dating, I have always looked for women with certain traits. Since I had never surrendered fully to my need to submit (its not manly! Ha!), I wound up with a lot of women that might have appeared, for lack of a better word, "bitchy".

When I met my wife, I immediately knew she was strong willed and could take the lead. During our courtship, things were great. Then we got married, and I felt pressure to "be the man" in the relationship. Our intimacy suffered, our communication suffered, our sex life suffered. Overall, not a good job at it.

So, once I was locked up, my wife began noticing immediate changes. I was sweet like when we were dating. I was more attentive, affectionate and docile. I "let" her take the lead. After about a week. I looked at her and realized, "you've been the alpha all along. You just let me think I was." D'oh!

Thus began our new FLR. She makes the rules, I happily abide. She decides all about our lives together, and I am blissfully content that WE are going forward together. I have never in my life felt so accepted and loved.

So, now, our house getting cleaner than it ever has before. Our in home photo studio is up and running. My wife set foot in the kitchen for the first time in 14 days this past weekend to make her famous mashed taters. Of course, I peeled, boiled and drained the potatoes for her.

There is a level of balance I have never had before. I am totally in love with my wife and I owe it all to being brave enough to show her this world!

Thanks all for listening!

Grace's wicked hubby.
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Sometimes, it just makes sense - it's as straightforward as that. Good luck but dont forget that you are on a journey and there are going to be some bumps in the road, some of which you may not have been expecting...
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Society tells us that a conventional marriage is a dominate male and submissive female. I think it is a joining of two personalities that meld to make both happy and isn't preset by sex. If both sides are content, then this becomes a good marriage. In a gay marriage they always seem to work this out without pressure from their peers that they are odd.
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Thanks! It has been quite the journey. I never expected
so much intimacy and fulfillment! I have been lock 19 days, and have had more satisfying sex than in the past 30 years and I haven't spilled one drop of cum!

I am learning new things about what I thought was my "same old wife". She has been ignoring for while now. Playing on her phone, constantly on the computer or texting. Our non-work business is growing, so it made sense. Anyway, I sent her a long, heartfelt and respectful email, explaining how that made me feel. She said she had been wondering how long it would take. Apparently, the 1194 days before MC had a lot of me doing that to her. She wanted to give me 3-4 days myself to "open my eyes". I definitely won't be doing that again!

She amazes me every day! She told me about a week into this that she had been waiting for me to give over control for a while. She has never been in any kind of non-vanilla relationship before me. What really surprising is that because I have so many preconceptions, and she has none, I can't even begin to guess what will happen. Punishments are truly things I don't want! Except of course more time in the CD, hehe. Currently we are planning a ceremony for July 4th weekend. That will be 100 days. All the hints indicate that there is no chance of a release before then. And definitely no guarantee of one the, either! We are formalizing our new FLR with a contract and a ceremony, though.

I can wait!

Gwh
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Funny. The "I can wait" was originally a typo. Upon further reflection, I am in no hurry to pressure My Love for release, so I will leave it.
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