Am I a Broken Man Because of Chastity???

[ChastizedRob]

Jan 4, 2011 my wife locked me in a CB6000S and I've worn it nearly 24/7 since. I have only had 8 orgasms since then on 6 different days. Twice she has had me locked 32 days before orgasm. At first she seemed to like the idea of about once a month release for me, but I'm not sure what her current thinking is? She likes Sarah Jameson’s thinking of about a monthly release. I haven’t let my wife know that Sarah extended that to a 3-4 month orgasm nor now that she has John (Sarah's husband) on a one year lockup.

Anyhow, this weekend she made it VERY, VERY clear that I was NOT to orgasm and she had me ride her to her first orgasm. Next, she road me cowgirl to a second orgasm, then had me again in missionary ride her to her third orgasm. 7 days of chastity and a couple of glasses of chardonnay wine allow me to accomplish this without much chance of accidently orgasming. Anyhow, I really wanted to go longer but she said she was satisfied after her third orgasm and sent me to shower and relock.

After cumming( mostly masturbating) over200 times last year, I'm not sure if I'm now a broken man that has cum on only 6 different days so far this year and am happy with it !?!? I felt so happy the past two days that I pleasured my wife, happy that she is happy, happy about our 20+ year marriage, happy that she is still my princess, etc....even though I'm at day 7 and didn't cum, yet she did 3 times. She says I treat her much much better when I’m locked even though we still have some arguments it is much better for her. She is learning that I can please her orally and with penetration without allowing me to orgasm so my yearly orgasm count might be severely limited and I'm okay with that! and actually happier than I have been in my whole life! Now, just her kisses, touches or orally pleasing her gives me so much please to keep locked up longer.

Am I a broken man? A man that is crazy? or a man that is in an awesome relationship with his wife? Does it matter if I'm happy and she is very happy?

Thanks, Rob

[thumper]

Broken? Sounds like you're finally fixed.

[michaelnmelissa]

Rob,

Your thoughts sound much like my thoughts. It's amazing how MC puts your mind into a tailspin at times. I don't know how I feel about it some days or, more likely, I don't know how to put what I think and feel about it into words.

I do know that we're much happier than before...

I've only come twice this year and will likely come no more than four or five times. My last orgasm was 52 days ago. She's toyed with the idea of no more than three times a year for me. That scares me and thrills me at the same time.

I wanted to stop keeping numbers, but Melissa is turned on by them and likes to make me keep track of them and tell her what they are.

Are we broken? I don't know. Maybe so. She did tell me last night: "I control your cock. Not you."

Michael

[thumper]

What kind of broken are we talking about here? Broken like a clock that always tells the same time or broken like a horse that'll take a rider?

We are most definitely not broken in the first sense. We *may* be in the second, but I'd also say we're free from the misconception that orgasms are a necessary part of masculinity. They're not. In fact, the dirty little secret chastity reveals is that a guy's cock isn't nearly as important to the happiness and well being of his partner, relationship, and sex life as he thought. For a few, they're totally superfluous once you figure out how to work without them.

[Tom Allen]

Broken? Sounds like you're finally fixed.

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[celticqueens_sub]

You are definitley not broken, as thumpr says, maybe you are finaly fixed. I know I am. I now that my cock is not the source of my wife's sexual and relationship happiness. What is the source of her happines is my devoted behaviour caused by MC and the fact she controls my orgasm. I am definitley not less of a man, nor broken as a result. Michael makes a good point, it takes awhile to get used to it. I wrote a blog on masculinity and maleness and how MC works in that field. If you are interested read it here. http://celticqueen.co.uk/blogs/blog2.ph ... e-chastity

Male Chastity and orgasm denial is a method for men to realise that there is so much more to a relationship with a woman than his orgasmic release. I have experienced physical sensations during non ejaculatory love making with CQ that I used to ignore as I was in such a hurry to shoot my load, now I revel in those feelings, which pass all too fast when I cum.

[1mlockedup]

I don't think we are broken by any means, and I know I have a lot in common with Rob. I think we choose to improve our lives with our Wives / KH and to make our relationships work. We get to spend more time helping to improve both our own life style, and that of our Wives too. Alot more gets done around the house, and the "Honey-DO List" no longer needs posted on the fridge.
I think, I have twice the will prower now, than before we did the MC life style. Besides as my Wife and I both agreed , if it was not a fun thing, or if things got out of hand , ( pardon the pun ) we would
instantly stop.
I enjoy the control my Wife / KH has over me...and she gets a kick out of swinging the key around on her finger and teaseing me to no end. It took awhile to convince my Wife to take charge over our love life, since her culture is totally opposite, but it's been a wonderful experiment, and I would not fix something that's not broken
That's just my 2 cents...
Charlie

[likes2blocked]

I've been locked up with short breaks continuously for the last 9 months. Our sex life is off the charts better than it was in the past. Coincidence? I think not.

Though the definition of 'sex' has changed a bit, I get more sex in the typical week now than I used to in several months. If this is 'broken', I'm not sure if I could keep up with fixed.

[kpb57]

You can't be broken when you indulge in something that gives your life, your partnership, your sexuality (new) meaning.
You would be "broken" if you would not want to live that lifestyle, but let it be enforced on you.

[Dev]

Though the definition of 'sex' has changed a bit, I get more sex in the typical week now than I used to in several months. If this is 'broken', I'm not sure if I could keep up with fixed.

Hahahaha....quoted for truth!

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